What the heck am I supposed to do??

[Zoid]

Re: Re: What the **** am I supposed to do??

Originally posted by reds4ever

Smart remark: Next time she gets too pissed to see straight, you and your mate spit roast her over the bins behind the back of Burger King.

Dude, seriously... I said smart remark, not a ****ing bad taste one...

[Mrs. Tuberski]

no you cant.if u cant get to her yourself, thats when you get other frinds involved and try them to help you help her if that dont work is when you have to realize you need to let her hit the bottom and ask for help.

[Pekka]

And since you're dealing with women, you need to be like a woman. I mean, that you need to make her think she realized it herself, not you telling it point blank. Works better. But you need to make it happen. She needs to have a moment where she really looks in the mirror and thinks that this is going way too far. And then you come in right there.

[DRoseDARs]

Bring a video camera, record her behaviour, and show her when she's sober. Might open her eyes if she's as thoroughly sloshed as you say she is.

[Lawrence of Arabia]

You can save the damsel from a tiger or slithering snake in the grass. You can fight off the black knight bent on rape and mayhem with the fair lady, but from the damsel you can not save the damsel. You can however save yourself by forgetting about her.

Take a hike.

[Zoid]

Originally posted by Hueij
Did you tell her when

she´s not drunk she´s really nice...

?

Yes, I have. On numerous occasions...

[chequita guevara]

The problem is, right now, she needs the alcohol, so anything that threatens to come between her and the liquor is going to be perceived as a threat.

You have two choices, you can be an enabler or you can take a hard line. Drose's suggestion is a good place to start, though.

There's also the evil option.

[Zoid]

Originally posted by Pekka
Depends. If she's partying and you're being a foreigner type of person who thinks everyone is a drunk who gets smashed every now and then, then you should just grow up.

BUT if she really is getting smashed pretty much all the time and it affects her life in other areas as well, as well as your friendship, then she definitely has a problem.

You have to ask yourself. Are you willing to help her out? If she truly has an alcohol problem, it's not very simple. She could never get over it. You could end up using all your energy just to get all the crap on you. So.. you need to ask yourself, how much do you care for her and be honest. If you honestly care for her, then you should not leave her. If you're not sure, then you should take a hike.

So you decided to stay, what to do? First thing is you need to make her realize she has a problem. Before that, nothing is possible. To do that, you have to point out how alcohol usage is affecting her life outside partying. That happens when she is sober. No use trying to talk sense when she's drinking. You'll just get a bunch of crap on you. Not doing any good for either of you. So you must make her see how much damage she is doing to herself.

That's the only way you can move forward to help her. Then, you must be supporting her every time she goes and blows it all up and how everything is your fault. Just take it, and drop it in the trash bin, it's likely not meant to you anyway.

In fact, you shouldn't even read more. Make a decision. Stay with her side, or leave her. If you stay, the only thing you need to be focusing on is being her friend and trying to make her see that it's a problem, and it's affecting her life in negative ways. And don't be a little investigative annoying person all the time. Be her friend.

Good solid advice, Pekka. Thanks

Che, and the evil option is...?

[Lawrence of Arabia]

hahah yeah, i was thinking about the evil option chegitz.

[JohnT]

Pekka's advice about the camera might be good, but she can't be aware that she's being filmed else she'd argue "But I did/said that because of the camera!"

[reds4ever]

Re: Re: Re: What the **** am I supposed to do??

Originally posted by Dr Zoidberg


Dude, seriously... I said smart remark, not a ****ing bad taste one...

Smart remark/ bad taste. It's all relative.

[chequita guevara]

Originally posted by Dr Zoidberg
Che, and the evil option is...?

Screwing her when she's drunk.

[Lawrence of Arabia]

hahahah yeah, youve got guts to say that. everyones gonna jump on you now. i thought it crossed the line so i stayed quiet.

[Lancer]

"Screwing her when she's drunk."

Black knights abound.

[chequita guevara]

I said it was evil. Did you think I was kidding?