Marriage, is it worth it?

[Mrs. Tuberski]

Re: Marriage, is it worth it?

Originally posted by Dauphin
Where is the benefit in marriage? Why do you need a piece of paper to say what you've already said in your heart to one another.

Waste of time in my opinion, other than to placate the future Mrs of course....

I for one dont need tuber to placate me. We arent legally married but we act like it, he wears ring so do i and all the good stuff. I dont even carry his last name. Course that is all gona change now, I made a promise that when his ex wife let go of his last name id take it. the witch got married in june so now i have to pull threw with that promise I dont know if that means getting a piece of paper other then a drivers license again

[Japher]

I think Gene Simmons' son said it best in all the adds for his that reality TV show; "you call it happily unmarried, mom calls it waiting."

[Mrs. Tuberski]

i saw some of that show last night god was it so dumb
i was even thinking if those kids really belong to gene simmons or if he hired them

[chequita guevara]

I don't know how it is in Texas, but Bunnygrrl had to take our marriage license in to change her name on her DL.

[Grandpa Troll]

I have been blessed by God for my sweetheart Mrs. Troll.

I love her dearly, not because of the "paper" but because of our relationship.

Marriage is in the Bible as being a set order of the way it has been determined to be.

Now, I am not starting not backing down from a Holy War, just sharing why I feel Marriage is worth it for Brother Bruce a.k.a. the Grandpa One.


As for Civil Unions, I guess I am unclear why a civil union is necessary, if you love someone then marry them and enjoy yourselfs

On a related matter, I find a prenuptual agreement completely absurd, but, unfortunately a necessity of life these days. Gold diggers and the such.


Gramps

[Mrs. Tuberski]

i dont know
they said to change it would take two legal binding documents. maybe a billl or a notarized affidavit

[chequita guevara]

Marriage rocks, but I do miss the sex.

[Japher]

what's this sex thing?

[LordShiva]

Originally posted by chegitz guevara
I don't know how it is in Texas, but Bunnygrrl had to take our marriage license in to change her name on her DL.

[Jon Miller]

Re: Re: Marriage, is it worth it?

Originally posted by chegitz guevara


That's what Bunnygrrl and I thought. We'd been together for 13 years beofre we tied the knot for purely economic reasons. It's actually brought us closer together. I'm guessing it has to do with a lifetime of social conditioning, and no matter how much you rationalize it, it's a core part of you.

yep, and a reason why in our society we should allow gays to get married

JM

[Tuberski]

Re: Re: Marriage, is it worth it?

Originally posted by Mrs. Tuberski


I for one dont need tuber to placate me. We arent legally married but we act like it, he wears ring so do i and all the good stuff. I dont even carry his last name. Course that is all gona change now, I made a promise that when his ex wife let go of his last name id take it. the witch got married in june so now i have to pull threw with that promise I dont know if that means getting a piece of paper other then a drivers license again

Yep, I asked her 4 years ago, this is her last chance to be my wife in name as well as heart and soul.

She ain't gettin' another chance at this studliness.

ACK!

[Dauphin]

Originally posted by Provost Harrison
What brought on this attack of cynicism Antoine Noël?

Big argument last night.

[Flip McWho]

Yes it is, apparently because you live longer among others.

http://www.stuff.co.nz/stuff/0,2106,3759781a11,00.html

Married couples have more going for them - study
10 August 2006


It's official: marriage is good for your health.


A study of nearly 67,000 adults shows that far from being an old-fashioned institution or just a piece of paper, marriage prolongs life.

In the United States study, people who had never married were 58 per cent more likely to have died during the eight-year period studied than those who were married.

Those who were widowed or divorced also died in greater numbers than those who remained married, with increased likelihoods of 40 per cent and 27 per cent respectively.

The findings, published in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health, were based on information from the US census and death certificates between 1989 and 1997.

The researchers, led by Robert Kaplan, of the University of California, suggested that because marriage was a marker of social connection, not marrying could be associated with severe isolation.

Men who never married were more at risk than women.

Family First national director Bob McCoskrie said "screeds and screeds" of research showed marriage was beneficial to health.

McCoskrie, whose group promotes strong families and safe communities, said married couples looked out for each other's health, by doing things such as encouraging exercise, healthy eating and visits to the doctor.

He said health was also helped by the fact married people tended to be better off financially.

Mary Hill is one "never married" person who bucks the trend. Hill, 86, put her longevity down to "just good health and clean living".

The Beckenham Courts rest-home resident said she never missed being married as she was too busy working as a missionary and travelling.

"I've been around the world four times and travelled all over New Zealand, Australia, India, Israel, England and Scotland. Women can manage on their own if they try."

Other research has shown that married people:

Are less likely to be chronic problem drinkers.

Are much less likely to be admitted to a psychiatric hospital with schizophrenia.

Are 8 per cent to 17 per cent more likely to be cured of some cancers.

If female, are less likely to be victims of violence.

Have a significantly higher level of happiness than unmarried people.

[Dauphin]

Those stats would seem skewed to me, if you consider that most people in a happy long term relationship would choose to get married and those that are unhappy and alone won't be married. i.e. Is it the marriage or the relationship that is the source of longevity.

A fair comparison would be to look at those in 10+ year marriages and those that would qualify under a 10+ year common law marriage.

[FrostyBoy]

McWho; its all in the mind.

We can all thank the media and social pressure for making us think that marriage = good/success/happiness.

You can be happy and healthy and never have been married, had sex, a girlfriend. Like I said, it's all in the mind.

I find ceremonial marriage a bunch of nonsense from the forgotten times.

It's all what Troll said.

Grandpa Troll said it well: