How to Punish Children

[mrmitchell]

If the spanking makes him pissed off, he might be too old for it. How old did you say he was?

[SlowwHand]

Phases. Rockets had stages, people have phases.

[Arrian]

Well, having never been spanked as a child did not result in me misbehaving, at least not any more than anyone else I knew, spanked or not.

I hated the thought of disappointing my parents, and that was often enough to keep me in check.

I imagine that if I had grown up with siblings close in age (I do have 1/2 brothers & sisters who are much older), things could have been a tad more interesting. My brother's 3 boys are harder to control.

-Arrian

[Japher]

Corpus:

I saw a kid in Target throwing a fit on the ground, and his mom kept asking to stand up. I thought, what a stupid mom, so a began rolling around on the floor demanding that my wife buy me a new toy.

Kid stopped being a brat.

In that case you showed them the stupidity of their actions.

What are you to do when your kid punchs someone at school, or hits his sister? Are you going to hit his sister too? The stupidity of their action can not be demonstrated without amusing the child and hurting someone else, yet the stupidity of their action can be displayed by hitting the kid...

[Maniac]

I made a pint to hug my children after I spanked them and told them I loved them.

Apparently that's exactly what you absolutely don't have to do. First you beat them and a minute later you hug them and say you love them. You'll be confusing the child and it won't know if his or her action was good or bad.

[Arrian]

She (my daughter) began to throw a major tantrum. I was trying to reason w/ her but it was not working. I did not want to spank her in public so I decided on a different method...........I began Jumping Up & Down & demanding that she behave very loudly.The adults around us were laughing. My daughter became Extremely Embarassed & started to cry. Mission accomplished!!! She has not thrown a fit with me ever since.

That's a good one.

-Arrian

[Arrian]

What are you to do when your kid punchs someone at school, or hits his sister? Are you going to hit his sister too? The stupidity of their action can not be demonstrated without amusing the child and hurting someone else, yet the stupidity of their action can be displayed by hitting the kid

I'm sorry, but I just cannot accept that you can teach a child that violence is bad by hitting them. Full stop.

-Arrian

[Japher]

First you beat them and a minute later you hug them and say you love them.

Prep fpr S&M

[Maniac]

I saw a kid in Target throwing a fit on the ground, and his mom kept asking to stand up. I thought, what a stupid mom, so a began rolling around on the floor demanding that my wife buy me a new toy.

She (my daughter) began to throw a major tantrum. I was trying to reason w/ her but it was not working. I did not want to spank her in public so I decided on a different method...........I began Jumping Up & Down & demanding that she behave very loudly

[Japher]

I'm sorry, but I just cannot accept that you can teach a child that violence is bad by hitting them

So, how would you teach them? Wait until they can reason properly/maturly?

My mom got me to stop hitting everyone by enrolling me in Karate at age 6. Can't remember a thing on how to fight, but I did learn that my elders are to be respected, and that it hurts to get kicked or punched...

[Arrian]

I like the "time out" concept. It is immediate, and it is a punishment combined with getting them to a quiet spot where they can calm down.

Like I said, my parents never had the need to smack me, and I turned out fine.

My aunt's kids (2 brothers & a sister) look like they are gonna turn out great, and to my knowledge they've never been hit either.

My brother's 3 boys appear to be doing ok, though they were more unruly. They were occasionally smacked.

-Arrian

[Mercator]

Spanking is wrong, at all times.

Respect, love and attention, but also clear rules and discipline, that's what kids need.

And school DOES have a job in raising kids, apart from plain academia. As long as the parents don't forget their part. But teachers should respect and care for their students.
There's nothing worse than a teacher who does nothing but scribble his notes on the board and snarls at you when you're not doing well.

[CorpusScorpius]

My mom was the disciplinarian in the family. She administered the whippings which were very infrequent (belt, switch, hot wheel track)up until i was10. Grounding from there on out. I would have rather had a whipping than grounding. I think that U need to look at each situation & an act accordingly. Also it is hard for some parents to pick the appropriate from of punishment while they are angry.

[Meldor]

I assume these comments are directed at me? It is obvious that you have absolutely no idea what you are talking about. I will however refrain from putting it into words.

Originally posted by mrmitchell
Spanking a 15 year old daughter is more of sexual harrasment than punishment.

If you think that punishment of children has anything to do with either sex or power, I would advise you to visit a mental health facility soon. I find I hav no need to spank her because she is beyond those behaviors that are bad enough to be spankable. She behaves and not out of fear. She knows she will no longer be spanked. The lessons by this time are either learned or not.

Originally posted by mrmitchell Likewise, by the time your child is 11 years old, he should have the ability to reason out the whole grounding thing and you don't need to spank him, unless you have raised an incredible idiot.

Wrong agasin. While he is at an age in which he can indeed reason out the fact that taking away priviledges is connected to the behavior, it still is not to the point that he cares enough about future actions, beyond a handfull of days. While he knows that school will start soon, he dosn't really care and won't think about it seriously until it is a matter of days away. However, most of his transgressions are the type in which he doen't think ahgead about the reactions to his actions. He will run with a knive, not because he doesn't know that running with a knife is dangerous, he knows it, he just doesn't think about what could happen. He is likely to try things on the spur of the moment and not think about it in depth. Most of his punishment consists of sitting him down and expaining to him just what could have happened in minor cases, and applying re-enforcement to the lesson in major cases.

As far as their behavoir, intellegence and social developement, I will be happy to stack them up against you or any children you have managed to procreate.

[Japher]

each situation & an act accordingly

Corpus; so you would condone spanking, if necessary. I know I needed it as a kid...

Also it is hard for some parents to pick the appropriate from of punishment while they are angry.

Good point. I ussually got sent to my room first... then spanked and released... or tagged and released as my dad called it...

If you think that punishment of children has anything to do with either sex or power

it was a joke... hence the

I agree with the rest of the post