My co-worker was breastfeeding in the office, and it was disgusting

[rah]

I consider it more artwork. You don't just glance at artwork. You look at it. Yeah long term staring is not good, but more than a glance should be expected.

[Lorizael]

I don't know. Dressy classy to look good is one thing. Putting a tat on your breast and displaying it is an invitation to look at it.
It's like wearing 6 inch heals. They can't be comfortable. There's a reason they call them stripper heals. They're to attract attention.

Try asking a woman why she got a tattoo rather than assuming. Presumably, if it was just to get attention, she'd wear a sign telling people to look at her breasts rather than permanently scarring her skin.

[giblets]

I saw a girl on the train this morning. She had a slightly larger than average chest and was showing considerable cleavage. She had an intricate tat on her left breast. Of course it drew my attention and I got caught staring. I got one of those pervert looks. REALLY. You get a tat on a breast and display it but if someone looks at it, they're the perv. What did she expect?

Maybe she wanted men closer to her age to look at it instead of pervy old men

[rah]

Wearing a pushup bra and exposing vast cleavage is a sign telling people to look at her breasts, regardless of why she thinks she's doing it.

I think putting a tat there and exposing it is similar. If only we had women here with tats on their breasts to ask.

[rah]

Maybe she wanted men closer to her age to look at it instead of pervy old men

I'll concede that one but it's not like I hit on her. I just looked longer than a peek. Hopefully I'll never be so old that I won't appreciate the view.

[Lorizael]

Wearing a pushup bra and exposing vast cleavage is a sign telling people to look at her breasts, regardless of why she thinks she's doing it.

If you legitimately believe women send this message even if they don't mean to, then you must also believe that people can be offensive without meaning to and that PC language isn't bull****.

[loinburger]

The lesson to be learned here is to wear sunglasses

[onodera]

rah, you're supposed to behave like a dirty old man and not a tongue-tied pervert. To quote Isaac Asimov:

Let us imagine that you are a dirty old man but are dedicated to keeping it a secret because you are a bank vice-president and are interested in exuding an odor of sanctity so that no one will notice, until it is too late, that you are preparing to abscond.

Now a lovely girl walks past you with a dress whose neckline is generously loose and under which there is clearly and obviously no bra. What do you do?

What you do is roll your eyes briefly in their sockets with the eyelashes lowered so that no one will see what you are doing. The result? You don't see anything at all, except perhaps for one flash of quiver that is far more upsetting than sating.

And what is the girl's reaction? She sees that flicker of eye even if no one else does (since she's watching for it) and despises you as a rotten little coward. You see that look of contempt in her eye (for it goes through you like an ice pick) and your self-esteem is shattered. Indeed, there is a very good chance that the girl will instantly realize that a man who would look at her with so miserably sidelong a glance is a man who would abscond with every cent of the banks property and she will inform on you at once.

But suppose you are not only a dirty old man, but are proud of it, too, and suppose the same girl walks by in the same condition. Now it is possible to be joyous and open. You can emit a melodious whistle or a snort of pleasure. You can stare openly. You can walk over to get a closer view. You can address the girl in friendly fashion.

And how does the girl react? She is pleased that she has created such an obvious stir in a gentleman of such substantial and prosperous appearance. She realizes that you agree with her own opinion of herself and this can't help but impress her with the excellence of your taste.

Seeing in you a person whom she can respect, she will think, "What a nice, gentlemanly old man," and will smile at you. From that to a friendly word or two is but a step, and from that to a pat on the cheek or some slight pressure on the upper arm is but another.

You own self-esteem will shoot up and if you are the vice-president of a bank, you will be so buoyed up by all the this that you will go right to your office and put back all the money. This is only one example of many I can cite in which being an open and honest dirty old man is an enormous aid to public morality.

[rah]

If you legitimately believe women send this message even if they don't mean to,

If they didn't mean to they wouldn't have put a tattoo on their breasts and displayed it.

That's like saying that men that stuff a sock down their pants really don't want women to notice it.

Everyone that I ever asked, that had tat's displayed, have said it was to attract attention or it was an anti-establishment statement. Statements are only effective if they are seen. (or it was a gang type ID like for the armed forces)
Either that or they were in locations that weren't readily visible.

[My Wife Hates CIV]

do they not have a mothers room for this. where I work, there are several, and they are very nice. but private.

and the expecting mothers parking is a bit over done I think, 8 spots and the new building......... always empty.......

[My Wife Hates CIV]

but sensitivity training is not all that bad. you get lunch too right?

[The Mad Monk]

Mmmm...lunch~!

[Lorizael]

rah, you're supposed to behave like a dirty old man and not a tongue-tied pervert. To quote Isaac Asimov:

Let us imagine that you are a dirty old man but are dedicated to keeping it a secret because you are a bank vice-president and are interested in exuding an odor of sanctity so that no one will notice, until it is too late, that you are preparing to abscond.

Now a lovely girl walks past you with a dress whose neckline is generously loose and under which there is clearly and obviously no bra. What do you do?

What you do is roll your eyes briefly in their sockets with the eyelashes lowered so that no one will see what you are doing. The result? You don't see anything at all, except perhaps for one flash of quiver that is far more upsetting than sating.

And what is the girl's reaction? She sees that flicker of eye even if no one else does (since she's watching for it) and despises you as a rotten little coward. You see that look of contempt in her eye (for it goes through you like an ice pick) and your self-esteem is shattered. Indeed, there is a very good chance that the girl will instantly realize that a man who would look at her with so miserably sidelong a glance is a man who would abscond with every cent of the banks property and she will inform on you at once.

But suppose you are not only a dirty old man, but are proud of it, too, and suppose the same girl walks by in the same condition. Now it is possible to be joyous and open. You can emit a melodious whistle or a snort of pleasure. You can stare openly. You can walk over to get a closer view. You can address the girl in friendly fashion.

And how does the girl react? She is pleased that she has created such an obvious stir in a gentleman of such substantial and prosperous appearance. She realizes that you agree with her own opinion of herself and this can't help but impress her with the excellence of your taste.

Seeing in you a person whom she can respect, she will think, "What a nice, gentlemanly old man," and will smile at you. From that to a friendly word or two is but a step, and from that to a pat on the cheek or some slight pressure on the upper arm is but another.

You own self-esteem will shoot up and if you are the vice-president of a bank, you will be so buoyed up by all the this that you will go right to your office and put back all the money. This is only one example of many I can cite in which being an open and honest dirty old man is an enormous aid to public morality.

Oh, Asimov. You'll always be my favorite SF author, even if you were possibly a sexist creep. (This may be satire, but it's apparently pretty well established that Asimov was something of a cad.)

[pchang]

Women dress to be noticed, but only by those they want to notice them. If you are not sure, you are not their target audience.

[Proteus_MST]

Women dress to be noticed, but only by those they want to notice them. If you are not sure, you are not their target audience.

Aye ...
if George Clooney looks at a womens cleavage, it is a sign of respect ... something to be proud of.
If Mister Ordinary looks at her breasts however, it is creepy and perverted