am I messed up?

[Sprayber]

Originally posted by Lancer

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So, when they do get married it's forever. The shame of a failed marriage is huge.

Staying in a marriage for the sake of appearence isn't something to encourage. I understand the urge to say all women or all western women are only interested in the new flavor but you could say that about the men as well. There are plenty of American women who believe in committment and will put up with a lot of **** in order to make it work. Divorce isn't the problem facing America, its gettiing married too early in life before you have experience a little of it that is the problem. My current girlfriend was married out of highschool and she married down. She put up with an ******* for 7 years to make the marriage work but eventually it came down to not wanting her son and daughter thinking that was the way a man was supposed to be.

I'm by no means a femenist but women having a choice is a good thing. IMO a culture that gives more choices to women and men is better than one where a divorce is considered the end of the world.

[Sprayber]

Originally posted by DeathByTheSword
i am not wounded i am just pissed of that she wont get out of my head

damn women and there invisible holds over our 2 brains

She will stay there until you find someone else to replace her in your thoughts or that is how it happened to me. I lost my fiance to a car accident and it took a long time to get over that. She was in my thoughts through at least two relationships. I still think about her sometimes but by and large my current girlfriend and her kids are the people who occupy my time and thoughts.

[Kontiki]

It's probably a mix of 1 and 3.

[DeathByTheSword]

damn was so hoping that it was 2 so that i could atleast stop looking

[Bereta_Eder]

if you got dumped maybe is the "giati re gamoto" feeling (translating loosely"why **** why?").

that is why it is essential you always dump them first.

[Urban Ranger]

Originally posted by Space05us
You just need a new girl to obsess over.

Ain't that the truth.

[chequita guevara]

You never completely get over your first love. It's normal to be a little obessive after it ends, as long as it doesn't gradutate into stalking or worse. It gets easier to deal with over time, and you will eventually go through longer periods without thinking over her. This is a wound only time and experience can fix, so start seeing other people.

[Japher]

1) it was my first real love and that is why i cant stop thinking about her.

What Che said

2) I am stil really in love with her and she is the 'one' in my eyes

If she really were the "one" she would still be with you. Face it, she aint, get over it, move on... she did.

3) i just miss the feeling that someone likes me and I am just an egocentric bastard

We all are. Find someone else. What's the problem?

4) i miss take care of someone

Get a dog.

5) i miss the phycisal part of the relationship

Get a dog.

[Bereta_Eder]

Originally posted by chegitz guevara
You never completely get over your first love. It's normal to be a little obessive after it ends, as long as it doesn't gradutate into stalking or worse. It gets easier to deal with over time, and you will eventually go through longer periods without thinking over her. This is a wound only time and experience can fix, so start seeing other people.

bull. after my first love ended i felt nothing but an overwelming sense of utter relief and never looked back. (ok sometimes when it was night and was feeling loooonely but not too much). but the feeling was i'm freee freeee freeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

[Space05us]

bull. after my first love ended i felt nothing but an overwelming sense of utter relief and never looked back. (ok sometimes when it was night and was feeling loooonely but not too much). but the feeling was i'm freee freeee freeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

You werent in love.

[Bereta_Eder]

Originally posted by Space05us

bull. after my first love ended i felt nothing but an overwelming sense of utter relief and never looked back. (ok sometimes when it was night and was feeling loooonely but not too much). but the feeling was i'm freee freeee freeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

You werent in love.

if i fall in love it will be for eveeeeer


well very few people are. most kid themselves

[chequita guevara]

You weren't in love.

[Bereta_Eder]

[Space05us]

edit: nvm. I lied.

[Mrs. Tuberski]

My opinion you cant get her out of ur mind cause she dumped you. being dumped is never fun and makes the nperson being dumped left wondering what the f*** they did wrong. Answer to that question you will prolly never know. Finding new girl may or may not work to get the girl out of ur mind but it sure is a better alternative then sitting around obsessing over a girl that dumped ya