Pick up adivce thread.

[Heraclitus]

Starthing this thread to aleviate some of the threadjacking from my other three threads.



Use this thread to ask for and give adivce.


Stuff that seemed to work for me:
1. Go direct when the girl is alone
2. Don't first approach the girl you are interested in, first talk to the guy or her female friend. Find out how they all know eachother.
3. Be the Alpha male who is having fun and dosen't really care what people think about him
4. Don't go out alone
5. Practice naturally touching girls
6. Learn how to properly tell a joke
7. Eye contact while touching
8. Don't use some cheesy line, just kiss her when you see triangular gazing and you have established that you touching her face or hair is acceptable.
9. Make the first kiss short.
10. Don't get phone numbers, make plans.
11. If the girl isn't having fun and isn't comfortable you are doing it wrong.

12. Don't pick up girls in bars, the most interesting girls I've dated I was introduced to. So it is vital to have male and female friends. If you don't have any go out with the purpose of getting friends.

[Solomwi]

Always keep in mind, kids: what she can't remember, she can't testify to.

[Jon Miller]

I am not really interseted in picking girls up, so a whole lot of those aren't interesting to me. Maybe if I was striking out a lot, they would be.

My general issue is with meeting girls, both in general and of the sort I find interesting. For the most part, my friends don't introduce me to women. And also, to be honest, but despite the fact that they are my friends and I love them, based on their tastes I doubt if I would find the women they introduce me to to be that interesting.

Also, I think that women that I am interested in is a pretty rare thing. I mostly interested in the active (phsyically), intellectual (which is different from intelligent), driven (positive goals and working towards them), cultured (art, music, etc.. I really don't like Jerry Springer), religious (serious about it) type.

JM

[Lorizael]

Tactics that have worked for me:
1. Being followed home from school by a girl that finds you interesting because you never talk.
2. Having a girl show up in a large box on your birthday.

Tactics that haven't worked for me:
1. Stalking women.
2. Secretly lusting after women.
3. Telling women how I feel about them.
4. Talking to women.

[Solomwi]

I am not really interseted in picking girls up, so a whole lot of those aren't interesting to me. Maybe if I was striking out a lot, they would be.

My general issue is with meeting girls, both in general and of the sort I find interesting. For the most part, my friends don't introduce me to women. And also, to be honest, but despite the fact that they are my friends and I love them, based on their tastes I doubt if I would find the women they introduce me to to be that interesting.

Also, I think that women that I am interested in is a pretty rare thing. I mostly interested in the active (phsyically), intellectual (which is different from intelligent), driven (positive goals and working towards them), cultured (art, music, etc.. I really don't like Jerry Springer), religious (serious about it) type.

JM

Jon, I know this sounds "easier said than done," but the first thing you need to do is spend time where that kind of woman spends time. The second thing is to make contact while you're there. Don't look for all of those traits at once. Look for someone who has one or two and may have the others, then spend time with her to find out.

[Q Classic]

Have you tried chloroform yet?

[Kidlicious]

Hera,

That's a lot of **** to worry about just to get a woman. Maybe if you were trying to lay as many women as possible all that would be necessary.

Just remember what Seinfeld said, "Men, as a group, get more women than any other group operating anywhere." It's just not that hard.

[Blaupanzer]

Jon, serious religious people usually have a place they congregate based on the religion. Often those places of worship have associated activities. You know the routine here, but you have to join in to find the girls.

[rah]

Yeah go where the woman with the traits you're lookin for hang out. The most successful pick up lines are the ones women use on men.

But in general I'll agree that having a female wingman works the best.

[Lorizael]

My problem with touching women: Aren't women who don't realize that when you "accidentally" brush up against them you're really doing it on purpose in order to gauge their level of physical comfort stupid?

[-Jrabbit]

Yeah go where the woman with the traits you're lookin for hang out. The most successful pick up lines are the ones women use on men.

But in general I'll agree that having a female wingman works the best.

...said the man married for over 20 years (like me).

[rah]

Well at least it proves that at one point we were able to pick up women successfully.

[MikeH]

I am not really interseted in picking girls up, so a whole lot of those aren't interesting to me. Maybe if I was striking out a lot, they would be.

My general issue is with meeting girls, both in general and of the sort I find interesting. For the most part, my friends don't introduce me to women. And also, to be honest, but despite the fact that they are my friends and I love them, based on their tastes I doubt if I would find the women they introduce me to to be that interesting.

Also, I think that women that I am interested in is a pretty rare thing. I mostly interested in the active (phsyically), intellectual (which is different from intelligent), driven (positive goals and working towards them), cultured (art, music, etc.. I really don't like Jerry Springer), religious (serious about it) type.

JM

Maybe think about using the interweb, there are lots of dating sites out there, you'd have to do some research about which one was right for you. But there's some merit in starting a conversation with a woman on the basis that you are on a dating site and looking for a relationship. Plus you can get to know each other a bit. Also, you might be surprised that you get on better with women who you don't think you'd get on with better than you think you would.

I would say the only downside with online dating is relationships can seem much deeper than they would if you'd met face to face, so if you like someone consider seeing them soon. Plus you can't tell if you'll actually fancy someone in the flesh.

Blaupanzer's tip about churches isn't a bad one.

Anyway, make it known to people that you are after a relationship and you'll be surprised how much people like matchmaking.

[Jon Miller]

Yeah, last year I started using a dating site a bit, I haven't met many girls from on it, but more than I was meeting otherwise (which was close to 0).

I don't really do online relationships so I need someone who is near enough so that I can go meet them at some point.

JM

[Japher]

bend with your knees