Married people respond!

[ghen]

a friend, but not a best friend Although, I've never had the opportunity to date/marry a female who I concidered my best friend :P

[BeBMan]

So when can we expect your marriage, Paik?

[Bereta_Eder]

Originally posted by rah
Look for a friend. One you can share with.

They are both my friends, my current girlfriend and my ex. The first is closer to how I see things but also a bit volatile (like me) the second was like a Virgin Mary! She'd never counter anything I say, never get angry, never having an opinion! Just happy to tag along to the point that the way I saw it, she was actually pulling my leg big time or she's REALLY like that, empty. And we couldn't connect unless connect means having the other say "yes" to whatever you say.

I'm wondering what makes "better wives" knowing full well the absurde width of the topic. But just listening to opinions

BeBro, nothing like that in the horizon, thank you!

[Drogue]

I don't know. I'd like to consider a partner as my best friend. The person I go to first when I'm down, who I tell everything too, who I know is there for me, and who I'm there for. That's an important part of a relationship IMHO.

[el freako]

Speaking as someone who has been married for 13 years - definately the former.

[VetLegion]

Aw, ****, sounds like a real dilemma. Sorry that I can't help you with that, I am no way near thinking of marriage. Perhaps if Turkey invades you can have both in your harem? j/k ofcourse . Good luck.

[Bugs ****ing Bunny]

The ideal wife is a best friend that you continually want to jump into bed with.

Out of your two options, it's got to be the first.

[Bereta_Eder]

I see most married people chose the 1st choice easily. Thanks for telling. The question is one of these things that just start running in your mind sometimes.

[Dis]

you forgot the third option.

mail order brides.

[Drogue]

Originally posted by Lazarus and the Gimp
The ideal wife is a best friend that you continually want to jump into bed with.

I'm not sure I agree. You could have that, with no love or affection. I think it's important to be friends, and to be sexually attracted, but IMHO the emotion for the other person and the affection are more important. In a relationship like that, I would feel empty at times, without the emotion and affection to fill it.

[axi]

Paiktis is geting married!!!

I'd go for the first option too. I can't stand people that won't do or say anything to intrigue me, their flatness annoys me. But the other type of people (as per your first description) are rather rare to find, IMO.

[Grandpa Troll]

Originally posted by Drogue
I'm unmarried, but I'll give my opinion anyway.

The first. It is far more fulfilling to have a relationship with someone with whom you are 'connected' with, where there's a bond and where you understand each other, than a marriage of convenience, as the last seems.

I'm exceedingly lucky in that my girlfriend has both. She understands me, even when I'm so incoherant I wouldn't understand it myself, she can almost read my mind at times, but she also remembers my key when I forget it, or remembers when there's a program I want to watch. It's such a cliche, but so true, that whenever I think she won't get any better, she just does

But, your not married and it takes a lot more for a marriage to work than not work. I understand you mean well by saying "connect" but actually people do grow to love each other and grow
It is easier to say "The heck with it" versus roughriding the hardtimes,[growing] and relishing in the great times. We have been married 18+ years, both of us were previously married. I have to say, Rocky Roads to start with but wouldnt change my life with her for anything!

I Thank God for my Sweetheart Wife!

I say if you find someone to spend your Life with, pray about it and have a heartfelt long talk with one another, ask what happens if the initial attraction, be it looks,sex,position in society/life or social status/business status wears off or goes away, Physical/mental/emotional infirmities seet in, monies dwindle away,

What then?

like the words two recite in ceremony.."Richer or poorer".."In sickness & In Health" "For Better or worse"


I think sometimes that is what happens in life//misconceptions/misinterpretations/dissilioshionment (OK i cant spell!)


I hereby Salute all those whom have shown committment and dedication to a lifetime of sweet wedded Bliss, not a "Technically-The-Same" statement of living together but a committment and a bond of Heavenly Matromony!


Peace

Grandpa "Still-In-Love-with-my-beautiful-Bride" Troll

[The Andy-Man]

marry someone you hate. that way you can never fall out of love, and if things go well, you may even grow to like eachother.

Money helps to

[Alexander's Horse]

Originally posted by Drogue
I'm unmarried, but I'll give my opinion anyway.

I think friendship is most important. You need to live together for a long time and you aren't exactly going to be "in love" with each other all the time.

[Ted Striker]

does Greece recognize same sex marriages though?