So, she thinks I'm cheating on her (I'm not)

[Pekka]

It's really weird. I've never cheated on anyone. Now, suddenly, she is convinced that I have been cheating on her. It sucks. It's not the fact that I know I have not cheated, but I have not given any reason to think that way either. So... there is no trust or respect. That is how I feel about it.

Have you had any similar experiences and how did you deal with it? I'm not dealing with it at all at the moment. I'm sort of pissed off.

[Colon™]

Go cheat on her. You're already suffering the consequences so you might as well get something good out of it.

[Imran Siddiqui]

Hmmm.... why is she convinced you are cheating?

[Dinner]

Yeah, the why of the matter seems rather important.

[Guynemer]

I had that happen to me with a girl I dated before Galnemer. She was convinced I was cheating on her. I was not. I felt the same way you do: that she neither trusted nor respected me, so I broke it off. No regrets.

Now, granted, this was a girl I had been dating for all of two months, so your mileage may vary.

[Dinner]

He's married with children so, yeah, his mileage is different and abandoning ship is a lot harder in his situation.

Pekka, I'm sure she's told you the reasons for her thinking so why don't you address those point by point with her?

[Guynemer]

He's married with children so, yeah, his mileage is different and abandoning ship is a lot harder in his situation.

I thought so, but I wasn't entirely sure.

I honestly have no idea what to do in that situation.

[kentonio]

Ask her why she has so little respect for you. Sometimes the shock of a harsh question is enough to break through to people.

[Dinner]

I'm kind of curious why she thinks the guy in the hospital with a life threatening illness has both the energy and free time to run around with other women?

[Imran Siddiqui]

Hot nurses?

[DaShi]

Hmm, she's never mentioned these kinds of feelings. Perhaps I'll bring it up this evening.

[loinburger]

I'm kind of curious why she thinks the guy in the hospital with a life threatening illness has both the energy and free time to run around with other women?

Maybe she's pissed at him for being sick, but realizes that this isn't an acceptable reason to be pissed at him, so she's (sub)consciously fabricating more acceptable reasons to be pissed at him. I know from second hand experience that people get angry at other people for their being sick, then they feel guilty for these feelings, and the combination of anger and guilt can get pretty bizarre.

[self biased]

clearly murder is your only solution.

[Docfeelgood]

No disrespect intended Pekka but this must be your first serious relationship.


Don't ask nerds for advice on women!!!!!!
Asking a bunch of nerds for advise on women makes about as much sense as asking nerds for advise on how to pick up women.



Defense mechanism, it's a women thing. Don't waste your time trying to figure it out. It will drive you nuts trying to figure out why women do some of the things they do.
Laugh and blow it off. Trust is earned not given. Show and tell her ( in a nice way ) that her petty jealous temper tantrums are having no effect on you and she will stop doing it.
If you don't get things under control soon then you have lost control of the relationship.
Most women feel secure knowing the man is in control of the relationship.

[MRT144]

maybe shes cheating and this is just a means of keeping you on your toes