Originally posted by Pekka
ok, so now you really have to understand the cultural differencies here. Don't try to figure it out because 'it doesn't make sense'. OF course it doesn't make sense to you. That's why you do it differently in the first place!
In here it is common courtesy to _always_ call or inform in others ways beforehand (exact time). Because it is convinient for many reasons:
- I might be in the city, doing something, shopping, what ever. So, when I know the time, I can be home waiting.
- I know who is at the door. Believe it or not, this is important to a Finn. To be expecting the door bell ringing.
- So that I can TIDY UP MY PLACE! This is double courtesy, I first off get the warning, so I can make the place nicer, for example for my dad.
- So that I don't have any friends visiting, or that I don't invite them to come. Because then I'd have to dump them. It is also common courtesy to let people come and feel like home, so you don't want 'strangers' hanging around, so they'd have to be introduced. Very inconvinient. If in some places you'd get a call and then turn to your friend after the call, "my dad is coming over", they might say, "cool, I'll say hello and leave". In here, you don't stay to say hello. You go before the visitor actually comes. Common courtesy.
- I might be at sleep. I might be in the middle of some work. I can fix myself if I get a heads up, I don't reserve any stuff to do. Or, if I'm already doing and I get a heads up, I can stop wha tI'm doing with control and not leave things in a mess.
etc etc etc.. so there are tons of stuff, why it makes sense to us. It is important. It is being polite, no matter who you are, oh, and do note that peo ple who come over and usually only friends or relatives, so this does apply to ALL people.
ok, so now you really have to understand the cultural differencies here. Don't try to figure it out because 'it doesn't make sense'. OF course it doesn't make sense to you. That's why you do it differently in the first place!
In here it is common courtesy to _always_ call or inform in others ways beforehand (exact time). Because it is convinient for many reasons:
- I might be in the city, doing something, shopping, what ever. So, when I know the time, I can be home waiting.
- I know who is at the door. Believe it or not, this is important to a Finn. To be expecting the door bell ringing.
- So that I can TIDY UP MY PLACE! This is double courtesy, I first off get the warning, so I can make the place nicer, for example for my dad.
- So that I don't have any friends visiting, or that I don't invite them to come. Because then I'd have to dump them. It is also common courtesy to let people come and feel like home, so you don't want 'strangers' hanging around, so they'd have to be introduced. Very inconvinient. If in some places you'd get a call and then turn to your friend after the call, "my dad is coming over", they might say, "cool, I'll say hello and leave". In here, you don't stay to say hello. You go before the visitor actually comes. Common courtesy.
- I might be at sleep. I might be in the middle of some work. I can fix myself if I get a heads up, I don't reserve any stuff to do. Or, if I'm already doing and I get a heads up, I can stop wha tI'm doing with control and not leave things in a mess.
etc etc etc.. so there are tons of stuff, why it makes sense to us. It is important. It is being polite, no matter who you are, oh, and do note that peo ple who come over and usually only friends or relatives, so this does apply to ALL people.
despite that, i was merely trying to guess why ur g.pa would have done wat he did ahile assuming he wanst trying to be rude.
because calling people really early and waking them up is just as rude.
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