Relationship advise from a Cavalry Trooper

[Dinner]

Originally posted by Pekka
I have a realtionship problem. No relationship. Help me Lancer. I prefer American girls.

Oh, this one is easy! All you have to do is walk up to them and wow them with your "European accent" and they will assume you are suave and sophisticated. You'll have her knickers around her ankles in no time.

[Pekka]

Oerdin, my problem is not sex. My problem is actually having a meaningful relationship and really really like the girl, and she likes me back the same way. Maybe even love, I don't know about that since I haven't felt that.
It always ends up quickly. Now I'm tired of women. I don't even care about sex. I want to do it with a woman I respect and like and go out with.
Otherwise I can just be home, pop up new DVD and do it myself.

I'm just unable to... I don't know.

I'm slowly getting used to the idea that I'm just better off alone I guess. If that's what it will be, then fine, I'll just have to make the best of it. Sometimes I really don't like women at all, because all they think is that all I think is sex, when in fact they think more about sex than me usually. As of now that is, because I'm tired of even watching porn, which was great fun once. Now, I simply just don't care about it. Not until I find someone I respect. And that's the hard part, I have never found anyone. Like never.

[Dinner]

Well, let's see what the cavalry trooper says. He's in the advice business.

[Ned]

Originally posted by Pekka
Oerdin, my problem is not sex. My problem is actually having a meaningful relationship and really really like the girl, and she likes me back the same way. Maybe even love, I don't know about that since I haven't felt that.
It always ends up quickly. Now I'm tired of women. I don't even care about sex. I want to do it with a woman I respect and like and go out with.
Otherwise I can just be home, pop up new DVD and do it myself.

I'm just unable to... I don't know.

I'm slowly getting used to the idea that I'm just better off alone I guess. If that's what it will be, then fine, I'll just have to make the best of it. Sometimes I really don't like women at all, because all they think is that all I think is sex, when in fact they think more about sex than me usually. As of now that is, because I'm tired of even watching porn, which was great fun once. Now, I simply just don't care about it. Not until I find someone I respect. And that's the hard part, I have never found anyone. Like never.

Pekka, the trooper will put you straight. But women are no big deal. Just pay attention to them now and then, throw them a bone when they snarl, so to speak, and they'll be happy.

[Pekka]

Ned, true.. but I get bored to them in few weeks tops, if I meet someone. There has been two occations that I really did find them interesting and wanted to go on, but they dumped me after short while, so.. I don't know.
I just get super bored I don't want to see their faces or hear their voices after short time. I don't know why.
There has been few that I didn't get bored, quite the opposite, but they got bored of me .

I just can't find _interesting_ women. I want to find someone who is able to intrique me with her intelligence and has super weird humor and likes to laugh and smile. If they're intelligent, they don't have that weird humor I like. If they have that weird humor, well.. then the other one is missing. Doesn't even have to be a 'babe', I care about the inside, like really and not just saying it. My type is hard to find and rare, but I'm just so stupid, that I just can't see myself with other types, I get bored and I just don't care about them.

They must have brains, they must have their own opinions about things. If we have different opinions, even better, but if I get them to say what I want or give up their opinion too easily, well.. I'm simply not interested then. I don't care about normal boring stuff, I don't say I hate normal stuff, but I don't find them interesting. I want a weirdo with personal looks. I find personal looks pretty, not stereotype big boobs, blond hair stuff.. but personal. I don't mind few extra pounds in the weist, but it must be personal. And I don't mean they have to be einstein intelligent, but.. at least not stupid and with own thoughts and the ability to think and make up their own minds.

And when it comes to looks, I don't like the stereotype I find here all the time. Some foreign looks are very beautiful. So basically outside Finland.

But I'm not perfect either, so it's not like every girl falls for me if I want. If I talk about myself and my dreams... it's definitely turn off for most . But with interesting ones I don't want to lie, I want to be honest because there's more than one night sex at stake.. when they ask what I want to be or do and when I answer.. they get shocked and angry at me. Yeah.. like a walk in a park!

[Dinner]

Originally posted by Ned
Pekka, the trooper will put you straight. But women are no big deal. Just pay attention to them now and then, throw them a bone when they snarl, so to speak, and they'll be happy.

Jesus, have I been dating the wrong women or what? of the five long term relationships I've been in four of them can easily be described as "high maintance".

[Pekka]

And my problem is more of finding them than keeping them with me. Or at least I need to find them and then I can come back and whine that I can't keep them .

Also they must be independent. But not independent with an attitude from hell. Independet as in can enjoy things herself without me, can do lots of things by herself and maybe doesn't even need me in that way. Could do just as good her own. Yeah..

[Dinner]

I once knew a Finnish girl when I was in school (we never dated though) and she drop dead gorgious but she was also one of the most introverted people I've met. I mean were she said she'd often go out of her way not to talk to stragers because she hated talking to people she didn't know.

How the heck do you get to know someone if you don't talk to new people? she even told me that lots of people in Finland had the same out look as she did. How can this be?

[Pekka]

Definitely true. It might be hard for you to understand, but here strangers just don't talk. Plain and simple. No talking at all. It IS hard to get to know people if you're not active in any hobbies or in school or something. It is true. We feel uncomfortable about it.

[Ned]

Pekka, I'd stop looking for "intelligent" women. Women want a man who is more intelligent than they are. So if you and she are about "equal," she will leave.

Choose a girl who simply makes you happy to be with. Amazingly, this is typically a girl just like mom, so don't fight it. Go with the flow.

[Japher]

Amazingly, this is typically a girl just like mom, so don't fight it. Go with the flow.

Just do date your mom!!!

I don't know about Pekka sometimes, but it sounds like a lot of the problem is that Pekka is will to compromise with these ladies. That will change when he meets the right one, however.

[Alphaman]

Yeh ummm I got this "friend" see, and he's got a crush on this "girl" and ummm he doesn't know what to do about it. His name is Cletus and he lives out on a farm just down the road from me about 4 hours. Anyways, he gets real lonlely like and there ain't no one on the farm but him and the this girl Bessie. Cletus gets up every mornin' and goes to see Bessie and touches her teats and all but he doesn't seem to be able to take their relationship to the next level. Please help my love-struck friend.

[Skanky Burns]

[monolith94]

Hey Lancer, what's your opinion of long distance relationships?

[Lancer]

Pekka, lighten up guy, it's all a stupid joke. Of course I can't know you and I'm sure you're just fine.