[serious] I don't know what to do.

[dannubis]

I am sorry for your loss HC.

This kind of thing takes time to heal. Take your time as well.

[Jon Miller]

Crying is healthy. Is the only 'good' response I know of.

Jon

[Fake Boris]

My condolences.

[Imran Siddiqui]

Sorry to hear about it. We all need time to grieve. The fallacy that men are weak for crying has done a huge diservice to us all.

[rah]

I never gets easy. I've lost three great friends, one just a few month ago. It's ok to grieve. And like others have stated, a few tears are not a sign of weakness.
I got through it by remembering all the good times. (like the example in your photo/story) It's ok to miss them. Time will help to lessen the loss. Do something to honor them.
I remember for one of my best friends, we had a lot of traveling adventures together. Especially by car. He was such a crazy nut that we called them mad toad thrill rides.
After his funeral, his wife gave me his ashes and on the way to the after gathering I took a detour and did one last thrill ride with him. It really helped me.

Good luck.

[Flubber]

Condolences.

Pretty much any range of emotions is normal and you never know when they will strike. The smallest thing may trigger a memory.

So cry. shout. get mad and hit a punching bag. Do whatever you want since its your process

I remember losing someone and I was sad a fair bit but one day I was just angry- I grabbed my stick and spent 20 minutes just winging hockey pucks at my net. Somehow it helped.

[C0ckney]

that sucks HC, my condolences.

i've had a few people close to me die, accidents, a couple of suicides and a heroin overdose. i have found my own ways of coping. you have to do what feels right for you.

i would echo mike's advice to go the funeral if you can, it's good to provide some closeure and to talk about your friend with his family and other friends.

[BlackCat]

My condolences HC

[b etor]

I had a very close friend kill himself a little over a year ago. I'm still not over it. It was the first death that really hit me hard, because we hung out a lot the day before he did it. I was sad and angry. Most people, especially his family, didn't want to believe it was a suicide, but it was.

My condolences, HC. Don't expect to get over it too soon, but keep your chin up anyway. In addition to talking to a few friends about it, I strongly suggest talking to someone professional about it as well. If you don't like the first one you talk to, find one you like better. It definitely helps.

[Hauldren Collider]

I'm still confident that my friend did not kill himself. He died at 2pm in a lab (I think physics). Today he would have flown down to texas to ride in one of Nasa's zero-g planes. He kept telling me how much he was looking forward to it.

They're doing an autopsy. We'll see what happened. I refuse to believe that he killed himself. He was always cheerful and could enjoy anything, and I know it wasn't all a mask.

Still upset but feeling better today. Thinking about other things helps.

[Asher]

It could very well be something else. A HS classmate of mine died in his sleep from an undiagnosed heart abnormality. It recently killed a teenager here who was just playing a game of hockey, also.

[kentonio]

Sorry you're going through something so horrible HC. Condolences.

[SlowwHand]

That's what I'm thinking, Asher. Sometimes, they just stop working properly.

[Hauldren Collider]

Brunt was found dead in a physics lab on the sixth floor of Josiah Willard Gibbs Laboratories Wednesday afternoon. His body was taken for an autopsy at the state medical examiner’s office, which said Thursday afternoon that Brunt died by “asphyxia due to exclusion of oxygen” and ruled his death a suicide.

Unbelievable. Makes me sick just reading that. I don't feel guilty at all though, like MikeH suggested I might. There's no way anyone could have expected he would do this. No danger signs, no reason to believe he was anything other than a happy, bright Yale student. Doesn't make any ****ing sense.

This is awful.

[molly bloom]

You have to attend the funeral. As unpleasant as it sounds, it doe shelp in the long term. A friend of mine died inexplicably- an autopsy was carried out and the coroner could find no cause for her death- she was otherwise a healthy and fit young woman.

I attended the viewing in the chapel of rest, the funeral and the inquest. As grim as it sounds, all the rituals helped.

Give yourself time and give yourself a lot of leeway, emotionally.