Anybody ever had that phone call?

[notyoueither]

Hello.

Are you so-and-so?

Yes.

Was your mother so-and-so?

Yes.

Hi. I'm your sister!

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Very interesting to hear from someone my mother had to give up for adoption, and to meet her. Although she would not be everyone's cup of tea, I like her a lot. She is like my mother in so many ways. Very similar interests that are very not mainstream. Very different in other significant ways.

A big issue is my concern for her feelings about having been given up and my overcompensating to try to make her feel comfortable or better about it somehow.

Has anyone here had a similar experience? I'd read about it and said wow, that could be strange. Now I know how it feels. It is world altering, in a way. A good way, in my case (and hers, I think).

[Lonestar]

She's trying to scam you out of money.

On an unrelated note, I'm pretty sure I'm your brother. Can you loan me about 6 hundro?

[notyoueither]

I checked for scams, and am aware of the pitfalls.

No, bro, I need your help to get my bank in Nigeria going again. There's $49 mil locked up there, I just need your personal details to transfer the money to you. Send them by PM, urgent, and keep this confidential.

[dannubis]

On both your posts...

[MikeH]

Were you aware of your sister's existence before this call?

[notyoueither]

No. It was the bolt from the blue that I have read about. My mother took this to the grave.

It was actually easier for me than I described. She contacted my older brother before me. He called me and discussed it with me. That's actually when the world changed for me. When she called several months ago I was somewhat prepared. That was good as I was a better listener, and was more supportive (I think). Both he and I were quite pleased by the prospect of gaining a sister, but a bit on guard.

She arrived on a trip last week. I've spent several days with her, and it's all been good except for the issue that is a consequence of my trying too hard and is easily corrected.

[MikeH]

Well congratulations on your new sister.

[Asher]

That'd be quite surprising to anyone, I'd imagine.

Congrats.

Is she in Edmonton?

[Imran Siddiqui]

Congrats! That's really cool!

[Ogie Oglethorpe]

Very cool. Family

[notyoueither]

Thanks.

Is she in Edmonton?

She is visiting for a time. I'm getting a chance to get to know her.

[Aeson]

That's cool NYE.

Never had a phone call like that ... but did watch Star Wars so if you ever need any advice ...

[notyoueither]

Hmm... maybe not.

[Tuberski]

I have an older brother out there somewhere that was adopted. He'd be in his mid 50's right now.

ACK!

[notyoueither]

You know about him? How did that go?