Are You happy with Your life?

[Lorizael]

Now if only I had the latter...

[Jon Miller]

Money is mostly meaningless.

Freindships are important. Go out and make more ones..

That is a long time scale to lose a freind in.

JM

[Spec]

Originally posted by Jon Miller
It was with my situation in physics, not my one with the ladies.

Although my situation with the ladies is starting to concern me.

(Not the fact of virginess, but the fact that I am fairly unique and don't seem to be getting in any serious relationships)

JM
(I know that if I get good and drunk, and go to some reasonable bars, that I can get laid... that isn't the issue)

Why, when you answer me, JM, do you always relate to virginess? I wasn't even thinking about that man. Drop it. I only bring it up when it has to be brung. I'm just playing with you, it was an honest joke. I do not beleive that you have a mental illness of course. Everyone knows that lack of confidence is not an illness.

"unique", is a unique way of putting it though.

Spec.

[Provost Harrison]

Trust me Jon, you are far from unique in that respect...in fact it is far more common than you'd expect...

[Lorizael]

Originally posted by Jon Miller
Money is mostly meaningless.

Freindships are important. Go out and make more ones..

That is a long time scale to lose a freind in.

JM

I don't really make friends. I have three bestfriends and one girlfriend. I chose them all very carefully. These four people are like family to me. I will do anything for them - drive hundreds of miles, bail them out of jail, lose sleep, work, money, energy - it doesn't matter, I'll do it.

I can't really go out and just get another one. While in time I may find another human being that I think my bizarre and insane self could be understood by, if I lose this friend, I will have lost someone irreplaceable and uniquely important.

[Spiffor]

Originally posted by Spec
Anyone who says YES all the time is drunk 24/7 or sufering from a really fun mental illness.

I'm not happy all the time with my life, but I voted yes.

Saying "sometime yes, sometimes no" implies that I feel ambivalent about my life. I ain't. I'm mostly happy with my life right now, with plenty of bright spots and only two dark spots (my grandparents' health, and my lack of girlfriend).

I feel much better than I did few months ago, and I feel good most of the time, no matter if it's not 100% of the time. That's why I think the YES answer is more representative of my mindset than the "sometimes yes, sometimes not", which implies that it's half half IMO.

[Jon Miller]

Wasn't refering to unique as virigin. And the only time I remember you commenting about me, Spec, was on virginess.

However, I do admit to lacking confidence with women.

JM

[Jon Miller]

Originally posted by Lorizael


I don't really make friends. I have three bestfriends and one girlfriend. I chose them all very carefully. These four people are like family to me. I will do anything for them - drive hundreds of miles, bail them out of jail, lose sleep, work, money, energy - it doesn't matter, I'll do it.

I can't really go out and just get another one. While in time I may find another human being that I think my bizarre and insane self could be understood by, if I lose this friend, I will have lost someone irreplaceable and uniquely important.

The truth of the matter is that most people can be irreplaceable and uniquely important. Discovering that aspect to people is one of the things that makes living joyful!

Generally those who seem replaceable, non unique, and/or non important are choosing to be so and/or apear that way on casual inspection. Generally it takes some work to really get to know a person, and discover the truth about themselves. Sometimes, people have so covered themselves up, that it is deeply hidden, even from themselves.

JM

[Aeson]

I'm happy with my life. It's great. I'm not very happy with my mental illness. It sucks.

[Arrian]

Overall, yes. I have my ups & downs like anyone else, of course.

-Arrian

[Dis]

Originally posted by Spec
Sometimes yes, sometimes no.

Anyone who says YES all the time is drunk 24/7 or sufering from a really fun mental illness.

Spec.

fun mental illness.

yeah of course not 24 hours a day. some days I get so pissed at my job and at certain people.

[Dis]

Originally posted by Jon Miller
Well, even when I was often drunk I had some deep seated unhappiness with my situation which continued to come up.

JM

getting drunk never blocked out my problems. It's why I don't do it. In fact, I hate drinking when depressed. I'd rather drink when happy.

[Dis]

Originally posted by Aeson
I'm happy with my life. It's great. I'm not very happy with my mental illness. It sucks.

are there people who are happy with their mental illness?

[Jon Miller]

Oh yeah, there is a mental readjustment.. otherwise you just sit in a corner drinking your face off.

But the screw-everything I am going out and getting drunk and having a wild time is something that is on the surface sort of fun.

I didn't understand that for a long while, because I had things that were more important, and more deeply related to my happiness that I was engaged in. When I lost focus.. then I engaged in mindless cover for a while (getting drunk, having a good time, forget everything else), until I realised that I was just digging a deeper hole by not addressing the central issues.

So no, I never drank to not get depressed. Rather I decided to run away from my issues, and spending large ammounts of time drunk was part of that.

JM

[Aeson]

Originally posted by Dis
are there people who are happy with their mental illness?

I don't know... but I was talking about my mental illness, not theirs.