It's probably onions.

[ZEE]

LOL AAHZ is so glad he doesn't let a parasitic female leech control his thoughts, emotions, and finances. AAHZ was blessed to have a disastrous relationship in his mid-20's that taught him to avoid all future relationships for the rest of his life. No kids, no crazy ex's still in my life, and no problems.

I don't know Lori personally, but since AAHZ has a moar damaged mind than he does (certified,) Lori would be wise to listen to me and how I conquered not only life, but my own insanity.

[pchang]

I still recommend a round of ECT.

[Lorizael]

also the point is not your ex or your evil best friend. you just use them to hide from getting a girlfriend.
because you're not ready, not sentimentally mature, not in a good psychological position (the most likely)
they have nothing to do with it. it's you. and you're using them
but you're using the wrong tools and doing so drags you down.
in short, you're not helping yourself

Seems to me that my ex getting married wrecking me pretty well disqualifies me for a relationship. Any potential girlfriend would be rightly put off.

[ZEE]

I still recommend a round of ECT.

Me too! I can put that under my belt like when I was 5150'd for 3 months!

Street cred, homie.

[Proteus_MST]

Seems to me that my ex getting married wrecking me pretty well disqualifies me for a relationship. Any potential girlfriend would be rightly put off.

Maybe with a new gf you wouldn't care so much about your Ex getting married

[pchang]

You guys don't understand. Lori's whole problem is his inability to stay in the moment. None of this GF stuff will help. He needs to fundamentally change his way of thinking. This requires one of the following:
1) Cognitive therapy - this will take a looooonnngg time and might not ever actually work
2) Drugs - this requires careful calibration and adjustment from a good doctor
or
3) ECT - literally tries to rewire how one thinks

I believe Lori is only willing to try #1. I believe his fears surrounding #2 and #3 are irrational, but no one can force him. #2 and #3 have pretty good success rates, but nothing is guaranteed.

[OneFootInTheGrave]

#2 and #3 are somewhat reversible lobotomy (depends on the administration, service, etc), not worth it unless you are into self harm.

#1 should be perused, and therapists changed like socks, until you find one that works for you.

Other than that - evil best friend - what's the worst that can happen?

It may be the temporary relief that you need, but consume with caution.

[Lorizael]

Lori's whole problem is his inability to stay in the moment.

This is absolutely a very big problem of mine.

1) Cognitive therapy - this will take a looooonnngg time and might not ever actually work

Been seeing the same therapist (doing CBT) for the last three and a half years. (I've seen a variety of mental health professionals sporadically over the last 12 or 13 years.) She's helped immensely, but "staying in the moment" is not something we've worked directly on much.

2) Drugs - this requires careful calibration and adjustment from a good doctor

I took antidepressants semi-regularly from 2008 to 2014 (and irreguarly before then). None of them helped me stay in the moment, and I don't think they were designed to. I stopped taking the antidepressants at the end of 2014 and I've been able to function well and stably since then (and even now, really).

3) ECT - literally tries to rewire how one thinks

No mental health professional I've ever interacted with has suggested ECT as a potential treatment for any of my problems.

[C0ckney]

you should try some casual sex to take your mind off things.

[Lorizael]

Maybe with a new gf you wouldn't care so much about your Ex getting married

you should try some casual sex to take your mind off things.

My hang ups over my ex are part of what ****ed up my brief foray into casual sex.

[Lorizael]

My favorite song to listen to when I'm obsessing over women:

Before the story begins, is it such a sin,
for me to take what's mine, until the end of time
We were more than friends, before the story ends,
And I will take what's mine, create what
God would never design

Our love had been so strong for far too long,
I was weak with fear that
something would go wrong,
before the possibilities came true,
I took all possibility from you
Almost laughed myself to tears(hahaha)
conjuring her deepest fears
(come here you ****ing *****)

Must have stabbed her fifty ****ing times,
I can't believe it,
Ripped her heart out right before her eyes,
Eyes over easy, eat it eat it eat it

She was never this good in bed
even when she was sleepin'
now she's just so perfect I've
never been quite so ****ing deep in
it goes on and on and on,
I can keep you lookin' young and preserved forever,
with a fountain to spray on your youth whenever

'Cause I really always knew that my little crime
would be cold that's why I got a heater for your thighs
and I know, I know it's not your time
but bye, bye
and a word to the wise when the fire dies
you think it's over but it's just begun
baby don't cry

You had my heart, at least for the most part
'cause everybody's gotta die sometime, we fell apart
let's make a new start
'cause everybody's gotta die sometime yeah
but baby don't cry

Now possibilities I'd never considered,
are occurring the likes of which I'd never heard,
Now an angry soul comes back from beyond the grave,
to repossess a body with which I'd misbehaved

Smiling right from ear to ear
Almost laughed herself to tears

Must have stabbed him fifty ****ing times
I can't believe it
Ripped his heart out right before his eyes
Eyes over easy
Eat it eat it eat it

Now that it's done I realize the error of my ways
I must venture back to apologize from somewhere far beyond the grave

I gotta make up for what I've done
'Cause I was all up in a piece of heaven
while you burned in hell, no peace forever

'Cause I really always knew that my little crime
would be cold that's why I got a heater for your thighs
and I know, I know it's not your time
but bye, bye
and a word to the wise when the fire dies
you think it's over but it's just begun
but baby don't cry

You had my heart, at least for the most part
'Cause everybody's gotta die sometime, We fell apart
Let's make a new start
'Cause everybody's gotta die sometime yeah
But baby don't cry

I will suffer for so long
(What will you do, not long enough)
To make it up to you
(I pray to God that you do)
I'll do whatever you want me to do
(Well then I'll grant you a chance)
And if it's not enough
(If it's not enough, If it's not enough)
If it's not enough
(Not enough)
Try again
(Try again)
And again
(And again)
Over and over again
(Over and over again)
We're coming back, coming back
We'll live forever, live forever
Let's have a wedding, have a wedding
Let's start the killing, start the killing

Do you take this man in death for the rest of your unnatural life?
(Yes, I do.)
Do you take this woman in death for the rest of your unnatural life?
(I do.)
I now pronounce you...

'Cause I really always knew that my little crime
would be cold that's why I got a heater for your thighs
and I know, I know it's not your time
but bye, bye
And a word to the wise when the fire dies
you think it's over but it's just begun
but baby don't cry

You had my heart, at least for the most part
'Cause everybody's gotta die sometime, we fell apart
Let's make a new start
'Cause everybody's gotta die sometime yeah
But baby don't cry

[Aeson]

ECT did help me in a round-about way. Though a big change in meds (from nasty stuff to cold turkey) at the same time clouds the effects.

ECT helped me let go of the past for a while. It was only temporary though. When things started to return though it was very hard. In some ways harder than it was before. If that had been the only effect it would have almost surely killed me.

Changes in my relationship with my family, my view of psychiatry, and a different ideological viewpoint for a short while ... all resulted from the experience and eventually lead to overcoming my problems. But those types of things could go either way.

[ZEE]

Either moast of you idiots have AAHZ on ignore or have not been reading my poasts the past 3 months, but let me state again that AAHZ has defeated the same insanity that Lori is struggling with now with lettuce and cheese on top. AAHZ CERTIFIED and 5150'D. And I won. AAHZ defeated that shit. AAHZ KNOWS how to defeat that shit. Yet you listen to people like Pchang. Makes AAHZ a little mad.

AAHZ knows how to help Lori. Yet Lori only knows AAHZ from 2007 and has no idea that he defeated a disease that puts most people on the streets and addicted. Either listen to AAHZ or fail.

That's really your only options at this point. Therapists wont help. Medication MIGHT help.

AAHZ WILL HELP. Your move, nutslaps.

[Proteus_MST]

...

Been seeing the same therapist (doing CBT) for the last three and a half years. (I've seen a variety of mental health professionals sporadically over the last 12 or 13 years.) She's helped immensely, but "staying in the moment" is not something we've worked directly on much.
...

CBT sounds painful

[Bereta_Eder]

Ok. Time for a sentimental song