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**kentonio** · August 28, 2015, 13:21

Originally posted by NICE MOBIUS View Post

Ben's not that bad...

Yes, yes he is.

Also Elok, what is OBYH?

**Imran Siddiqui** · August 28, 2015, 13:37

"Oh bless your heart"

Urban Dictionary: Bless Your Heart

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Bless+your+heart

Below are the meanings of "bless your heart" from an Alabama born and raised southerner. 1. If someone has just lost a loved one, we say bless your heart to mean sympathy. 2. If a child falls down and skins their knee or someone tells you a sad story about a family member, we say bless your heart to mean we are sincerely sorry something bad happened. 3. If a southerner looks at you with a sardonic smile and says bless your heart, it usually means she thinks you're an idiot or your opinion is stupid. 4. If we look you straight in the face and say bless your heart and walk away or hang up, it generally means go screw yourself. This meaning also applies if bless your heart is used after an insult of some kind whether veiled or not. 5. Bless your heart can also be used to indicate surprise and happiness. For example, if someone tells you they won the lottery, we might say, "Bless your heart! That's fantastic!" 6. Another example is when we talk to each other about anything generally negative but not at all meant to be insulting. For example, "I know she spent all day in the kitchen and tried her very best, but bless her heart, what she served for the dinner party was just awful." Hope this helps y'all!

**kentonio** · August 28, 2015, 14:33

I'm going to say that unless the person saying it is an 80 year old grandmother, it's definitely condescending as ****. I'll add it to my list.

**Sava** · August 28, 2015, 14:34

maybe we need a packet for memebrs to not take your face seriously

PUSSYWTWAT

**Imran Siddiqui** · August 28, 2015, 14:41

Originally posted by kentonio View Post

I'm going to say that unless the person saying it is an 80 year old grandmother, it's definitely condescending as ****. I'll add it to my list.

Well it works better in the American South... or any other place where folks tend to be religious. It hits just the right cord in those sort of places.

**Elok** · August 28, 2015, 15:41

I've heard it used in a completely non-hostile, non-ironic manner. And once "Well, bless your bones!" in the most cheerful voice imaginable. You really can't pull it off unless you have the mother of all Southern accents.

**Alexander's Horse** · August 28, 2015, 15:53

I think Poly has been great since I came back

**loinburger** · August 28, 2015, 16:15

Originally posted by grumbler View Post

Does name-calling actually work here? Can anyone chime in and say that being called names here hurts their feelings?

There are two instances of name-calling that I would say "worked":

1. I started a thread about how my grandfather was a POW in WWII, and rah said that I was lying and threw a ****ton of insults at me (though not at my grandfather, who he thought was fictitious). This pissed me off because it shat up my "this is a story about my grandfather" thread, so in that sense he was successful in making my day significantly worse.

2. The overwhelming majority if Kidicious's posts amount to repetitive insults like "you are a nazi communist feminist," which was extremely annoying and so in that sense he was successful. However, I wouldn't say that he was successful to the extent of ever making my day worse.

**Bereta_Eder** · August 28, 2015, 16:49

bless his nazi commie little femi heart.

btw bless your bones sounds eerie unless someone is suffering from arthritis

**Elok** · August 28, 2015, 17:21

It was overheard in a restaurant where my wife and I were eating on our way south a few months back--a Chik-fil-A, no less. We both had to work hard to repress our laughter, the tone was so exuberant. I can't quite convey the accent phonetically, but it was vaguely June Carter Cash territory. The sort of accent that pronounces why as "whah."

**Egbert** · August 29, 2015, 04:14

Originally posted by grumbler View Post

It's rather amusing to see the thread devolve into exactly the conditions the OP started the thread by bemoaning.

Does name-calling actually work here? Can anyone chime in and say that being called names here hurts their feelings?

As far as I can tell, it's just another part of the culture here and no one takes it seriously, but you bet that it's a prime reason no new people join, as it would definitely turn off anyone who didn't realize it was not serious.

I think the name calling would turn off just about any potential new poaster, whether they thought it was serious or not. And has, no doubt, long since driven away a lot of people.

The name calling adds nothing to anything.

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