Ok, so I'm back again. The ask LTEC thread is back on!

[Ted Striker]

Originally posted by Albert Speer
ted, yes i have and it doesn't work. ends up having the situation of them liking some other guy and me feeling awkward and then them saying no i can't be with you ramsey because i dont want to hurt our friendship.

Okay so it sounds like you think you are inadequate and not worthy of having someone in your life.

Ask yourself what it is about you that makes you feel that way. Make a list and then proceed to cross them off. Get some tunnel vision and attack that sh1t like a wild animal and let nothing stop you until you cross every last one of those things off.

The very first thing I've noticed is that you don't like the way you look. Well, let me tell you, THAT IS THE EASIEST THING in the world to fix. It's the other stuff that is hard.

As for the harder stuff, the best thing you can do is to find something you are good at and make it your thing. If you find something that you have alot of esteem in, everything else just seems to take care of itself.

If you don't know what that "thing" is, then I AM TELLING YOU, go volunteer somewhere. It is like magic.

Let me also say that your situation is not unique (not to minimize it) but alot of 18 year olds feel the same way. In time you can be a Player like Park Avenue.

[LTEC!]

Originally posted by Albert Speer
so i'm hopeless?

Oh jeez, no.
But there are people who never mature. Please don't be one of those people.

[Al B. Sure!]

Okay so it sounds like you think you are inadequate and not worthy of having someone in your life.

Ask yourself what it is about you that makes you feel that way.

well having been quickly cheated on and dumped by every girl who has shown interest in me... and how about the girl who said she would say yes to the next guy who asked her out but then said i was too ugly for her when i immediately asked her out. and she's a real nice girl who's been my friend for years so she wasnt a random *****. the sting of such an insult of fact is worse when it comes from a friend.

how is it easy to change the way i look? i'm not going to do plastic surgery to change my facial structure.

and i'm 19. im getting old

[LTEC!]

Originally posted by CorpusScorpius
No your not hopeless & heck your very young....... there is plenty of time for what you may want out of life....... relax... breathe in............. breathe out......... repeat.........

ok heres my question LTEC do you have dual citizenship?

Nope.
Mexican citizen. No residency anywhere else.

[Al B. Sure!]

but arent i mature? i never had that horny, rambucous teenager stage. i never did anything wrong; never rebelled; never did drugs; never had sex. i'm just a young man dreaming of better days... dreaming that he can reach the stars though he obviously never will. is that immature?

[Ted Striker]

Changing the way you look is easy. Get 8 hours of sleep a night. Work out. Drink alot of water. Clean up your diet and take vitamins. Get a hair cut. Wear nice clothes instead of a t-shirt and old jeans. You don't have to spend a grip on it. If you can't dress yourself get a girl friend to help pick stuff out for you.

As for those girls, would you really want to be with someone who is that shallow anyway?

19 is not old that's part of your problem!!!!! You have your entire life ahead of you!!!!!!!!!

[Al B. Sure!]

Ted striker:

i get more than 8 hours of sleep. i do work out though since i graduated high school, i havent been able to get in my daily hour or more of bball. i drink a gallon of water (and quite a lot of milk) a day. my diet may be rough i dont know. i have very short hair. my attire consists of Sean John, Rocawear, State Prop, etc. with Lugz boots so i'm wearing 200 dollars of clothes on me at all times. i even wear name brand boxer shorts.

thats the thing, ted. i try. i try my hardest and i seem to fail.

[Al B. Sure!]

the problem, ted, isnt with my clothes. its my face. superficially, i'm good looking but somehow the bone structure or something doesnt work out. i mean my picture is right there under my screen-name. i'm not obviously ugly like i got deformed face or something but there's some inexplicible thing about me that is ugly

[LTEC!]

Its not how you dress it, its how you carry yourself.
If you portray yourself as a the puppy-love-awestricken-doormat...you won't get far in a relationship.
Ever thought of treating girls as equals??

BTW, not getting in trouble and not doing drugs just means that you didn't do it. On ocassion its better to live and learn than to just not have a life.

[Ted Striker]

I don't know

Maybe you took one person's opinion to heart

Maybe your breath smells

The bone structure thing I don't buy

You know how brothers in the hood are always going after those big sistas? You know the ones with the big booties? I mean the ones so big you can put a drink on top? Well personally I don't think that's attractive but they seem to go nuts over it!

Anyway the point is don't let one person's opinon of you make your perception of yourself.

[Al B. Sure!]

LTEC:

equal? women are god's most perfect creation... how can i or any man be equal to them?


Ted:

my breath doesn't smell. i have a constant supply of mints and tic tacs on the ready. and it would help if it wasnt just that one girl. it's continual.

its bizarre. i have random girls on the street telling me i look so cute but when it comes to a relationship, i'm suddenly ugly.

[CorpusScorpius]

Man I would gladly change my age for yours (as long as I can keep the knowledge I have gained over the years) Do what TS said volunteer a little of your time for a worthwhile cause.. Maybe try dating some different types of females ( dont limit yourself to just one type or group of women) Its my understanding you are in college & more than likely on summer break... When you go back to school in the fall, there should be plenty of females at school....... LTEC is right be friends with the females you run across .... How you perceive yourself is how everyone will see you... Chin Up Back Straight ....

[MichaeltheGreat]

Originally posted by Albert Speer
LTEC:

equal? women are god's most perfect creation... how can i or any man be equal to them?

That sort of syrupy horse**** would make most women puke. Just because you feel a need to feel inferior while putting women on a (rather patronizing) pedestal doesn't mean any woman is going to buy it. Except for a few minutes until it gets boring.

[Q Classic]

with women, you have to know that they too are fallible. they just don't want you to call them on it all the time--

in fact, they're like anybody else. they don't want you to make a big show of their weakness, but they want you, in any relationship, to know that it's there.

[Al B. Sure!]

MtG:

That sort of syrupy horse**** would make most women puke.

why does it seem that you have no love in your cold heart?


as hard as it may seem for you to believe, i'm a nice, sweet, and loving guy who wants to treat women right and his love perfectly. is there something wrong with this? is this horse****? do i beget horse**** and drivel?