question for the married blokes

[Lorizael]

I used to be super against the butt stuff ... cos I wanted to save something for my future husband guy...

[Docfeelgood]

sex is overrated

[Arrian]

Sounds like you have a good sex life. What's the problem?

You're jumping at shadows.

-Arrian

[C0ckney]

Serious answer: if things are getting more serious it's the areas of your relationship that have been weak you should concentrate on, not the ones that have been great.

this.

[Felch]

[b etor]

Getting married is about wanting someone so much that you would hate it or feel betrayed if you saw that person with someone else.

Sex is like reading, when you are young you read all kinds of things, when you get older, you only read the things you like, but you wouldn't know what you like if you had not read many different things when you were young.

That is how we feel about each other. I used to always be so against and annoyed with people who would break up and then get back together repeatedly, but that's what this kid and I have been doing. We've both grown up considerably the past two years and think we're finally ready to make it work.

running out of things to try? believe you me, there's so many weird stuff out there sex-wise you don't even want to think about.. go to the sex museum in amsterdam, you'll see some of it.

I really would love to think about it. I won't be going to Amsterdam anytime soon, unfortunately.

If the relationship is just based on sex, just enjoy that and don't get married.

"Running out of things to try" is silly to worry about in this context.

It used to be. We used to just hook up, and then realized we both wanted more. Our relationship was pretty weird at first because he was the type to never have a one night stand, and get to know the girl first, etc. Whereas I was all about the one night stands.

I can think of many, many more things to do than I'd have realistic opportunities to attempt in one lifetime. The animal kingdom is huge, and offers so many possibilities.

We move every three months because of school, but that stuff is on our list. The other guy that I was with for a couple years got me really into that sort of thing.

Serious answer: if things are getting more serious it's the areas of your relationship that have been weak you should concentrate on, not the ones that have been great.

We're both working on controlling our drinking. He doesn't drink too often, but when he does he blacks out and I have to take care of him. I drank more frequently and got pretty obnoxious and violent. I love foyer wrestling, even when I had a bruised rib, and he wasn't happy about that.
We've had communication issues in the past, but we've gotten a lot better about that. We're concentrating on working through a lot of things, the sex thing was just a minor concern that I figured I would seek advice on. I'm not worried about this any more. I guess I was just in a negative mood when I posted this.

Sounds like you have a good sex life. What's the problem?

You're jumping at shadows.

-Arrian

It's so amazing. I just want it to stay this way. He'll do anything I want him to, and I'll do anything he wants me to. It's awesome.


Thank you all for your comforting words.

[-Jrabbit]

Rock on with your bad self, girl.

[notyoueither]

Why is exploration of desire and pleasure considered to be a bad side?

[Bugs ****ing Bunny]

We move every three months because of school, but that stuff is on our list. The other guy that I was with for a couple years got me really into that sort of thing.

Looks like we have a zoophile in the making here.

[Docfeelgood]

[b etor]

Don't be a hater.

My guy and I had a great talk yesterday. Had a great time afterward. Worries vanished.

[MRT144]

This is a serious but somewhat inappropriate thread. But still a legitimate question.

So this one guy and I have been on and off seeing each other the past almost 2 years. We're quite adventurous in the sack. Like, if there is something weird out there, we've either done it and thought it was silly, done it and enjoyed it, or it's on our list of things to do. So I wonder. Should we slow it down? What if we end up together and run out of things to try? I used to be super against the butt stuff and just told people that was off limits cos I wanted to save something for my future husband guy, but the guy really wanted to do it. So I don't even have that anymore. Our life in bed is amazing, for sure. And it's lasted the better part of 2 years, with a few breaks in between.

We have our favorite handful of things, but most kinky things we try we just think are silly. I'll tell a few of my friends about it and they'll just get really grossed out.


Did any of you come to a point where you ran out of things to try?

Our relationship has suddenly turned a lot more serious, so I'm thinking about it more lately and am starting to kind of worry about it. Please help.

Sex really doesn't need to be all about trying new stuff, unless you're both compensating for the lack of any other shared interest or excitement.

[Flubber]

Don't be a hater.

My guy and I had a great talk yesterday. Had a great time afterward. Worries vanished.

Good-- and you never run out of new stuff to try in a sense because even if you ever could, there is fun in retrying some wild stuff you haven't done in a long long time. Hell between roleplay and fantasy etc etc there is always new stuff. new stuff isn't just the mechanics, it can also be about the buildup and the backstory you create

Also -- what Mike H said

[MRT144]

Good-- and you never run out of new stuff to try in a sense because even if you ever could, there is fun in retrying some wild stuff you haven't done in a long long time. Hell between roleplay and fantasy etc etc there is always new stuff. new stuff isn't just the mechanics, it can also be about the buildup and the backstory you create

Also -- what Mike H said

Mrs. Flubber is your editor for the fluff you come up with, isn't she?

[Flubber]

Mrs. Flubber is your editor for the fluff you come up with, isn't she?

What fluff??