How do I get over him/her?

[Lorizael]

Oh wow, perfect timing!

So I've got this long-term relationship with one person and a strong attraction to another person. For the sake of the long-term relationship, I've decided to "get over" the person I'm attracted to (don't argue with me on this point, I've already done that with enough other people). Problem is I'm the bestfriend of the person I'm attracted to, and simply avoiding her would not work. So the question is, how do I make myself lose interest while maintaining the friendship already in place?

And yah, in your case Emperor, I've found that total separation works rather well.

[Felch]

Tell her you want to nut all over her face. She'll start putting the distance in there. Or she's take it all over her face. Either way.

[KrazyHorse]

Originally posted by Felch X
Tell her you want to nut all over her face. She'll start putting the distance in there. Or she's take it all over her face. Either way.

[Urban Ranger]

Join the French Foreign Legion. That wil do it every time.

[devilmunchkin]

ooo! i'm good at this...well...sometimes...
ok ok ok. ummm.....many ways:
1) realize that if you got back together with them, they prolly wouldn't be the same person..they'd be meaner to you...
2) ask yourself if you really love them or are just dependent on them.
3) realize that there isn't ONe person for anyone..there are many ...100's...thousands that will work.
4) pint of ice cream and some movie....
5) talking to friends for hours on end
6) doing something to get your mind off it...eventually she will fail....
7) be their "friend" so you can eventually get sick of them and just stop hanging around them.

[MRT144]

become a catholic priest...then you will be forced to love children and jesus

[David Floyd]

Two words: Strip clubs

Or you could do what I did/tend to do - bury yourself in work, work 40+ hours a week along with school when you really don't have to financially.

[Straybow]

Getting "over" somebody is best accomplished by standing up for yourself. You miss what you wanted her to be, and you need to realize she isn't all that.
( I'm taking a guess here, since you didn't describe her as an unselfconscious, scholarly swimsuit-model.)

Personally (read: speaking from experience ), I'd say your mistake was taking her back. That was when you should've realized that she doesn't know who/what she wants. But don't say it that way, just say, "Sorry." No more explanation than that.

If she's really interested in you, she'll find an emotionally mature way to earn your trust over time. If she's just looking for a soft place to land let somebody else volunteer to take the heartache.

[Thoth]

Originally posted by Jon Miller
don't double-bag

that is actually worse

Jon Miller
(from sex ed)

?? This seems rather counterintuitive. Care to explain?

[Dis]

time

that's all it takes. I can't offer any advice other than it gets better over time.

[KrazyHorse]

Originally posted by Thoth


?? This seems rather counterintuitive. Care to explain?

I think it increases the possibility of tears because the two layers can snag on each other.

[Thoth]

Makes sense. Thanks.

[Solly]

Don't continue to be nice to them, that's the main thing.

[Boris Godunov]

I fell in love with someone a few years ago and couldn't get over him for a long time. It's not as easy as just choosing to forget about them or something like that, as the heart isn't so easily controllable. All I can say is that time has allowed me to move on. And no, you can't "just be friends." That will **** you up even more. Having something you want that close to you and yet unobtainable is frustrating to no end. Best to end contact.

[Boris Godunov]

Originally posted by Boddington's
Don't continue to be nice to them, that's the main thing.

Now that shouldn't be hard for you.