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Dilemma
"If you're having girl problems I feel bad for you son, I got 99 problems but a ***** ain't one" - JayZ
So here's the deal-
A is a girl that seems to really dig me, and wants to have a relationship of some sort with me. She's talkative, funny, cute, and seems to really dig me. She's single. She's a year younger than me. A is in the army. A lives a train-ride of 2.5-3 hours away from me. She's a friend of a friend of mine - she serves together with her.
My feelings towards her are "hey, she's an cool chick - this is workable!"
B is a university student in another university in my city. she's studying to become a nurse. B is the same age as I am. B is a really close highschool friend with one of the girls from my university and department ( that's how I met her ). She's intelligent, funny, talkative, stunningly beautiful but doesn't do anything to flaunt it. B probably doesn't have any feelings to me besides thinking I am a cool guy. B has a boyfriend for quite some time now- and to make things worse, she and the chick I go to school with and a bunch of other girls hang out all the time, with their boyfriends and form a serious couple circle.
My feelings towards her are... well, I basically think I am falling head over heels with this girl.
Realism or idealism?
If I choose A, while having stronger feelings for B am I not both settling for less, if you look at from a materialistic pov, and playing with A's feelings by not being able to devote more of my feelings towards her?
If I choose to pursuit B, am I not both giving up a chance to hook up with A, following what may be an impossibility, hurt A by not choosing her ( and maybe subconsciously choosing the more attractive girl), and also break up a relationship of B with her boyfriend in the unlikely chance that it may work? ( Longer relationships are sometimes harder, and sometimes easier to break up)
...
Maybe I should play both fields? Isn't it dishonest?
So here's the deal-
A is a girl that seems to really dig me, and wants to have a relationship of some sort with me. She's talkative, funny, cute, and seems to really dig me. She's single. She's a year younger than me. A is in the army. A lives a train-ride of 2.5-3 hours away from me. She's a friend of a friend of mine - she serves together with her.
My feelings towards her are "hey, she's an cool chick - this is workable!"
B is a university student in another university in my city. she's studying to become a nurse. B is the same age as I am. B is a really close highschool friend with one of the girls from my university and department ( that's how I met her ). She's intelligent, funny, talkative, stunningly beautiful but doesn't do anything to flaunt it. B probably doesn't have any feelings to me besides thinking I am a cool guy. B has a boyfriend for quite some time now- and to make things worse, she and the chick I go to school with and a bunch of other girls hang out all the time, with their boyfriends and form a serious couple circle.
My feelings towards her are... well, I basically think I am falling head over heels with this girl.
Realism or idealism?
If I choose A, while having stronger feelings for B am I not both settling for less, if you look at from a materialistic pov, and playing with A's feelings by not being able to devote more of my feelings towards her?
If I choose to pursuit B, am I not both giving up a chance to hook up with A, following what may be an impossibility, hurt A by not choosing her ( and maybe subconsciously choosing the more attractive girl), and also break up a relationship of B with her boyfriend in the unlikely chance that it may work? ( Longer relationships are sometimes harder, and sometimes easier to break up)
...
Maybe I should play both fields? Isn't it dishonest?
( Man I wish I was so easy on myself, like I am on others. 
)
If you want to go for it anyway, go ahead, but don't come crying to us when it doesn't work. 
And don't go crying to A or C either.
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