My new strategy for picking up women: - and what are your strategies?

[Boris Godunov]

I am horrible at being an aggressive pick-up guy, as I tend to get really shy. So I generally rely on getting picked up, which seems to work well enough.

The strangest place I've ever picked up a guy was at Sardis when I went to the after party for the opening night of Bea Arthur's one-woman show last year. We circled the room, smiling at each other for a good while before I finally went up to him and asked him his name. We exchanged numbers with Rue McClanahan standing 2 feet away from me.

[faded glory]

touch there asses....and grab there hooters

[SlowwHand]

Smooth, FG.

[Urban Ranger]

No wonder you keep getting smacked upside the head, fg.

[faded glory]

Your right, it is very smooth,soft, and curvy

[faded glory]

"No wonder you keep getting smacked upside the head, fg."

Ha! You have no idea bub. I get way more than most of you here. My green 'eyes' are sooo cute. And my bod is killer.

Oh yes. My problem is I never grew up. I still flirt with girls. But ooohh.. Im almost 30 and losing my touch

[JohnT]

Originally posted by Urban Ranger


The only problem is, a lot of ACS men don't know what to say after "Hello" - that includes me. Fortunately, I didn't need to use it.

"My name is... " tends to be a good follow up.

(general, not directed to UR in particular): But seriously: You know, they're only girls. They aren't going to kill you if they aren't interested. Striking up a conversation with a strange female isn't all that different from striking up a conversation with a strange guy... I don't really know what the problem is.

For example... assume college boy and single girl are standing in a long line at the grocery store...

CB: "Hi. How ya' doing?"
....
"Good. I'm fine, thank you. Place is busy, isn't it?"
....
"Well, I'm in a hurry too as I've gotta get back to feed my puppy before class/work. Where do you work/what class are you late for?"
...
"Oh, I had that. I didn't really care for my teacher either: what do you think of him/her?"
...
"So, how are you doing?"
and so on, until you get up to the counter.
"Well, I'll see you later. My name is JohnT, by the way. Hey, do you mind if I get your number?" or "If you're having trouble in the class, I will be glad to meet you in the library so we can go over my notes - when would be a good time for you?"

See? It's pretty easy, as long as you continually show that you are interested in her. And how do you do that? Leave the true substance of the conversation up to her by asking her questions that flow with the conversation. Ask her questions, listen, and let the conversation flow from what she is telling you. Only give a forceful opinion in response to hers - don't give your opinion on a subject (especially a negative opinion!) until she expresses her: if you do, go ahead and assume that you will insult her because that is what will eventually happen.

Going into a conversation with an unknown girl with an agenda in mind ("This is what I want to talk about and this is how the conversation is going to go", you know, with your questions and her (supposed) responses fixed in your mind) is a sure-fire way to sound either clumsy or self-absorbed.

[SpencerH]

Originally posted by Boris Godunov
I am horrible at being an aggressive pick-up guy, as I tend to get really shy. So I generally rely on getting picked up, which seems to work well enough.

The strangest place I've ever picked up a guy was at Sardis when I went to the after party for the opening night of Bea Arthur's one-woman show last year. We circled the room, smiling at each other for a good while before I finally went up to him and asked him his name. We exchanged numbers with Rue McClanahan standing 2 feet away from me.

Name dropper.




Why do I have the strangest mental picture of a couple of hound-dogs (circling each other) .

[Boris Godunov]

Originally posted by SpencerH


Name dropper.

Yeah, I'm sure dropping Rue's name will get me somewhere. While I'm at it, I'll talk about schmoozing with Valerie Harper. Oooooooh!

Why do I have the strangest mental picture of a couple of hound-dogs (circling each other) .

More like hyenas, I think.

[SlowwHand]

When you meet Marlo Thomas, pass my name to her, Boris.
STILL looking good.

[SpencerH]

Well in certain circles Valerie Harper is known as the new Liza !



That hungry were you?



Who is Valerie Harper? Was she Rhoda?

[Urban Ranger]

Originally posted by JohnT
(general, not directed to UR in particular): But seriously: You know, they're only girls. They aren't going to kill you if they aren't interested. Striking up a conversation with a strange female isn't all that different from striking up a conversation with a strange guy... I don't really know what the problem is.

I dunno. Must be the cooties.

Originally posted by JohnT
For example... assume college boy and single girl are standing in a long line at the grocery store...

But, but what if I run into her in the hallway of my dorm?

[JohnT]

Does she live in the dorm?

[Urban Ranger]

Was.

The thing is, sometimes it's not bad, say, waiting for food in line in the cafeteria. Other times, like just right smack on the street or something, I'd be at a total loss as what to say.

[Urban Ranger]

Originally posted by JohnT
Going into a conversation with an unknown girl with an agenda in mind ("This is what I want to talk about and this is how the conversation is going to go", you know, with your questions and her (supposed) responses fixed in your mind) is a sure-fire way to sound either clumsy or self-absorbed.

I gather you are speaking from personal experience.