How do you get a girl?

[Ecthy]

Please examine this misunderstanding up until the last day, guys

[Japher]

nevermind

ackward x-post or something

[Lorizael]

Originally posted by Flubber
ok

I reread a couple of your posts and there was no way you could have really thought the pining comment was aimed at you , could you ??

The obvious answer is that you have no idea how close to home you accidentally almost hit. Right?

[Spec]

Oh god....girls are not complicated until you reach a month or 2...Just ask her out god damnit!

Panzy.

You see, that's your problem, lack of confidence.

Spec.

[MRT144]

Originally posted by Spec
Oh god....girls are not complicated until you reach a month or 2...Just ask her out god damnit!

Panzy.

You see, that's your problem, lack of confidence.

Spec.

that's what I've been saying

[Flubber]

Yup confidence is the key.

If I were in dis's position now , I would probably think it was time to bring it to a head. She seems to be playing with you -- If you truly do not want that "friend role", I would push matters

[Proteus_MST]

How do you get a girl?

Be a guest to the Tamberma tribe in Togo.

They sometimes give away one of their women as a present to their guests (women btw. that believe in the traditional roles, i.e. the man is in command [and carries the whip] and the women obeys and is the person who cooks his meals)

(Saw it yesterday in the Sat1 TV-Documentary series "Wie die Wilden" ("Like the savages") where 3 families live for 3 weeks with native tribes (who still live like their forefathers have done) and try to become a member of their tribe (to do so they have to live like their hosts and also obey the rules/traditions of their hosts).

The 16 year old son of the family that went to the Tamberma-tribe got the woman mentioned above as present
(but looks like he didn´t enjoy the present but was rather shocked and broke into tears when he, in a short ceremony, was married to her )

[Stuie]

Originally posted by Flubber
You do understand that I meant flirtation WITH my wife right ???

Oh.... oops.

[Dauphin]

About 3 weeks ago I asked a girl from my work out. We get on really well, she's at the same level as me and happens to be very good looking, so I thought 'Vote Ecthy, Why the hell not?'. Alas, whilst she was single she was also involved in a 'on the complicated side of complicated dillio' with some bloke she's known for ages. She's off to Paris next weekend with this other bloke to see if she can't sort things out in her head (!?). I've been in situations like that before, normally as an excuse not to make you feel bad, in this instance it felt like a genuine response i.e if she was totally single she would have said yes, which is worse than a rejection damnit. So I feel bad for an evening, get over it and move on.

Moving on......a girl who started about two weeks ago and works with/for me and her says to me last night that the two of us carry on in a manner that shows we obviously like each other. Damnit, I don't want to hear that, it just makes me feel more annoyed with the situation.

Anyway, my point is, there is something worse than being rejected. It's being neither accepted nor rejected and being left in a limbo of annoyance.

[Spiffor]

Originally posted by Dauphin
Anyway, my point is, there is something worse than being rejected. It's being neither accepted nor rejected and being left in a limbo of annoyance.

QFT

[Lorizael]

Originally posted by Dauphin
Anyway, my point is, there is something worse than being rejected. It's being neither accepted nor rejected and being left in a limbo of annoyance.

I had a whole look-at-me thread about just this subject a couple years back.

[Dinner]

Originally posted by Spec
Oh god....girls are not complicated until you reach a month or 2...Just ask her out god damnit!

Panzy.

You see, that's your problem, lack of confidence.

Spec.

The Canuck speaks wisdom.

[Sava]

I'll just echo some things that have been said already. And I'll try to give some new pointers.

Confidence and self-esteem are key.

Be outgoing and interesting. Avoid awkward silences. Just keep talking. You want to find out about the person. Keep eye contact. Read body language. Try to be outgoing with your body language.

Plan your conversation material ahead of time. Think of stuff to talk about, stuff you want to find out about her...

Also, pay attention to everything she says. Girls love it when you remember. As you are keeping eye contact, pay attention and take note to detail. What is her eye color? You should be able to answer that if she quizzes you.

You don't need to be nervous. Just be yourself. You are "interviewing" this person as much and seeing if they are right for you as much as they are evaluating you. At least, that's always how I look at it.

In the end, compatibility between personalities will determine if two people will remain together. So just sit, talk, have fun, and see what happens. There is nothing difficult about it. But doing all the little flirty, romantic things is good for creating that spark once it's established you have good chemistry.

[realpolitic]

First, never start playing civ, or you risk losing interest in women.

Seriously, I'm surprised nobody here has mentioned it, I've found that when I flirt, and treat a woman nicely, her close friends become interested in me. Find a new woman, then flirt with her friend.