So I found out my friends are doing drugs

[Frankychan]

I'm not talking about marijuana. Even though I'm a liberal and all that bullsh**, I don't really consider it a real drug. It's grown and not manufactured...AND it's illegal. So you can't say "oh well BEER is manufactured."

I found out that my friends bought some coke (as in cocaine) yesterday and did it. They still have some, but weren't going to use it tonight. my one friend flipped over his fiancee's car drunk (and without a license) and my other friend I guess is just as bad. My friend whose engaged is supposed to be getting his sh** together, and here he goes and does this.

AND this is the same guy who was bashing on another one of my friends for doing meth (as in crystal methamphetamine).

Anyway, so I'm cruising at my friends house, my other friend says he's going to pick up his girl, when I ask..."You guys really didn't do this, right?" He said, "Yeah, we were drunk as heck. And it was a 'hey, you wanna try this?' 'ok, lets do it' kind of deal."

Right there I said, I'm sorry...but I'm pretty disgusted with the two of you right now. My friend who stayed said, hey don't knock it until you try it.

Sorry, all liberalism aside, I'm no damned hippie. All this Peace, Love, Happiness bullcrap is just that, BS. I'll knock it. I've had family members waste away on that sh**...(but I didn't tell him this).

I just told him, "I'm sorry, I have to go home. I'm really disgusted with you. I'll talk to you later."

My other friend called me and asked why I left. After I told him what I heard he said that they weren't going to do it tonight.

I said: "I'm sorry, but I'm really disgusted with the both of you right now. I don't want to see either of you for a while. Bye."


Ok, why am I posting here instead of my blogs? Because my friends read my blogs. And all kidding aside and the jabs I take, I think the people at Poly are smart as well as worldly. There's people here that do drugs, drink, etc etc. (thats why I asked my ASVAB question). And yes, I gotta give respect for the peeps here regardless if I agree with them or not.

I really want to blog about this but have decided not to just to save my friends "face", so to speak.


AND THIS IS ANOTHER REASON WHY I HAVE TO LEAVE!

I'm so disgusted right now.

[Ted Striker]

Bro man I know how you feel. Even though these guys around here like to brand me as a Commie and leftist, etc., one area I have a problem with is drugs and even booze. I never touch either one and have moral problems with them both.

I've seen alot of friends and family get into something like that and it just destroys them, worse, takes down innocent people around them.

But, moral considerations aside, it sounds like you and your friends are starting to have a difference in lifestyles that just aren't meshing. I'd say you're about 23-25? This is the point where guys have to stop screwing around and decide what kind of life they want to make for themselves. They are no longer kids but turning into adults and have to forge their own living.

It sounds like your friends are going down one path, and you don't like where they are going. Even the drugs aside, I bet their lifestyle choices don't really jive with yours.

So when can you leave?

[Frankychan]

Originally posted by Ted Striker
Bro man I know how you feel. Even though these guys around here like to brand me as a Commie and leftist, etc., one area I have a problem with is drugs and even booze. I never touch either one and have moral problems with them both.

I've seen alot of friends and family get into something like that and it just destroys them, worse, takes down innocent people around them.

But, moral considerations aside, it sounds like you and your friends are starting to have a difference in lifestyles that just aren't meshing. I'd say you're about 23-25? This is the point where guys have to stop screwing around and decide what kind of life they want to make for themselves. They are no longer kids but turning into adults and have to forge their own living.

It sounds like your friends are going down one path, and you don't like where they are going. Even the drugs aside, I bet their lifestyle choices don't really jive with yours.

So when can you leave?

Once again, Ted Striker speaks the truth.

Yeah, we're 24 turning 25. I'm 25. And what you said about stop screwing around and making a life out of ourselves? Totally, that's what I'm trying to do. I don't and CAN'T see myself doing the same old sh*t anymore. They still wanna go to this one bar cause of the hot girls and getting into all that drama.

I told 'em I can't do that. I try to stay away from that bar cause bad vibes and circumstances happen at that place.

It sounds like your friends are going down one path, and you don't like where they are going. Even the drugs aside, I bet their lifestyle choices don't really jive with yours.

Totally. I'm done with that BS. I've had enough of my own drama, even though it might not be as messed up as them, but I've had enough to know that I don't want it anymore.

That lifestyle for me is pretty much done. Hopefully I can leave by the end of September or mid October. Tonight pretty much opened my eyes. I don't care if it's just to try and experiment. I think we're older now and more life-experienced to be smarter than that.

I think this is the straw that broke the camels back, to be honest.

[Ted Striker]

As much as tonight sucks, I think that it's a good thing for you in the long run. You know where you're headed and this episode just reinforced what you already know.

You will be forging a new life, and build accomplishments and meaningful relationships, meanwhile your boys will spend the next 5 years trying to get on the tv show Elimidate or some other bar-lifestyle related nonsense.

You'll be okay dogg, you got a good head on your shoulders.

[Dis]

my best friend as a kid got into drugs. I really didn't know what to do. I feel like a crappy friend because he really got heavy into the drug lifestyle. Kind of a white trash lifestyle. I really didn't do anything to stop him. I'm not sure what I could have done.

But even though he was my best friend, we really didn't have that much in common. We both like star trek and D&D, and heavy metal music. But that's about it.

What I really feel guilty about is I haven't contacted him in so long. I just don't want to be in that kind of lifestyle. I'm the type of person who cannot resist peer pressure. Though I guess I could have done so on the hard drugs. But I did smoke pot with him several times. But I don't even want to do that. Marijuana sucks. But it's so hard to refuse when a joint is being passed around.

[Frankychan]

Originally posted by Ted Striker
As much as tonight sucks, I think that it's a good thing for you in the long run. You know where you're headed and this episode just reinforced what you already know.

You will be forging a new life, and build accomplishments and meaningful relationships, meanwhile your boys will spend the next 5 years trying to get on the tv show Elimidate or some other bar-lifestyle related nonsense.

You'll be okay dogg, you got a good head on your shoulders.

Thanks, man. But here's the thing, what if tonight was just one of those freak a** things that just happened, and they go about doing whatever they were doing?

I mean, is cutting them off for now more harsh than what they deserve? Its not like they are total cokeheads, but I don't want to be around them. If this was one of those one-time deals that would be one thing, but my friend (who picked up his girl) likes to do various drugs but likes to play the nicey nice boy.

Me? I can see through that farce. Anyway, my thing is whether or not cutting them off totally for now is too harsh? I don't plan on talking to them, nor returning their phone calls for a LOOOONG time...maybe until it's time to leave kind of deal.

[Dis]

Originally posted by Frankychan


Thanks, man. But here's the thing, what if tonight was just one of those freak a** things that just happened, and they go about doing whatever they were doing?

I mean, is cutting them off for now more harsh than what they deserve? Its not like they are total cokeheads, but I don't want to be around them. If this was one of those one-time deals that would be one thing, but my friend (who picked up his girl) likes to do various drugs but likes to play the nicey nice boy.

Me? I can see through that farce. Anyway, my thing is whether or not cutting them off totally for now is too harsh? I don't plan on talking to them, nor returning their phone calls for a LOOOONG time...maybe until it's time to leave kind of deal.

you don't have to cut them off. Just hang out with them in public places or whatever. Don't hang out with them in their homes when they are doing drugs. That isn't fun. Watching other people do drugs, while you just sit there sucks. I've done that too many times. Get away from that for sure.

[Ted Striker]

You know best, but it sounds like alot of things have been creeping up for a long time.

Maybe give yourself some time to cool off and then think about your future with your friends.

If you're gone in September anyway, you won't have to make that decision and then things just take their natural course, since you would be parting ways anyway. Maybe you can think about how you want to leave those guys, since you're leaving anyway, and leave it at that.

Sometimes it's best to leave them on a good note.

[Pekka]

Depends on the person. Some people are idiots, coke or no coke. Some people become idiots after they start doing it, with ego problems. Some don't become anything new but be themselves. I'd say problem is if they are stupid to begin with, so .. drugs, especially hard drugs are like catalysts.. idiot people become super idiot in the long run. Smart individuals usually have no problems and stay recreational users. I have some friends, most of them smoke mary jane these days, but most of them also did recreational drugs back in the days, none of them do today. None of them regret it. But then again, they aren't losers.

So, it depends. Of course there is the fortune factor, some people might get sick, do wrong amount, stuff like that, and well.. die.

Get involved with the wrong kind of people, which might be the most dangerous thing in the whole combination. This will give everyone bad fortune.

Just on a note that someone tries coke, or does coke every now and then AND other than that is just cool.. so what. What do I care. Their business. BUT if they become jerks as a result..... then that's different.

BUT first warning sign that makes me eyes hurt is that he says they did it drunk and it was.. woot. I mean. If you have a person who gets drunk and goes to buy coke and does it while drunk, well you have a classic case of someone who does stupid **** while they are high/drunk/etc. And that's the type of person that.. will screw up.

[Ted Striker]

I was actually in the same situation as Franky at age 24. In my case the friend was getting out of control, violent, suicidal, and crazy. It was a black hole I was getting sucked into.

My life was going one way and my friend's was going the other. It was time for me to move on.

I got tired of the lying and especially the manipulation.

[KrazyHorse]

I recently found out that somebody very close to me was doing cocaine and crack, and had gotten into dealing them to support their habit (every day for more than 6 months).

That made me sad. He's wasting his life, and he's a really smart guy. The best writer I've ever known personally.

[Pekka]

KH, .. that is sad.. maybe he finds something, like religion or something, or falls in love. I guess those are the two things that can save a person from weird situations like that and completely turn them around.

[Frankychan]

Well guys, you're all right.

I guess I just need some time to cool off and get my head straightened up. The thing is that after I found out I really couldn't look at them. Crap, I felt sick...which was pretty unique...it's like total disgust with someone that you want to hurl. I don't know if I can hang around them in public for a while.

But yeah, if I'm leaving anyway, I think one last hurrah would be ok.

And Pekka is right, my one friend is notorious for getting blasted drunk and doing stupid stuff. I mean I've done some messed up stuff while I'm drunk, but not things of this magnitude.

[KrazyHorse]

He's living in a **** apartment with another drug addict doing telemarketing from home, making barely enough to live on.

It's not a life for somebody with talent.

[Ted Striker]

That is sad Krazyhorse

About what Pekka said, I think if Franky is leaving, maybe he can leave his friends on a good note, that way if they turn themselves around, he hasn't completely cut ties with them.

But since he's leaving anyway, he will naturally be distant from them while they are going through all this drama.