Fantasy time is over

[Wezil]

Originally posted by Grandpa Troll


WTF is pooty?

American pop culture. Sorry I confused you.

Rod Tidwell: I feel for you, man. But a real man wouldn't shoplift the pootie from a single mom.
Jerry Maguire: I didn't shoplift the pootie.
[Rod gives him a long Look]
Jerry Maguire: All right. I shoplifted the pootie.

[Ninot]

You had me at hello

[Guynemer]

Originally posted by Ninot
She whips up a mean Osso Buco

Is that what they're calling it nowadays. [/obligatory]


Or, if you prefer,


I'd like to osso her buco. Double entendre five. [/The Todd]

[Ninot]

[Pekka]

I read only your first post but what are you thinking my dear Ninot? Why are you letting your parents do the decision for you? You are either making it an excuse so you sort of push the responsibility of ending it to your parents, use the chain of command so to speak, or you really think it matters a lot, what they say about this EVEN if you live with them.

Dude, she's like... she's 14 years older than you so I gather you're young and in your 20s, she' sin the late 30s or so. She's a grown woman, you can't treat her like that. Dude, imagine getting a call from the young partner saying their parents thought it was a bad idea. You know?

What do YOU think? THat's the only thing that matters. If you like her a lot and she likes you, so what if there's an age difference, so what? It's really very simple. You can't rationalize it too much, that's like asking how much money does she have and what kind of a family history, you know, for the genes. Mental illness in the family? Heart condition?

Man, you have to really think if you like her or not. If you do, then go for it. Your parents won't disown you for it. You say you love her and you know it doesn't make sense age wise but regardless this is who you love so that's it. They will understand, unless they're totally idiots.

And think about it, she sounds like a cool girl. She likes you, I repeat, she's an experienced woman so unless you're his toyboy, then she really does like you. She knows what she wants at this point. You think she'd waste time with you unless it was only physical or a play thing? She doesn't necessarily look for a husband but I'm just saying she must really like you. And she came to see your parents, man, that must have been akward, but the point is she came. Reverse the situation, you're 14 years older than your girlfriend and she lives at home and you go there. It's not that easy! So you really have to like her to go there, think that it's not just for sex or something like that.

Sometimes you might want to rationalize things but age? ****ing forget it, just go for it. 14 years isn't THAT bad. She'll take good care of you, she's a real woman and not one of them post-teenager skanks.

[chequita guevara]

WTF do you know about raising kids? WTF did she know when she had them? WTF did your parents know when they had you. If you're right together, you're right.

[Pekka]

Now I read this thread through.

Good thing you are still in contact with her. But dude, negotiating with your parents? seriously, wtf? You're an adult, consider this is if you had your own place (which you should be looking into soon), would you ask what they think? I mean you might, but still, why should it matter that much? You like her, she likes you, end of discussion.

It's not like you're dating a serial killer or anything. You think it's easy, there's all kinds of people who have way more difficult situation with the people they like, all kinds of gay people that come out of the closet or don't come out, there's even bigger age differences. DUde, there's even people who wouldn't let you date a girl of another race or religion. But what does it matter to you, why would you let others say to you how you should feel and if you feel this way for her, why shoudl you let others get in the way? I truly don't get it.

If you like her, forget about your parents, if you like her, you should call her and say that you really like her and that you apologize for the whole parents talk, it's just your inner self making these arguments because you're really just a bit insecure because of the age difference but deep down you know it doesn't matter because you really have feelings for this person she is. She's not some age number. She's the one you have feelings for. She just happens to be older than you. It's almost trivial. Not only that, but when you come into realization with this whole age thing and that it's not a big deal, you'll like her even more. When you let go of that chain inside of you, you'll reaaally like her, you'll feel free to like her more and that's exactly what's going to happen. Can you imagine that? The way you feel now is nice I'm sure, but it'll be better the second you let go of that meaningless age factor. Just confess to yourself that it has bothered you but it won't bother you anymore because you have just allowed yourself to get it on.

I think you're letting your parents into your head because you're also a bit uncertain about the age difference. So forget about that, think about it yourself, do you like her, if the answer is yes, then she deserves to be treated like a woman and the person who is on the recieving end of your feelings, so let it come out and stop ****ing around.

The fact that she has kids... well then it's a question of how much do you really like her? It's not such a huge deal, you're not their father and won't be for a long time to come and maybe never will be. They're just kids. You see them every day. They're not dangerous. IF she still wants to be with you, consider this... she's the one that has kids. She's their mother and she still woudl like to see you. What do you need more to be convinced that she is into you? She might consider you more like a boyfriend anyway, but then you don't have to think much about the kids anyway, except not be an *******. If it goes further than that, well, obviously things will work out. But I'd say, if she has kids, she most likely has real feelings for you so if you don't have feelings for her, then maybe you should talk about it. If you see her just pretty much for sex, then it's not that cool and you should let her know. But if you have feeligns for her aside that... there's no problems. And who knows, you might actually end up liking them kids too. That's a bonus right there.

And consider this, you know her and she's had kids, she's experienced and basically you know what she is like at this point. You can cut all the post-teenage skank BS away that others have to deal with. You pretty much know what she'll be like for a logn time too, she won't change too much. She has dealt with many issues already and she is still the person she is, didn't become into one of them psycho *****es we all unfortunately know. It's like a battle tested soldier who came out alive, so you know they're good for it. The question really is, why does she accept you, you haven't even finished the boot camp! So I say, if you know what you feel is right, then that's what you should follow. And if you feel right and follow it up, you shall be blessed by the supercitizen to do so, and that overrides like... 14 parent votes.

edit: Oh and she looks pretty damn hot too! I approve her legs. And if you're trying to arrange something with your parents so you can hit it, don't be mad if I'll just go ahead and disregard my parents and help myself to it....

[LordShiva]

Ninot

[ZEE]

i posted in this thread? what the hell did i say? i am too drunk to look.

recap please?

[Joseph]

My 2 cents. I know a couple that are about 15 years apart. He is the junior. They have been married at lease 30 years by now. I have not seen them in a year or 2, but they are still together.

So it can work.

[Ninot]

Shiva: Yeah, we broke up. This time was on our own terms, with no pressure at all from anybody else.

Our situation changed a bit over the past couple of weeks, and we mutually decided that we both needed time away from each other.

[FrostyBoy]

The girl behind looks alright.

If her having kids and her age doesn't bother you, then what is the problem really? Where is the husband/father? You may run into trouble with that issue. (yknow, father doesn't want some 23 year old bringing up his kids sort of thing). Depends on the situation.

Seems she is able to support herself and her kids quite well. If she is serious with you, she is probably thinking of long-term benefits being with you; maybe you should keep an eye out, or go a bit slower with this.