Lady problems

[DaShi]

You'll find love someday b etor. Try asking out that cute agent in narcotics.

[b etor]

i have found love.
i'm just seeing how many potential spouses i can get.

[LordShiva]

The plural of spouse is spice.

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[Kuciwalker]

Originally posted by Cort Haus
Pekka - that's a tough one. Long distance love only has a chance if you both are really deeply in love and can both trust each other and behave worthily of that trust. Even then, there has to be a point on the horizon to aim when you'll be together - for good.

Don't do it. You'll just be wasting your own time.

[LordShiva]

Distance love only works if the distance involved is less than 9 inches (plus or minus a few, depending).

[Cartimandua]

It's a very difficult thing to find a woman who would be really okay with a constant long distance relationship. I was in one for about a year and it almost killed me. I threw myself into my work and schooling, staying insanely busy for 16 hours a day so that I wouldn't have time to pine over it, but still found myself emotionally overtaxed by not having that physical connection with him. It's also too much to ask a person to move all the time. That is a very unstable environment and most women grow very tired of instability at a certain point in their life. For me it was when I turned 23, for others it may be later but still it catches up with them. I think that you might just have to smooth sail this one until you have a life that is more stable or until you find a girl that is desperately attached to you (don't count on that cause girls who are really intelligent are usually also independent).

Good luck though! It never hurts to keep your hopes up and your eyes open.

[Winston]

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Lady problems

Try to figure out which time of the month they occur, and just steer around it.

[Nugog]

Ok - so your moving around alot.

She means more to you than a cheap shag.

You want to connect on an emotional level.

*Nugog takes a deep breath - expecting scorn*

Tell her.

Be upfront and honest.

Explain why ever it is you need to move all the time.

Tell her what she means to you.

Expect friendship while you are moving around - do not expect her to say "Sweet - I'll be celibate while you do what you need to do.".

I say this as my wife and I were "friends" for 5 years - while we both did the things we needed (wanted) to do.

I know it sounds corny - but honest communication is the best way to go - at least you know where you stand.

Good luck!

[Lorizael]

Originally posted by Kuciwalker
Don't do it. You'll just be wasting your own time.

Long distance relationships can work. I had one that lasted over 2 years and only fell apart because I'm deranged. All the long distance did was exacerbate the inherent problems within the relationship.

[Jon Miller]

Long distance makes things tougher.

JM

[Pekka]

Nugog, good stuff, except there is no 'her'

Long distance, that's acceptable. I just want someone I can connect with, someone solid, someone whose life is interesting to me because I like the person, someone who is interested in my life, someone who will form one collective life with me. It's not like I don't like being alone, I mean I enjoy the private lifestyle I have. But it still starts to get bit old. There's lots of things we could do and I just can't do them alone or they'll be boring to do alone.

[Japher]

I thought you wanted a mail order from Russia

[Nugog]

Originally posted by Pekka
Nugog, good stuff, except there is no 'her'

Ok - replace "her" with "object of desire".

[Arrian]

if you're going to understand me fully...you have to be open to partial insanity...

I'm one of those who is highly skeptical of long-distance relationships. From what I've seen (never tried one myself), they don't tend to work very well. Then again, most relationships don't work out. But the distance has to make things more difficult.

-Arrian

[Pekka]

yeah well, it's the only option as of now. Even I don't know where I'll be in a year or so, except most likely in China, US or some other weirdo place that's far away.

How long? I don't know. 6 months, 12 months, 18 months... who knows. The only thing I know is that my goal is still 5 years and I'll be in SoCal, in new place, near or at the beach, being a new value home owner. I figure I could meet someone there but it's such a long time to wait plus it's not like you're supposed to plan it like this anyway. I can't wait another 5 years.

These things come and go. It's just one rough patch. Maybe lasts few more days and I'll be over it. These things hits me every couple of months. Just got to ride this one out. And it kind of sucks too, since I'm a good catch. I can be introduced to family and parents, I'm loyal, in fact I think I'm one of the most loyal guys you can find since it's my core value. So I'm not the type that cheats. I'm a safe guy and I'm definitely not one of those wife beating types either. I'm professional and on my way to a great career so economy won't be an issue at all, I can provide a good living. I'm not the type who watches TV all night long so I won't be as boring as most would be. I'm a horrible cook and bad at some other things as well but I try. I can fix things around the house and just generally like easy going fun having things. BUT I'm moving a lot at the moment . Meh... now that I think of it, I'm an awesome catch!