What's a good way to keep women off you?

[self biased]

summary? i take it he didn't try my oyster suggestion.

[Garth Vader]

summary? i take it he didn't try my oyster suggestion.

Rather than take any Poly suggestion Dis continued to ignore/be oblivious to her signals. She got pissed off/frustrated at this and is no longer speaking to him.

[Alinestra Covelia]

Link for definition of chastity patch.

I've never tried this myself but I'd imagine it would be pretty effective.

[Jon Miller]

*rubs back of neck* nope, I don't have one of those

JM
(of course, anyone you did get would be really freaky)

[Dis]

what? why is this thread still open. Well anyways she didn't stay pissed at me for long. Which is strange. I usually piss off women pretty good. She gets pissed at me sometimes, but gets over it quickly. Oh I also found out she has a bf who lives in another state (northwest). Kind of annoying she didn't tell me before.

Anyways I've done some thinking, and come to the conclusion I'm too old to be playing these games. I'm not a teenager anymore. No more of this does she like me or not crap. I've gotten this far in life by being an honest person, and I'll just flat out tell her I want to screw her brains out. Probably not in those words. I'll ask if if she wants to date, and if not I'll ask her to keep her hands off me, as I'm tired of being turned on.

Anyway I came to this conclusion tonight after talking to her on the phone. Ya ya I told myself I wouldn't give her my number. I'm a weak man. Good thing the goverment never trusted me with top secret stuff in the military, I would have gave it to any hot russian spy babe that came along. But the phone call was pointless. Just friend talk. I have no interest in being friends. Men and women should not be friends (unless they are single). I simply can't keep my mind off her.

I don't really need a gf, nor do I want one that badly. Yet I still find myself thinking of her. Not sure why. Do I really want companionship or just a roll in the hay? I'm not sure. Only one way to find out...

[-Jrabbit]

Good for you. Go forth with exactly that plan. At the very least, you'll have your answer.
And, who knows, maybe more.

[DaShi]

Did you tell her that your tired of being turned on? You should have told her that.

[Jon Miller]

The general idea I Think is right Dis.

That is what I have decided, if she isn't interested then get that out int he open.

JM

[DaShi]

If she's not interested, you need to make her interested. Sometimes all women want is for the man to try. . .sometimes. There are no hard and fast rules here.

[Jon Miller]

Well, I am not casanova. I have just decided that in the future instead of thinking she will reject me and not speaking up for a while... I Will speak up and if she rejects me that is fine.

What I was doing definitely wasn't working.

JM

[MikeH]

Good for you JM.

[Dis]

ya I feel the same way JM. saves alot of time too.

[David Floyd]

Dis, I'm glad you're taking some positive steps. If I can make a slight suggestion, though...

She said she has a boyfriend. That isn't necessarily an impediment to you "screwing her brains out", in fact, since it's long-distance, it definitely isn't. However, I'm not sure that asking her if she wants to date is the best approach. I'd just tell her that you're planning on being at "x" spot after work to have a couple of drinks and that she should join you. Don't ask her if she wants to, don't act like your plans depend on her - just tell her that you're gonna be there, that she should join you, and then follow through and be there.

Also, don't act anxious for her to show up. She either will, or won't. My advice? Get to the bar/restaurant/whatever, grab a drink, strike up a conversation with the bartender about whatever's going on. If she show's up, you'll look like a confident guy who is perfectly capable of showing up somewhere on his own, meeting people, and having a good time. If she doesn't show up, well, you'll have learned how to be that confident guy who can go out by himself, meet people, and have a good time. It's win-win

Of course, the bonus is that when she does show up, you've got her all to yourself in an environment where lowered inhibitions are the norm. If you get her to show up, and she understands in advance it's just the two of you, I'd say you're well on your way to "screwing her brains out". Probably that night.

[-Jrabbit]

David Floyd FTW...

[Dis]

Well I asked her out. I'm happy about that. She turned me down. I asked her for drinks after work. She basically said I couldn't handle her or something like that. I get that alot from women. They all think I'm so innocent (well I am I suppose, but still). And she said she didn't want to keep me up all night so I'd get cranky (I do get cranky from lack of sleep). I told her I wanted to be up all night with her . But she wasn't too interested. I guess my first instinct was right. She's just flirty and likes attention from guys. But she called me cute today, so I figure I had to go for it. And other events at work kind of dictated it was now or never (I'll make another thread on my worsening company). Plus I wanted to know where I stood before VAlentine's Day so I knew if I had to get a gift or not.

I also asked 2 other women out this week. One today, the other a few days ago. Actually G (deleted rest of name) I didn't really asked out- just asked if she had a BF. Turns out she is married and has 3 kids lol. These mexican girls marry early, but she might be in her late 20's. And A (the other girl) I asked if she had a bf, but she said she didn't have a bf or husband, so I asked her out today. But she says she works 2 jobs and doesn't have time. She's just a poor mexican cleaning girl, so that's probably true (or she's letting me down easy). She was cute though, hate to see her have to work 2 jobs. But she probably doesn't make much above minimum wage. Also another girl came from corporate (american), I was thinking about asking her out, but then saw the ring. But I was impressed I was able to talk with a complete stranger so freely. I had a good conversation with her. I usually have so much trouble talking to strangers. I'm really happy I was able to overcome my shyness somewhat. I guess I reached a point where desperation and loneliness reached a point where it overtook my shyness. Problem is desperation isn't an attractive quality.

I figure if I never get a gf this lifetime, it won't be due to lack of trying. The days of timid dis are over. If you have a *****, and 2 legs, I will hit on you. Actually I'm ok with 1 leg too. I'm respectful about it of course. I'm not some obnoxious creepy guy (I hope).

Thanks for all the replies guys, it really means alot to me. Because I really need people I can talk about this freely, I couldn't do it at work, since the girl I was interested in worked there. I know we all joke about the wisdom of asking for girl advice at poly, but I think the advice was pretty good. Better to know her feelings about me now, rather than later when I could really get hurt. I'll try not to bother you guys about my personal problems, for a while at least- till my next crush.

once again, thx guys. you are the best.