Goodbye Singapore

[Guynemer]

Wait.

sn00py is FrostyBoy?

[Imran Siddiqui]

Yep.

[Darius871]

Yep.

[Darius871]

Anyway, where's the thread on all this drama?

[FrostyBoy]

Since DanS was decent enough to ask, I am pretty much paying for the entire wedding, don't forget the tickets and hotels for my parents and siblings to join us. When back in NZ, we will rely entirely on my ability to work.



Apolyton Please don't change while I get a life.

[Guynemer]

Anyway, where's the thread on all this drama?

That too.

[loinburger]

I'm guessing it's this one.

I'm at the fork in the road where I have to make a decision.

One path is blury all the way, the other path has a good start but seems to have a storm in the far distance, and I can only hope that it clears before I reach there.


So that's my analogy; I have a girlfriend of 2 years, we're ok, apart from the crazy fights she sometimes has with me.

Her family is quite excited about her getting married to me; even though I have never mentioned yet that I even want to get married. The reason they think we are is because myself and gf discussed moving to NZ (my home country), but my reason for returning is because I am getting sick of Singapore, her reason is because she wants to get out of Singapore.

Anyway, here's the thing, her father is quite well off (CEO of large company) and is willing to buy a very nice house in a prime spot in New Zealand, where myself and gf will live... happily ever after?

The other problem is, I don't feel anything for her, I am not happy to see her, (but neither am I sad or anything negative), her birthday is coming up and I don't even think about it or her. I am not attracted to her, but all girls lose their looks in the end anyway.

I don't want advise from people who are young and inexperienced, I want to hear from those who have been there and done that; done the marriage, had the kids, got the divorce, etc I want to know that love between the couple lasts only in the beginning, regardless of who you might find in this world.

So? What do I do?

[Darius871]

That too.

Found it:

http://apolyton.net/forums/showthread.php?t=186758&highlight=frostyboy+girlfriend

Edit: damned x-post

[Darius871]

There's another snoopy in Chicago, right?

[FrostyBoy]

Thanks Loin, now I can finally clear things up:

The other problem is, I don't feel anything for her, I am not happy to see her, (but neither am I sad or anything negative), her birthday is coming up and I don't even think about it or her. I am not attracted to her, but all girls lose their looks in the end anyway.

I now know why I felt this way, it had nothing to do with her, it had to do with me and my job. Just recently I asked my boss for a raise and he declined it, my current pay is far below what I should be getting and I have been working my ass off for the past 5 years and never received a raise, I thought it was about time he starting showing his appreciation for raising this company up the ladder. When he declined, and amongst other problems in the office, it became clear to me that I had to quit, which I will be doing on the 1st of December. When I realised I would be quitting, a huge load of my shoulders was removed and suddenly my feelings towards my gf changed for the good, I now pay full attention to her and do not want to let her go. So as you can see, it is my devotion to success in the company that 1. Over shadowed anything that was not related to my job and 2. Was starting to make my life miserable.

I fixed that by letting go of my addiction to work. I have learned my lesson to divide work from life in a balanced manner.

[Lorizael]

There's another snoopy in Chicago, right?

Yes. snoopy369.

[Darius871]

Thanks Loin, now I can finally clear things up:



I now know why I felt this way, it had nothing to do with her, it had to do with me and my job. Just recently I asked my boss for a raise and he declined it, my current pay is far below what I should be getting and I have been working my ass off for the past 5 years and never received a raise, I thought it was about time he starting showing his appreciation for raising this company up the ladder. When he declined, and amongst other problems in the office, it became clear to me that I had to quit, which I will be doing on the 1st of December. When I realised I would be quitting, a huge load of my shoulders was removed and suddenly my feelings towards my gf changed for the good, I now pay full attention to her and do not want to let her go. So as you can see, it is my devotion to success in the company that 1. Over shadowed anything that was not related to my job and 2. Was starting to make my life miserable.

I fixed that by letting go of my addiction to work. I have learned my lesson to divide work from life in a balanced manner.

You are the lowest kind of scum.

[loinburger]

Lori's not that bad...

[DaShi]

Agreed. "I hate my job. Hello ticket to Easy Street."

[Darius871]

Lori's not that bad...

You have no idea...