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i saw this on tv tonight and realized it was very much true, and not just among girls but i've noted cases in their 20's, 30's, and even up into the forties where silent bullying is used. Perhaps many of you poly people won't understand....let me clue you in a bit....
This happens for so many years to a person, they tend to snap..years of being blacklisted or snubbed because the "in-crowd" hates you and someother female has a psychotic beef with you.
THroughout elementary school i experienced it, but still maintained enough of a friend base that it hadn't quite sunk it. Girls using the war of words though. Spreading rumors, ganging up on you, trying to ruin a social reputation before it has really even begun at the age of 8. Back then, i remember participating in it...just so my current group would like me. We would fill up our lunch table quickly so that Stephanie with the fat stomach and bulging arse and poor sanitary habits wouldn't try and sit with us. I'd watch others snicker at her.
You get into a new beast in Junior high. From that point until my senior year of high school i never had a solid group of friends. INstead, i went from being a mediocre nerd with at least a medium circle to an absolute no one. almostover night all my friends found new circles and cliques to fit in with according to their athletic abilities or newly appointed social class. but i didn't get one. I was the odd girl. I was smarter than the rest. NOt pretty as the rest and about as clumsy as a donkey. I ate lunch alone. I got the spit balls thrown in my hair (ok..well..that was the guys)...back to the girls...
I remember the one time i thought i might have friend..my sophomore year in high school....for a short while..but the second i began "going out with"(i.e. kissing on the band bus) someone they dissapproved of (and refused to break up with him at their orders) i was snubbed....the circle closed...target of hallways snickering and hate notes stuck in the locker.
ANd like the article says..it all goes on "under the radar" because girls are supposed to be happy and sun shine all the time. I've experienced the female gang methods to some degree (although by far, to a much smaller degree and rate) since high school...
I'd like to know if men have a similar "under the radar" bullying or if you always use your fists? Have you had an emotional bully?
and ladies of poly??? what of your experiences?
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