How hard is it to seduce a woman?

[Lorizael]

What if they say several times a night, "Hey Ben, come over here!" and then hugs me. For several minutes at a time.

And what if, when talking to a large group of people, she looks at me.

Would those be considered signals as well?

[Asher]

You can always grab her ass and see how she responds if in any doubt.

[Urban Ranger]

Originally posted by Lorizael
What I want to know is, how do you know when a woman is trying to seduce you? What are these signals you all speak of? I am socially blind.

Okay, the nonverbal cues include:

- Frequent eye contact, as Glonk pointed out. Pay attention to the duration of eye contacts too. Ones that are abnormally long (you think she's staring at you) or short (that she looks away quickly as if she doesn't want you to notice that she's looking at you).

- Her orientation. For example, if there are three people talking, will her body and your body face each other directly so the third person seems to be shut out.

- How her feet (standing) or knees (sitting) points. At you, preferably

- Signs of nervousness, such as playing with her hair.

- When she starts licking her finger while looking at you from the corner of her eye. You cannnot miss this one

[Loif]

Or if she starts licking YOUR fingers. Definite giveaway.

**Sorry, couldn't resist**

[Urban Ranger]

Originally posted by Lorizael
What if they say several times a night, "Hey Ben, come over here!" and then hugs me. For several minutes at a time.

And what if, when talking to a large group of people, she looks at me.

Would those be considered signals as well?

More or less.

Other signals include:

- When there is a choice of where to sit, she sits next to you
- Frequent body contacts
- Pupil dilated (this is a definite signal)
- Grooming
- Frequent self-touching

[Asher]

Or a more modern example is when the girl keeps asking for your ICQ/MSN/AIM contact information "just for fun" or something like that...

That's how I got my first girlfriend...I was foolish enough to think she wasn't flirting with me, gave her my ICQ#, and she ended up talking about how much she was obsessed with me over ICQ that night. Then she went on like "Oh why do I even bother, it's obvious you don't like me! ". (I really didn't like her like that). So I asked her out anyway, out of sympathy. Anyway she didn't last long.

[Lorizael]

Originally posted by Urban Ranger

- Pupil dilated (this is a definite signal)

That reminds me of either Data or Seven, I don't remember which one. The fact that they notice that.

She has licked my finger...

[BirdsRock]

Frogger 16 is nothing i was talkin to this chick who was HOT, i found out later she was 14!! ewwww

[Urban Ranger]

If she has licked your finger why are you on 'poly?

Go get her boy

[Dan Severn]

Originally posted by Urban Ranger
- Pupil dilated (this is a definite signal)

Then again, she might just be high. See my first post in this thread.

Heh heh heh.

[Loif]

I'm wondering the same thing...

[Urban Ranger]

Originally posted by Dan Severn
Then again, she might just be high. See my first post in this thread.

Heh heh heh.

Don't think alcohol is going to affect the size of your iris. Amount of ambient light will, however.

So why do you think candlelight dinners are considered romantic?

[Asher]

Originally posted by Urban Ranger
Don't think alcohol is going to affect the size of your iris.

High != Drunk

[Lorizael]

The reasons are three!

(1) Her and I are actually good friends.

(2) She has a boyfriend.

(3) And she wasn't entirely sober when this licking occurred...

[Dan Severn]

I just meant that any type of intoxication...

paves the road...

And paints the centerstripe...

Not to mention the speed limit is raised by a good 50 mph.