Marriage, a thing of the past?

[FrostyBoy]

As I get older (I am 26), I begin to see more clearly how society is shaping, from what it once was and to what direction it appears to be heading.

Is it not true that marriage, in any culture, is a completely religious event?

Is it also not true, that 1st world countries are slowly making realisations of the truthfulness of evolution? And eventually (hopefully) the 2nd and 3rd world countries will pass through the same realisations as the 1st worlder's did.

Is it not true that many marriages that take place in westernised countries are almost purely materialistic, superficial and "trendy", all inserted into the minds by society and the media itself?

Lastly, what is happening to the younger generation?
- Single life is easier, more fun, less money problems, not tied down
And where do so many marriages these days head? Divorce, increasing every year is it not?


Surely, at some point, maybe 50 or less years from now, marriage will be only for the pure religious?


As for myself, I have completely made a 180 degree turn on how I see society's traditions. I was brought up, not just by my parents, but by people around me, school, friends, T.V., etc, that marriage is an "eventual process we all go through". Now I no longer desire a life-time partner, I have absolutely no interest in marriage at all, I now find the whole thing pathetic.

But I have one snag, I do still want to have children, and I am sure many single's will, so what will become the solution?

Any of you want to remain single throughout your life?

[KrazyHorse]

Don't be stupid. A long-term relationship means a long-term, steady source of sex, friendship, and partnership (for the rearing of children).

Nothing wrong with any of those. Long-term relationships kick the crap out of single life any day of the week. You just have to know how to pick your partner.

[Az]

having kids is important. If you won't have kids, the whackos will rule the world 100 years from now.

[FrostyBoy]

Originally posted by KrazyHorse
Don't be stupid. A long-term relationship means a long-term, steady source of sex, friendship, and partnership (for the rearing of children).

Nothing wrong with any of those. Long-term relationships kick the crap out of single life any day of the week. You just have to know how to pick your partner.

It's amazing how you can type with your ***hole.

[Jon Miller]

Re: Marriage, a thing of the past?

Originally posted by Sn00py
Is it not true that marriage, in any culture, is a completely religious event?

Marriage is a cultural thing. Religion is also cultural.

Jon Miller

[MRT144]

Originally posted by KrazyHorse
Don't be stupid. A long-term relationship means a long-term, steady source of sex, friendship, and partnership (for the rearing of children).

Nothing wrong with any of those. Long-term relationships kick the crap out of single life any day of the week. You just have to know how to pick your partner.

I agree with this wholeheartedly.

as for money problems youre out of your element snoopy. 2 people ARE better than one when it comes to contributing their income to the goal of buying a house, a car, etc etc.

[KrazyHorse]

Originally posted by Sn00py


It's amazing how you can type with your ***hole.

It's amazing how you expect me to take this seriously a couple of weeks after you broke up with some psycho ***** instead of thinking that it's a ridiculous overreaction to the awful relationship and messy breakup you were just in.

[Drake Tungsten]

Kitty's exactly right.

[Az]

yeah, he is, isn't he? he seems to be right in those questions almost all the time.

[DRoseDARs]

Re: Marriage, a thing of the past?

Originally posted by Sn00py
As I get older (I am 26), I begin to see more clearly how society is shaping, from what it once was and to what direction it appears to be heading.

Is it not true that marriage, in any culture, is a completely religious event?

No, it isn't true. Take a lower-level anthropology class that discusses marriage during the course and you'll see why. Marriage isn't changing, it's changing back.

Is it also not true, that 1st world countries are slowly making realisations of the truthfulness of evolution? And eventually (hopefully) the 2nd and 3rd world countries will pass through the same realisations as the 1st worlder's did.

I might say yes or I might say backlash against Western interests may slow that process somewaht.

Is it not true that many marriages that take place in westernised countries are almost purely materialistic, superficial and "trendy", all inserted into the minds by society and the media itself?

I would say most Western marriages are love-based, but come with economic benefits from governments. The "superficial" marriages don't happen as often as the media portrays, and the "trendy" marriages are a product of Hollywood supercouples, again the media plays up their prominence.

Lastly, what is happening to the younger generation?
- Single life is easier, more fun, less money problems, not tied down
And where do so many marriages these days head? Divorce, increasing every year is it not?

Again, the media has altered the perception of marriage. It's too romanticized and presented as one-dimensional. Our culture (USAmerican, can't speak for the rest) really stresses personal independence over marriage (earlier times stressed marriage and stay-at-home moms subordinate to dad) so the two realities conflict. Unrealistic expectations of what marriage is supposed to be like come crashing through the gates.

Surely, at some point, maybe 50 or less years from now, marriage will be only for the pure religious?

Simply put: This has never been universally true, it will never BE universally true.

As for myself, I have completely made a 180 degree turn on how I see society's traditions. I was brought up, not just by my parents, but by people around me, school, friends, T.V., etc, that marriage is an "eventual process we all go through". Now I no longer desire a life-time partner, I have absolutely no interest in marriage at all, I now find the whole thing pathetic.

But I have one snag, I do still want to have children, and I am sure many single's will, so what will become the solution?

Any of you want to remain single throughout your life?

No one needs a piece of paper or the TV to tell them they're in love and want to (and if they're lucky will) spend the rest of their life together with their partner. However, governments have it in their best interests to encourage stable family units (economic reasons) and as such they attach economic benefits et al to marriage. God doesn't dictate whether or not you can visit your partner like any married couple in the hospital based on whether the two of you are legally married to each other or not.

For me, ultimately I want someone to grow old with (pardon the cliche). If marriage/civil unionship helps us in our day-to-day interests then fine, but again I don't need the government to tell me what I feel for the other man or he for me.

[Drake Tungsten]

yeah, he is, isn't he? he seems to be right in those questions almost all the time.

I think fully 75% of my posts in the past week have been me agreeing with something KH has said. It's unseemly...

[KrazyHorse]

Everybody who wants to suck my **** can form a line.

[Drake Tungsten]

I don't want to, but it keeps happening anyway. Why can't I quit you?

[KrazyHorse]

Cause I'm so ****ing good.

[DRoseDARs]

Originally posted by KrazyHorse
Everybody who wants to suck my **** can form a line.

I need to see a picture of you first and cash payments only. Sorry, no refunds.