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Or really it's just a coincidence. Anyway, when I tell people I hang out at a "Poly" website, they look at me funny.
Do you support a Poly lifestyle? I couldn't do it myself, I'm far too lazy and unattractive. But I am okay with others living however they want to live (with the caveats Dan Savage mentions in the column with regards to their kids.)
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Do you support a Poly lifestyle? I couldn't do it myself, I'm far too lazy and unattractive. But I am okay with others living however they want to live (with the caveats Dan Savage mentions in the column with regards to their kids.)
I'm a 26-year-old guy in a polyamorous relationship. As this is my first kick at the poly can, I wasn't dying to tell my family, "Hey, I'm dating a married woman!" However, through the magic of Facebook, my brother found out that the girl I'm seeing has a husband. Once I was "busted," I discussed the situation with my sister-in-law. The issue is that my GF and her husband have a 10-year-old son. My brother has compared the poly community to drug addicts and stated that CPS should remove my girlfriend's child from her home, etc. My brother and his wife are now threatening to cut me out of their lives—as well as their children's lives, whom I care for a great deal—if I don't dump the girlfriend. Thoughts?
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Right off the top of my head: Your brother is a ****-smeared *******, your sister-in-law is an ***-smeared ****hole, and they'd be doing you a huge favor if they cut you out of their lives.
Pick the GF, FTP. That might mean you won't see your nieces/nephews for a while, which would be sad for you and bad for those kids (children with crazy, controlling parents need to spend quality time with saner family members). But if you dump your girlfriend at their insistence—if you fail to stand up to them—you will have established a dangerous precedent: Your love life isn't yours to manage, it's theirs, and all your future partners will be subject to their bat****tery/scrutiny and, if they disapprove of any future girlfriends (concurrent or subsequent), they will attempt to exercise the veto power you ceded to them during this conflict.
Your brother and sister-in-law are bullies, FTP, and you've got to defend yourself. So long as your GF and her husband aren't doing anything inappropriate in front of their son and they're not placing unfair burdens on their son (they don't expect him to keep secrets, if they're not out about being poly; they don't expect him to be out about his parents being poly, if they are out and he's not comfortable sharing that info with his friends), you need to come to their defense, too. And you might want to consult a lawyer now, just in case your brother and sister-in-law call CPS.
Forced To Pick
Right off the top of my head: Your brother is a ****-smeared *******, your sister-in-law is an ***-smeared ****hole, and they'd be doing you a huge favor if they cut you out of their lives.
Pick the GF, FTP. That might mean you won't see your nieces/nephews for a while, which would be sad for you and bad for those kids (children with crazy, controlling parents need to spend quality time with saner family members). But if you dump your girlfriend at their insistence—if you fail to stand up to them—you will have established a dangerous precedent: Your love life isn't yours to manage, it's theirs, and all your future partners will be subject to their bat****tery/scrutiny and, if they disapprove of any future girlfriends (concurrent or subsequent), they will attempt to exercise the veto power you ceded to them during this conflict.
Your brother and sister-in-law are bullies, FTP, and you've got to defend yourself. So long as your GF and her husband aren't doing anything inappropriate in front of their son and they're not placing unfair burdens on their son (they don't expect him to keep secrets, if they're not out about being poly; they don't expect him to be out about his parents being poly, if they are out and he's not comfortable sharing that info with his friends), you need to come to their defense, too. And you might want to consult a lawyer now, just in case your brother and sister-in-law call CPS.
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