Lack of desire to do it

[SlowwHand]

People evolve in their lives. They cycle and grow. Do what you want to do today.

[Dis]

duuude

that's all I have to say.

[Dis]

I think my sex drive maxed out at around age 30. But for most men it is around 18. I was a late bloomer. I wasn't even interested in sex that much in high school (just wanted to learn wtf it was )

[Lazerus]

Is it sex in general or just sex in the same old particular routine you're bored of though ?

[Dis]

I hear having a tv in the bedroom decreases frequency of sex. While I don't have much experience with sex, I do know that computers and tv decrease my sex drive. It's far to easy to get involved in those things and just not think about it.

In that case you have to set your priorities in life.

As for school work, I can't blame you for that. You have to think long term. But don't over do it. Studying 30 hours a week won't accomplish much. 20 should do it. I'm just making up numbers here. I haven't been to school.

[Lazerus]

Be quiet and put your top on i'm just finishing this turn !!

[Dis]

now if I had that kind of influence on me, no computer game could keep me down. Unless maybe if I was in the middle of an instance.

I'm kind of reminded. Anyone remember that supposedly female poster who posted a thread about her husband's lack of libido? I'm not sure if we ever figured out if she was a DL or not. I think she posted for a couple days in that thread and took off. I think her husband looked at porn, but wasn't interested in her. I can't remember that far back, so I don't remember all the details.

[Lazerus]

I remember the thread but not the poster, most people were saying it was normal for him to look at porn (provided it wasn't 8y/o playing with a goat nd stuff) but not normal for him to be avoiding her for it unless she was really hideous.

[Last Conformist]

A weakening sex drive is a symptom of everything from stress to clinical depression. Go have yourself hospitalized.

[MRT144]

Originally posted by Lazerus
Is it sex in general or just sex in the same old particular routine you're bored of though ?

in general. part of the issue is even working it in to my schedule and the opportunity cost of undertaking it. id rather sleep than stay up past 11:30 to have sex, or read a chapter and do homework. the only times i actually so wana it are wekend mornings...

maybe it is stress related.

[Asher]

You need more gay sex.

[MRT144]

Originally posted by Asher
You need more gay sex.

well that goes without saying

[Flubber]

Re: Lack of desire to do it

Originally posted by MRT144
i'm 23, good shape, work and go to school full time.

im just beginning to feel like im losing my sex drive. I find myself wanting to do so many other more important things besides have sex.

currently i have sex with 2 different girls (not together at the same time) but all they want to do is come over to my place and when they come over, have sex, and hang out and get drunk. I'd be fine with that in the past. Hell more than fine but dude, I'm ****ing busy and dont want to be busy ****ing.

Is this something that happens to all 23 year olds or all busy people or some of both?

For most men, sex drive will slowly decrease over time.

But what I am reading here is not so much that you don't want sex but its all the other stuff you have to do to get it. Basically to have a sexual encounter, you end up hanging out and getting drunk. So this eats up maybe twice or three times as long as the sex part. You are busier and perhaps getting drunk isn't as much fun for you as it used to be .

So why not have a girl stay over and say lets not drink tonight. bang her and then go to bed. Repeat in the morning . . . cook her breakfast and then say you are supposed to meet someone at 9 or 10 or whatever at the library or whatever.

JUst other points questions

1. Are you having sex and drinking with one of these girls every night? If so its probably just become a routine and shaking things up could make it more exciting

2. Do you have any particular feelings for these girls? Maybe yopu are starting to get a bit deeper and shallow sex doesn't have the allure it once did

3. Conversely, perhaps its just the very shallow reason that you have experienced pretty much evrything these girls can do and you just need a new partner that excites you more.

[Flubber]

Originally posted by MRT144




but see, I am actually concerned about this. For 11 years I have prided myself on my insatiable sexual appetite

Why would that be a source of pride?

I can see having pride about dick size or endurance or the ability to perform certain acts well and to the great satisfaction of a partner . .. . . but insatiable appetite??

Being proud of that is a losing battle. Most men go from being pretty much " everready" in their teens and then find that ability gets reduced as they age.

[MRT144]

Re: Re: Lack of desire to do it

Originally posted by Flubber



For most men, sex drive will slowly decrease over time.

But what I am reading here is not so much that you don't want sex but its all the other stuff you have to do to get it. Basically to have a sexual encounter, you end up hanging out and getting drunk. So this eats up maybe twice or three times as long as the sex part. You are busier and perhaps getting drunk isn't as much fun for you as it used to be .

So why not have a girl stay over and say lets not drink tonight. bang her and then go to bed. Repeat in the morning . . . cook her breakfast and then say you are supposed to meet someone at 9 or 10 or whatever at the library or whatever.

JUst other points questions

1. Are you having sex and drinking with one of these girls every night? If so its probably just become a routine and shaking things up could make it more exciting

2. Do you have any particular feelings for these girls? Maybe yopu are starting to get a bit deeper and shallow sex doesn't have the allure it once did

3. Conversely, perhaps its just the very shallow reason that you have experienced pretty much evrything these girls can do and you just need a new partner that excites you more.

well, it's not even that. for instance one of the girls goes to bars that are near where i live (a block or two away). its a friday night, Im at home doing homework, reading books, etc etc. She calls me up around 1:30 am wanting to come over and do it.
Im usually asleep by then and just dont want to stay up late.

the other girl comes over and we hang out, but things never cut to the chase quick enough and by the time its time to go to bed I dont want to have sex, I want to sleep.

1. no. I don't drink except maybe a beer or two on the weekends now.
2. no. I like one of the girls a lot as a friend, but I dont see any possible meaningful future with her. the other is just a classmate that is smart and funny and helps me with homework, but theres nothing else there.
3. possible, but I dont even want to seek out new partners. I want to be left alone for a week or so at a time. women and sex are great as long as they arent taking up valuable time.