Ethics dilemma

[self biased]

chaz reinhold once said that grief was a powerful aphrodisiac.

[Bugs ****ing Bunny]

Compromise. Say you won't go, then crash the funeral while drunk.

[Asher]

Compromise. Say you won't go, then crash the funeral while drunk.

From what I understand, I think the guy may've liked that. The more I hear about him the more ****ed up his life seems.

Turns out his parents were devout Catholics and he was "bisexual" (read: gay). Had a lot of tattoos and piercings in recent years also and was getting into drugs and booze. Pretty much a textbook case of self-loathing brought on by being raised by Catholic parents.

[Theben]

Probably should have gone, if for no other reason than to support your SO.

Asking if it was a trap was dumb.

[MRT144]

If only I had studied philosophy. I have a moral quandary.

My SO's best friend's friend killed himself the other day. He operated in a different socially circle than my SO and they'd only met a couple times (most recently a month ago when he came by the condo to play some video games, and drank some of my scotch [I'm still bitter about that, actually]). The SO and his best friend went to school with him for 1 year in engineering before he transferred to compsci. The SO's best friend still hung out with him, etc but not my SO.

So anyway, now the guy is dead. Drama, etc. My SO's best friend is going, of course, and so is my SO (mostly to support his best friend, who isn't taking it well). I was told today via facebook, by my SO's best friend, that I am "expected to be at the funeral also". I'm kinda done with funerals for a while (buried two grandparents within the past few months) and I didn't even know this guy, and more importantly it's 10am on a Sunday (and I don't get up til 1 or so).

First of all, is it wrong for me to feel pissed off that my SO's best friend "expects" me to be at a funeral for a guy I've never even met? (this is why I avoid female friends, FWIW)

Second of all, how do I tell her to **** off without causing her to jump off a building? She's in rough shape. Should I just not go and hope she doesn't notice?

Tell her you've buried two grandparents in the past few months, and if she knows what is good for her, you won't have to bury a third person, namely her.

[Asher]

Probably should have gone, if for no other reason than to support your SO.

Asking if it was a trap was dumb.

I'm not convinced he needs supporting. He's only met the guy a handful of times and found him a bit off-putting and weird. And that's saying a lot, because the SO loves ME.

[SlowwHand]

I wouldn't have gone.