an awkward suitation (homosexual help needed)

[Inverse Icarus]

ok, me and my new friend at uni were eating lunch with his roommate, and we had to goto class, so we told the roomate we'd be back in an hour or so.

when we got to class, we found out it was cancelled. we headed back to the room.

we found his roomate with his shirt off necking with another guy.

we both kinda froze and the door shut itself, everyone frozen.

me and my friend came back to my room, and now we're both sitting here wondering what he should do.

he has to go back to his dorm room sooner or later.

this kid never told anyone he was gay. never alluded to it at all, nothing. it just kinda happened.

so, what the hell do we do? I could avoid the kid for a while, but my friend actually has to go back there tonight, so we need an answer asap. He's a really cool guy too, i liked hanging out with him, but now i'm all confused. argh. this has got to be horrible for him.

[loinburger]

Your friend should avoid wearing buttless leather chaps. That one piece of advice tends to resolve most problems of this nature.

And have his roommate put a sock on the door or something when he's getting down and dirty. That's a good practice for heterosexual roommates as well, especially if they're dating ugly girls.

[Asher]

He's gay, he's not a cannibal. If you're okay with it, just tell him you're okay with it.

BTW, nice sig.

[Inverse Icarus]

Originally posted by loinburger
Your friend should avoid wearing buttless leather chaps. That tends to solve most problems of this nature.

[MrFun]

Originally posted by Asher
He's gay, he's not a cannibal. If you're okay with it, just tell him you're okay with it.

BTW, nice sig.

Exactly -- if you have not caught them in actual sex, but just making out, I'm sure neither of you will blow this out of proportion.

Now, on the other hand, if you saw one of them receiving something special in that special area, well -- I can understand your being VERY uncomfortable.

[Asher]

How much do you wanna bet the kid says he's bisexual and not gay?

[MrFun]

You're asking a poor, starving college student to make a bet?

[Asher]

Okay, a farmer's bet then.

So many gay kids tell their male friends they're bi just so they can still be "one of the guys" that it gives the real bis a bad name.

[MrFun]

Originally posted by Asher
Okay, a farmer's bet then.

So many gay kids tell their male friends they're bi just so they can still be "one of the guys" that it gives the real bis a bad name.

Unless you count coming from a rural town as living on a farm, I have never lived on a farm. I know shocker -- an Iowan who has never lived with livestock.

And I knew what you were implying -- probably does happen often enough, that a gay person at first likes to think he is bisexual.

[orange]

i don't see what the problem is.

Would you have reacted the same way if he was with a girl?

Does it bother you, Uber?

[Tuberski]

Don't let it slide. Talk about it now before anything else happens.

Even if you are okay with it, waiting can make things worse, even if there is no reason for it to be worse.

[Asher]

Yeah, the worst thing is not talk about it at all or wait a long time.

What you should have done is reacted less "OH MY GOD!!" and more "Whoops, sorry dude. Have fun, I'll be back later".

[orange]

if the reaction was bad...just talk to him, say it was unexpected and that you're cool with it (if you are)

[David Floyd]

What you should have done is reacted less "OH MY GOD!!" and more "Whoops, sorry dude. Have fun, I'll be back later".

I agree.

[Jon Miller]

but he was shocked

and I see no reason why he sholdn't have been

if my current housemate walked in on me with a girl, I would have expect a similiar response (Oh my God!)

Jon Miller