I found love...

[CrONoS]

Originally posted by LordShiva
What about Catherine?

and thanks for asking, I'm glad that you actually remember it.

[Nugog]

Originally posted by CrONoS
I wonder myself if she's not my soul mate (whatever if it's exist or not).

Soul mate - exists

[snoopy369]

Soul Mate

... sort of like Check Mate except the game doesn't get to end for thirty or forty years

(Just kidding, I found my soul mate and hope it doesn't end for longer than that... )

[SlowwHand]

Re: I found love...

You are so screwed.

[Nugog]

Re: Re: I found love...

Originally posted by SlowwHand
You are so screwed.

Which of us?

[snoopy369]

Sloww, I think that was the point, that there's no screwing going on. Didn't you read the OP?

[Wiglaf]

Sell her a mattress

[MRT144]

Oral sex between friends with SO's is perfectly healthy and normal for english as second language people.

[Nostromo]

Cronos, you're such a boy scout... Don't see the boyfriend as an obstacle, see him as a stage in her life.

[Nugog]

Originally posted by nostromo
see him as a stage in her life.

Or a challenge...............

TBH - my wife was seeing someone when we first met - took a while but I won her away!

[East Street Trader]

In my experience it tends to be women who take the initiative in these situations.

In which case what will happen is that the girl will either go cold on you and the flirting will stop or (a good deal more likely from what you say) she will find occasion to show some passion - a kiss probably.

For myself I am an easy going guy and when this has happened I've gone along with it. That is based on nothing more profound than the notion that it is generally more interesting and fun to say yes to a things than to say no. Such regrets as I have are for not trying things rather than for getting into things which then led to a whole lot of trouble or sadness.

I guess you might just ask yourself exactly how you might consumate the relationship, if she does come onto you. Sounds like you have access to private places. A little practical preparation to allow yourselves to be comfortable would make sense.

You plainly have decided not to worry about the partner. And I doubt you do anything terribly wrong in that. One girl friend that I lived with for a year or so left her husband to come to me and I have, from time to time, felt a twinge of guilt. But the fact is that if a woman dumps a partner for someone else the first relationship can't have been very secure even before the new lover appeared. There is a saying "it takes three to commit adultery". For what it is worth it seems to me that you are entitled to leave it wholly to your co-worker to decide what she is going to do about her partner.

If she finishes up having an affaire with you while keeping on the partner you will be in a messy situation and may finish up getting hurt.

But that's life.

[Blaupanzer]

E Street, Good advice. Better to regret trying, than to always wonder if you should have in the first place.

[LordShiva]

Update?

[CrONoS]

@Lordshiva
Thanks for asking LordShiva!

She's now gone into another department, so she's not working with me anymore. (she's working into another building at different hours).

We planned to go have a supper together this week. I don't know what is going to happen... I don't see any possibility to see her left her boyfriend. (she lives with him). So, for me my motto right now towards her is: I'll have a good time with her at this supper. But I think it will be the last time we're seeing each other.


And by the way; thanks to all for your advices!

[Nostromo]

The fact that she lives with him doesn't mean much nowadays. A lot of couples live together only for practical reasons.

Anyway, stop being such a boyscout. Try it, you have nothing to lose. Le plaisir de la chasse, mon ami. Do like Napoléon: "Il ne s'en soucie pas. Il veut. Donc, il doit obtenir."