Let me know if I'm the one who messed up

[Sava]

Yeah, I'm not sure if I could overlap. Once I go active again, she'll see my profile on the one site, at least.

Oh, check this out. About a week ago, long after we'd been established, she was showing me something on her phone and the "eharmony" app was one of the recent apps she had used.

I totally saw it. She totally saw it. We both saw it. Nobody said anything. She rapidly got rid of all her recent apps as to hide it, I suspect. I didn't call her out on it. I forgave her. As far as compromise and relationships go, that's a much bigger deal than being too slow walking out of a room that suddenly just became loud.

[rah]

Yeah when I was younger a girlfriend asked me if it was OK if she started sleeping with other guys.

I figured if there was ever a "it's probably over" moment, that was probably it.

[Sava]

[Lorizael]

I don't think Poly has enough data to offer a solid opinion on this case. My only real opinion is that if you're out of the honey moon phase after only a month, that probably doesn't bode well.

[Imran Siddiqui]

If y'all are exclusive, that's not a good sign.

So... bang her, dump her... bang her in the dumper and then dump her...

[rah]

Yeah gotta agree. If the Lust phase doesn't even last a month, that's a real bad sign.
But as IS says, get what you can then get the **** out.

[I AM MOBIUS]

Wow, you guys are harsh - I concur!

[Thoth]

She's a nutter.

GTFO ASAP.

[I AM MOBIUS]

She is most definitely a nutter! I've decided at my current latish stage of life that I'm basically not prepared to compromise any more - if a relationship requires more than a modicum of 'effort' then it's not for me - (my) life's too short!

[Proteus_MST]

Well, if you think you are a good teacher maybe you can teach her out of her selfish behavior, something that might require patience however ...
if not, as other said, run as fast as you can

[Imran Siddiqui]

Any version of "you should have attended to my needs faster" after you attended to them as quick as you could (yes, you do have to put on footwear when going outside) when its not a matter of sickness or grief at a loved one dying (cat swallowing ribbon that will get fixed easily enough doesn't count) is a massive warning sign.

The sickness and grief at loved one dying can be waived away as everyone wants folks to magically be there when those things happen.

[rah]

Mobius, Couldn't disagree more (with the last part)
Everything good in life requires effort.
If people put more effort into their relationships the divorce rate wouldn't be 50%

Relationships are easy when everything is going right. But what's the odd that everything is always going to be great.
Real relationships are forged through diversity and some hardship.
I don't mean to say that the hardship part should be over done but that part is going to happen.

But I'll admit the going right part has always overshadowed the hard parts.

[Sava]

thanks guys

[I AM MOBIUS]

I think you misunderstand me a little bit...

I've finally found someone where very little (basically no) effort is required - because we're scarily alike!

**** that opposites attract crap - I'm too old for that ****!

You want someone as similar as possible.

[Lorizael]

(yes, you do have to put on footwear when going outside)

Chased my crying high school girlfriend barefoot through a crappy part of town once. Got glass shards in my foot.

...the divorce rate wouldn't be 50%

Apparently this figure isn't really true (measuring divorce rates is tricky) and divorce rates have been declining since a peak in the 90s.