Marriage, is it worth it?

[chequita guevara]

Originally posted by Sn00py
McWho; its all in the mind.

Your mind is who you are.

[Kuciwalker]

Originally posted by Sn00py
McWho; its all in the mind.

So is civ.

[Mrs. Tuberski]

Abaraxen we have heard of the term and are indeed considered common law married in the state of texas. I dont carry his last name and some states do not and will not recgonize this union.

[Provost Harrison]

Ecthy, it's tradition. Something deep down we are all conditioned to do from birth alas. However I am cynical enough to realise it for what it is...

[Sikander]

Re: Re: Marriage, is it worth it?

Originally posted by Mrs. Tuberski


I for one dont need tuber to placate me. We arent legally married but we act like it, he wears ring so do i and all the good stuff. I dont even carry his last name. Course that is all gona change now, I made a promise that when his ex wife let go of his last name id take it. the witch got married in june so now i have to pull threw with that promise I dont know if that means getting a piece of paper other then a drivers license again

There's not enough room in this name for the both of us!

[Sikander]

I've been with the same woman for 9 years now, and we periodically have this discussion. The best thing about getting married imo is the wedding. It's unlikely that I will ever see as many of my friends and family in one place at any other time in my life. And they'll be there to celebrate you (and eat and drink on your dime and try to pick someone up). The only similar thing in life would be your funeral, which you won't be able to enjoy as much.

[Provost Harrison]

That's why I intend to have my funeral just before I die, if possible. I'm not missing out on a good booze-up. They can throw my body to the lions in the zoo when I die for all I care.

[Gibsie]

You'll be just like Michael Caine in, "The Weatherman". Awesome. Sounds like a good Poly meet to me!

[Aabraxan]

Originally posted by Mrs. Tuberski
Abaraxen we have heard of the term and are indeed considered common law married in the state of texas. I dont carry his last name and some states do not and will not recgonize this union.

Like I said, I didn't want to meddle, but hadn't seen it mentioned in the posts and just thought it should be brought to y'all's attention.

As to recognition of the marriage, I haven't done any domestic law stuff in quite some time, but IIRC, if you're domiciled in TX, and TX says your married, I think the other states have to recognize it.

But going back to marriage in general . . . It's a good thing. For me, I like not having to deal with dating issues. I like knowing who my date is going to be come Friday night. The tax & insurance benefits are nice. It lends some stability to my life that I don't really think would be possible if we just lived together.

[chequita guevara]

Originally posted by Mrs. Tuberski
some states do not and will not recgonize this union.

If yer married, yer married, and Constitutionally, every state is required to recognize the acts of another state.

[Grandpa Troll]

Originally posted by chegitz guevara

Originally posted by Mrs. Tuberski
some states do not and will not recgonize this union.

If yer married, yer married, and Constitutionally, every state is required to recognize the acts of another state.

But then you have to define marriage

I am not sure, but it used to be illegal for Cohabitation in North Carolina and is being challenged now.

I just share because its a myth that one state upholds every state, I was a Police Officer in Maine and was legally licenced to carry a firearm but when I went to a seminar in Massachussetts we got a memo saying to leave weapons behind because we were not licenced to carry a firearm in that state and we were there for training.


Just sharing my outhouse Lawyer advice , not trying to Troll you Che

[chequita guevara]

That's not quite the same thing. But yeah.

[Mrs. Tuberski]

Well one would think so. But utah doesnt recgonize common law marriage from texas. THere was an isntance where i was trying to get his child support taken care of and they wouldnt even talk to me. They asked me who i was i said his wife they told me to send in proof of our marriage so they can add me to his case i said i dont have proof of a ceremony we are common law maried they say they dont recognize that and with out a marriaege license they will not talk to me about his stuff.

[Harovan]

In higher levels of society marriage was once a mean to keep and multiply power.

In lower levels marriage has been an economical contract between man and woman. "I earn our bread and and feed the family, you keep the nest and raise the common offspring. I promise to feed nobody else, you promise to let nobody else in the nest."

The category "love" never played a major role in its purpose. Love marriages came up only in XXth century, mostly in the rich countries.

Today, in the remainings of the nobility, marriage is a mean to fresh up their thoroughly rotten blood a little. Most of them are powerless anyway and at most serve as representatives.

For the rest of societies in rich countries, with mostly emancipated women who don't need to be "fed", marriage lost its purpose and will therefor slowly die out. We're in the mid of that process already. It will be replaced by the social union, which in many places is already recognized as equal to the traditional marriage.

In poor countries the old (economical) purpose of marriage still remains and hence marriage will probably last a while longer than in the rich countries. Just like the common custom to have as many as possible children, to secure the retirement of their parents. Which might be the problem of the rich countries.

[Dinner]

Originally posted by Sikander
I've been with the same woman for 9 years now, and we periodically have this discussion.

9 years?! Jesus Christ man! **** or get off of the pot!

The best thing about getting married imo is the wedding. It's unlikely that I will ever see as many of my friends and family in one place at any other time in my life. And they'll be there to celebrate you (and eat and drink on your dime and try to pick someone up). The only similar thing in life would be your funeral, which you won't be able to enjoy as much.

Weddings are great fun. Also you get some fairly good tax advantages for being married, many employers won't share medical benifets to just a girlfriend but legally must with a wife, then their is the fact that in a medical emergency neither of you have any power to make decisions for the other nor even to visit the other in the hospital unless her parents/next of kin let you. Much better to get married after a nice long courtship (say 3 years or so) then to just drag it out for a decade.