How Many Times Have You Been in Love?

[Provost Harrison]

WTF? Being a marine or an investment banker are WAAAAAY more rewarding than 'Scrubbing bogs'. I don't even know what scrubbing bogs means. Is it some sort of backward Brit expression? You don't even have toilets, you just crap in holes in the ground. And your women are all the same, and they all have manjaw. And your sense of humour is retarded.

[/speer]

You know, I started reading that and thought it was Speer and started getting irritated and then looked to the left and saw it was you. Good show

[MikeH]

thought #5 was relevant to this thread.

http://www.collegehumor.com/article/6542931/5-ways-to-break-up-with-your-girlfriend-without-hurting-her-feelings

[Al B. Sure!]

thought #5 was relevant to this thread.

http://www.collegehumor.com/article/...g-her-feelings

Crying and begging her to take you back always pushes them away

[Zoetstofzoetje]

exactly how would you know that? but yes, ignoring them sometimes makes them think that they want you back, as you couldn't be bothered to care about the breakup.

[Al B. Sure!]

exactly how would you know that? but yes, ignoring them sometimes makes them think that they want you back, as you couldn't be bothered to care about the breakup.

I have seen it plenty of times and did it myself.

[N35t0r]

What I did say is that the benefits like companionship that you can get from one woman you can get from MANY other women! Your happiness from one woman will be just as good as with another woman.

Um, total utter bull****?

One example: My actual GF doesn't like to go out dancing. I'm perfectly happy with this, since I'm not much of a fan of doing it either. If she did, and nagged me every other week to do so, it would be highly annoying at best.

If you really think that, then you either believe:
a) That all you can get from women is sex and something to fill up space (in which case you should just buy yourself a blow-up doll)
b) That all women are exactly the same, even in their personality and likes (which even a 10 year old knows is not true)

PH: Booze works wonders

[Fake Boris]

Honestly, I suspect that some of the reason PH hasn't found anyone is similar to why Alby hasn't, girls (especially the more interesting girls) almost all believe in Love.

JM

They claim they do.

[Fake Boris]

I admit that I'm not the traditional romantic type and as a consequence I didn't pay enough attention to her, I didn't take enough of her feelings into account. On the other hand the reason I liked her was her independence and her strength, but that was just an illusion. The fact that I didn't see this correctly is pretty much why I'm to blame. Bah. But damnit, in things like this women should just be plain and clear about them. It's all one big communication breakdown, and it hasn't got anything to do with our actual love for eachother in my view. But she sees things differently of course.

This is just the standard BS women tell, but it's meaningless.

She dumped you because she didn't want you anymore.

[Al B. Sure!]

And acting all romantic would have caused her to push you away saying, "You're smothering me!"

[N35t0r]

opcorn:

[MOBIUS]

This is just the standard BS women tell, but it's meaningless.

She dumped you because she didn't want you anymore.

That's harsh and also not always true. The lesson there however is that, for whatever reason, women (generalisation alert!) can be extremely nebulous in this regard. Experience (losing flame #3) has taught me that just because things seem to be great on the surface, it is not necessarily true. One useful, if slightly tongue in cheek, litmus test is the 'Anything wrong' test:

Me: "Are you OK?/Is anything wrong?"

Her: "Yes I'm fine/No I'm fine"

Me: "DANGER! DANGER! RED ALERT! BRACE FOR IMPACT!"




Still, what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger for the next one...

Actually, the whole Flame #3 series of incidents is an interesting episode in my life. Certainly wasn't boring!

[Fake Boris]

That's harsh and also not always true. The lesson there however is that, for whatever reason, women (generalisation alert!) can be extremely nebulous in this regard. Experience (losing flame #3) has taught me that just because things seem to be great on the surface, it is not necessarily true. One useful, if slightly tongue in cheek, litmus test is the 'Anything wrong' test:

Me: "Are you OK?/Is anything wrong?"

Her: "Yes I'm fine/No I'm fine"

Me: "DANGER! DANGER! RED ALERT! BRACE FOR IMPACT!"




Still, what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger for the next one...

Actually, the whole Flame #3 incident is an interesting episode in my life.

Judging from what little details we have:

1) She opened herself to other men wooing her
2) Blamed Traianus for being emotionally unavailable
3) But had discrete affairs with guys who were even less available
4) Felt guilty about it, therefore switched the blame in a confused manner

I agree it's not always like this, but this case sounds like it is. It's harsh for Traianus, but over the long term, it's better for him if he can come to a A + B = C type of conclusion.

[MOBIUS]

I think you're jumping to wild and unhelpful conclusions there.

That's not what Trianus seems to have actually said, so I'm not sure what you hope to achieve by seeming to deliberately make the whole thing worse than what he himself has said.

[MikeH]

I agree with MOBIUS.

[Lorizael]

Unfortunately, I must as well. He's being significantly more reasonable here than usual.