What's a good way to keep women off you?

[Alinestra Covelia]

Mention offhandly that your crabs are driving your nuts!

Fixed a possible typo?

[Lorizael]

Arrrrrr!

[David Floyd]

Little does she know I'm still single because I'm a loser. I may be good at everything else in life, but my lack of skill in the romance department makes me a loser.

If that's your attitude, then **** it. That sorta says it all.

Look, I don't think there's any question. The girl is clearly into you. You could probably **** her behind the Dairy Queen if you wanted. It's not about her making the first move - she pretty much already did. I mean, you said it - coworkers aren't allowed to date, so she can't just walk up to you and ask you out. Except that she basically did. You just didn't recognize it.

Except, I think you did recognize it. That's why you posted this. What, this is the first time a girl has ever been nice to you? Bull****. She was hitting on you, in fact, she was on your nuts. You know, I know it, we know it, and she sure as hell knows it.

So. **** the fact that you think you're a loser. **** the fact that you may in fact be a loser. **** you lack of romantic skill, whatever that means. The only thing that matters is this: Would you rather jerk off tomorrow night and take no risk whatsoever, or would you rather stick your dick in something, take a risk when it comes to your job, and come out with maybe a girlfriend, and at the very least, a major attitude change?

It's up to you. Do it, or don't do it, but no one wants to hear about how you're agonizing over what to do because you just don't know what's going on. You do know what's going on, you just want either someone to tell you what to do, or to validate you doing nothing. Either way, I'm not doing that. If it were me, I'd **** her and worry about the consequences later. It's not me, so do whatever feels right.

Hope it works out for ya.

[-Jrabbit]

Well said.

[Theben]

As far as that "no dating" policy, most places have that and it's just there to cover their collective asses from being sued if things go sour between you, one of you has authority over the other and that other quits and then files suit for "harassment", sexual or otherwise. That being said, just about everyone ignores it and there's little they can do to you if you start dating... the worst being they'd transfer one of you somewhere else so you don't work together. So sorry, you can't hide behind that little clause so you better do as Floyd said and boink her brains out. I'm sure she won't mind.

[Thorn]

Set up a blind date with me?

[Dis]

this thread is still going on lol.

Well above posts have said she's into me. But I'm not so sure. I've been used by women before, and I have a hard time trusting them because of it. I had one use fake affection to sway influence with me. That's why I'm not sure if this girl's affection is fake. It will take more time before I can trust her. My biggest problem now is not getting a hard on during work. I tried thinking of baseball- but that just got me thinking of scoring a homerun which got me more horny. There has to be something you can think about. I don't always have ice handy to pour down my pants. Thing is she's flirty with alot of guys, not just me. So this is why I think she's one of those women that use affection to get their way with men.

She says she wants to find me a girlfriend. Whatever that means. It may mean she just wants to be friends, and she does want to find me a gf lol. Or she may mean she wants herself to be my gf. She asked me what I liked, I pretty much gave her description lol. Brunette in her 30's. I didn't say mexican (actually born in California though).

So anyways if she just wants to be friends, why does she flirt? Although I'm guilty of setting up the situation. I was cleaning something with a rag, and got white lint on my pants. I was brushing it off, and she asked what I was doing. I said I was brushing white stuff off my pants. And she asked if I needed help with that lol. How can I not get turned on by that lol. Maybe if I've slept with 100 women, that stuff wouldn't interest me, but as it is- I'm horny and desperate. So if a woman who just wants to be friends (and find me a gf) is flirty, I have to suspect she does it to use men (or just general attention whore), or she really is interested in me. Like I said, I have trust issues, so I guess that's why I've been avoiding women all my life.

She says she wants another kid, and I said I wanted one (and the past couple months I really have wanted one- actually considered paying a surrogate mother for one). So this got me to thinking- maybe we could have a kid together . That's probably a bad idea. But I could ask her. That should scare her away . That should work even better than when I used the L word with a couple women (that scared them away big time).

[Dis]

oh to top it all off (she said other provocative comments that day) I go to the gym and see not one but 2 sets of attractive female twins! What are the odds of that happening! I've never even seen a set of twins in person until sunday. That's just weird. One set might have been under 18- I'm a terrible judge of age. The others looked to be a little over 18. This got me to thinking very dirty thoughts about twins. Very hard to focus on my work out. or very difficult I should say.

[Japher]

"I want to have your baby" is generally a good way to scare people off. However, if it back fires you can be screwed... literally!

[Dis]

I think women see me at work, and they see how good and confident I am. And I am. I'm simply the best. It's possible they have never met a man as smart as me. . Holy god, I'm one arrogant sob. But I do this on purpose. I used to not have confidence at my job, and my work suffered. It took years of experience to get this confidence. And I'm not going to risk throwing it away by being humble. I've always struggled at keeping my confidence up, and so I will build myself up.

Now if that confidence could translate into other things involving you know what, that'd be nice. But being good at work, and being good with women seem to be two different animals. I like to think there isn't any one thing I can't fix or service- except women.

edit: I forgot to say what she said when I pushed a service light and told her I need service. Well you can guess what the response was. I know I shouldn't flirt at work, but she started it! . I know I'm playing with fire. I can't blame her entirely for flirting with me, as I respond to those and set up those situations. I have to put some blame on myself. Now if I could find something cold to put down my pants in those situations. Or just stop setting them up. It's like a drug, I can't stop doing it.

[Arrian]

Wait... what's the problem here? Is she ugly? Annoying? Somehow otherwise deficient?

WTF?

-Arrian

[Dis]

nothing wrong with her that I know of. I'm just trying to spare myself some hurt feelings later (and not get fired). She's attractive. Perhaps too attractive for me. Then again I don't know what kind of woman I can get. Sometimes I try to gauge by looking at other couples. I've never seen a guy who looks like me with a woman who is attractive. In fact, I see a lot of guys that are better looking than me with fat women. So I've always assumed at best, I could only get a fat woman. But then again, I am awesome in other areas...

I did mentioned I was fired before. While women weren't the direct cause of that, they were a contributing factor. I wasn't focussing on my work as I should have been. But there were other distractions as well...

[Jon Miller]

Be honest, open, and forthright. Tell her exactly what you are thinking and feeling and worrying about/etc.

JM`

[Arrian]

I'm just trying to spare myself some hurt feelings later

Foolish, IMO. I understand the desire to avoid rejection, but that way leads to endless dates with Rosie palm. If that sounds good to you, hey, whatever.

and not get fired

I've never heard of someone being fired for that... I could see a transfer to separate you if you end up married, depending on the specifics. I bet our employee handbook says something discouraging about relationships, yet a number of couples met in my office and people generally saw it as a good thing.

-Arrian

[Dis]

honesty has never worked with me before lol. But I am getting to that point I will tell her. Once I trust her a little more with such info.