Ok, so I'm back again. The ask LTEC thread is back on!

[Ted Striker]

Originally posted by Albert Speer
who wants to treat women right and his love perfectly. is there something wrong with this?

YES

[Solly]

Get down to earth Albert! Relationships don't start with poetry and flowers. Girls don't expect or want that bull**** - and anyway, there's nothing in that that the next man couldn't fake too. Act yourself - not this overblown, metrosexual, romantic fool that the media likes to tell us guys to be.

And take a look at www.sosuave.com

[JohnT]

Originally posted by Albert Speer
but arent i mature? i never had that horny, rambucous teenager stage. i never did anything wrong; never rebelled; never did drugs; never had sex. i'm just a young man dreaming of better days... dreaming that he can reach the stars though he obviously never will. is that immature?

Albert, you whine and mope. And girls don't like whiners or mopers. It's that simple.

[JohnT]

Originally posted by Albert Speer
as hard as it may seem for you to believe, i'm a nice, sweet, and loving guy who wants to treat women right and his love perfectly. is there something wrong with this? is this horse****? do i beget horse**** and drivel?

But you do so by imposing what you think women want and need, not by what they actually want or need. Why date a condescending sap who doesn't really think that you're as capable as a guy (which is what this all boils down to), when there are 3,000,000,000 others out there who won't condescend?

[Last Conformist]

@AS: You're more pathetic than me.

[Ted Striker]

Yeah but you're Irresitably Attractive

[Shogun Gunner]

Clearly in threadjack land now.

[LTEC!]

Oh Jeez Speer,
Are you looking for validation for your current unsuccessful behavior or do you really want to make a change that will benefit you?
Nobody is sugar coating the truth here for you, since it isn't always pretty.
Stop, Look, listen and Learn. Nobody here has ANYTHING to gain from this but you.

[Solly]

Hey Striker did you agree with my advice?

[MichaeltheGreat]

Originally posted by Albert Speer
MtG:



why does it seem that you have no love in your cold heart?

Because apparently you think putting women on a pedestal ("God's most perfect creation") where (a) they are objects, (b) they can't live up to your (or anyone else's) concept of being "God's most perfect creation", and (c) when you spout horse**** like that, you come across as not seeing a woman for the human being she is, but as some mythical creature of your own invention, and the actual woman in question has merely to live up to your standard of what she should be.

as hard as it may seem for you to believe, i'm a nice, sweet, and loving guy

So was Ted Bundy. Your point? What you are is absolutely meaningless if you remain so self-absorbed in your own ideas and concepts of what women should be and how relationships should be, that you don't treat women (or whoever else you deal with) as independent human beings, each with their own thoughts, feelings, motivations, and intentions. AND RIGHTS. I.e. the right to make their own decisions, pick their own priorities, and do things according to their way, not what you think their way should be.

who wants to treat women right and his love perfectly.

There is no such thing as treating anyone or anything "perfectly." Screw perfection, because honey, you ain't close, and neither is anyone else you're going to deal with in this lifetime. Be yourself, and let other people be themselves.

is there something wrong with this?

Yes, see above and just about everyone else's related post.

is this horse****?

It is such a steaming, monumental mound of horse****, the likes of which Stuart's, Napoleon's and Alexander's cavalry could not produce in ten thousand years.

do i beget horse**** and drivel?

Do you really want me to answer, or was this a rhetorical question?

[Al B. Sure!]

i dont understand. in essence, yall are telling me to not be nice. that cant be a better alternative... i have to be an arse like a british poster on here whose name rhymes with pink? really now?

[Solly]

Keep it up

[Al B. Sure!]

MtG

for some reason you think i'm dominating. if anythign, im the opposite extreme... i always leave it up to the girl where to go, what to do, etc. something which i thought was a bad thing because it dont show my alpha male properties.

[Solly]

"i always leave it up to the girl where to go, what to do, etc. something which i thought was a bad thing because it dont show my alpha male properties."

Have you been to www.sosuave.com yet?

[Al B. Sure!]

i have no intention of being a pimp, spink... the don juan site isnt designed for relationships only one night stands.

im still trying to get to the crux of what yall are saying. i shouldnt treat a girl special but just as a person? thats an odd dilemna for me because if id want to be with a girl, that girl has to be better than other people in my eyes or why would i want to be with her? right? if i try to lower my opinion of her and see her as any other girl then i'd lose interest in her, right? is there some way of devalueing a person and still liking them? i know youll say, but your high values are false and no girl will fulfill them, etc. but stop that nonsense. some people sure as hell are better than everybody else. if i meet a girl who is beautiful, smart, etc. and has every trait that makes her superior to the common man, are you saying i should convince myself she is not superior?

as for confidence... ive been told many times by christian people that my apparently extreme pride is a sin but i guess there's a difference between pride and confidence. i dont know.