Should the man pay for everything on a date?

[MarkG]

Originally posted by paiktis22
_we want another round of drinks. of course you'll pay
_and why would we?
_because you're dating two godesses and the whole bar is looking at us and are jealous of you

you should respond with "what else could we do if we pay?"

[Bereta_Eder]

getting slapped is not a part of an ideal date Marko

[MarkG]

Originally posted by JohnT
Imo, the guy should expect to pay, but be gracious if the woman asks to cover. Whining about it beforehand shows a lack of manners, negotiating it beforehand shows a lack of class.

Imo.

Imo or Imwo?

[MarkG]

Originally posted by paiktis22
getting slapped is not a part of an ideal date Marko

always try to do something memorable

[JohnT]

Originally posted by MarkG
Imo or Imwo?

Yes, in my wonderful opinion I think the man...

[MarkG]

nope, not "wonderfull"...

[MOBIUS]

A friend of my always claimed a 100% **** on the first date success rate if he took a girl to the Pont de la Tour restaurant by London Bridge and paid for the meal - granted it cost him about £100 each time, but that appears to be the going rate for an hour with a prostitute or so I've heard...

Sure if I ask a girl out I'll usually pay for the first meal, but then we usually take it in turns after that - I would never pay for the girl all the time as I feel I'd be paying 'for services rendered' so to speak...

If I knew a girl expected that beforehand, I wouldn't touch them with a bargepole on the grounds that she's probably a high maintenance *****...

[Kuciwalker]

Originally posted by MarkG
nope, not "wonderfull"...

psst... he's a lifetime subscriber

[Shi Huangdi]

Originally posted by JohnT


Money is always an issue, even if she loves you and is willing to bear your kids.

I think I mis-stated my point. Of course it is an issue, but if she does like you then she should be willing to go out with you even if you aren't paying for her.

[Fake Boris]

Originally posted by Boris Godunov
In my experience, the man always pays. Not that that helps you.

[MarkG]

Originally posted by Kuciwalker
psst... he's a lifetime subscriber

he's already paid

besides, he's the one who first posted his wife's opinion and THEN his own

[JohnT]

Fah!

How the hell do you think I got the wife?

Please, oh master, tell us your dating secrets!!

[aneeshm]

Originally posted by Mrs. Tuberski
Oh please what is wrong with both paying for each other like swapping off if they are buying drinks?? As far as dinner well if the dude wants to pay go for it and if he dont the girls shouldnt get her panties in a wad about it.

Dam' right she shouldn't ! Makes it tougher to untangle them for . . . . . . . afterwords .

[Brundlefly]

Re: Should the man pay for everything on a date?

Originally posted by Dis
Though this poll won't mean as much for male gay dates . Or lesbian dates for that matter.

It seems as if I'm always expected to pay for everything. From what I have heard about the old days, was you got something in return. . But I never did. Not that I expect that mind you, that sounds kind of disrespectful. It's like I'm paying for the privlidge of their company. But shouldn't this be an equal relationship?

Granted, the last date I was on was a few years ago. Things may have changed since those days.

Or maybe I was just a sucker. I have this outdated view that women like men to open doors for them and pay for everything.

I think in the future, I'm only going to pay for half.

If you pay all, then you establish the idea in her head that SHE is the most valuable one in the relationship. It demonstrates to her that you are needy and willing to "purchase" her affections if necessary. Wrong attitude. And, this can lead to her to think that she can manipulate you in other ways. Above all, you want to have a relationship on YOUR terms not hers. To that end, you should go 50/50 at least until the point that you are past the initial dating stage and she has made some type of commitment to you, i.e., sex.

[Brundlefly]

Originally posted by JohnT
Imo, the guy should expect to pay, but be gracious if the woman asks to cover. Whining about it beforehand shows a lack of manners, negotiating it beforehand shows a lack of class.

Imo.

A real man does not whine or negotiate with his girl. He tells her firmly and consistently how things will be. He gives her gentle direction.