For the record, I, too, am in computer science, and I know MANY gay guys.
You were ABSOLUTELY sure someone like Asher wouldn't be gay. See how far that got you?
Then of course you could say the same thing about my friends... ****
Let's be honest, here: despite huge strides, gays are still very much second-class citizens in even most of the Western world. While urban areas are often islands of total tolerance, large swaths of the rest of the world are not. Gay bashings still account for an inordinate number of hate crimes committed each year in the U.S. and Europe.
Before his spectacular coming out -- reportedly to head off tabloid newspaper attempts to discredit him -- Wowereit had few claims to fame either inside or outside the SPD. But his coming out made him instantly recognizable and madly popular in the city.
Westerwelle has just been the biggest political figure yet.
But of course gay bashing... hmm well it's difficult. I think I have pretty much stopped using the word gay as a negative attribute. Though every now and then you'd still hear it.
Find some gay people and become comfortable around them. I've seen this attitude before, and it's simply one of fear of the unknown. You haven't had any known encounters with gays, so you are weirded out by something that yous view as very alien. Once you actually get to know some gays as people, you'll find the fundamental truth: we're all human beings.
It just made me come to the believe that this "sexual openness" probably leads to more open relationships in general, but that doesn't really hold as I found out later and so far the empirism that this is based on lacks the ground a bit.
So of course you are right, I will have to meet some gay people to sort things out. I knew that when I was writing the thread starter, but I thought I post it anyway, since it probably provides a good ground for discussion and after all I wanted to meet gays and here on the board are several that would respond.
For what it's worth, no one has EVER guessed me to be "a gay" before in my life. Everyone is pretty-well stunned when I come out to them.
That's why you probably know more gay people than you know, there's tons out there like me. Many choose to just stay closeted to most people.
That's why you probably know more gay people than you know, there's tons out there like me. Many choose to just stay closeted to most people.
The stereotype doesn't hold very well, either.
So still what annoys me a bit now is that I get categorized as/called "straight". I don't really feel straight, I don't identify with straight livestyle (which is what?).
I want to say that probably the whole gay comming out will follow an identity crisis of heterosexual people. Because I get (or could get) called straight by a growing number of people, yet I don't know what being straight is about. I don't felt particular well on the eurogames page reading about straights and recognizing that'd mean me.
And probably that is why the gay community that we know nowadays was created in the first place.
Any thoughts?
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