What do you think of making a move on a woman who was just dumped?

[Pekka]

IF you really do like her, wait a bit, let her cover a little, then make a move. This way, you'll be the first one to make a move but you gave her time and didn't take the advantage of the situation, so you're still like a cool guy. She'll also notice this. It's good business, and that's why it will pay off.

[Japher]

women are stupid

Quoted because.... no reason I guess. Just thought that was funny.

[Q Classic]

Celibacy! Yay!

[Ecthy]

Err.

[Ecthy]

I just got this as a waiting message:

To err is human, to forgive is against company policy.

[Gibsie]

If she still seems upset next time you see her, tell her it could be worse, she could be going out with you. But say it with humour, and not that "oh my god I'm so lame" type. Then gauge her response.

[rah]

Bad strat. If she says "TRUE", you'll be forced to determine if it was a joke or not. Sometimes it's not easy to tell.

My recommendation would be go for it, before some other creep does. Women that you desire are only available during a small window, don't miss out.

While traditional wisdom says rebound relationships usually don't work out, it's not set in stone. The alternative is that you may never find out.

[snoopy369]

I have to admit, I am with my current GF of 7+ years after doing basically what you're describing ...

I met her along with another male friend of mine who decided he wanted to date her, which was cool as I'd just met her. They dated not particularly seriously for a few months, I usually being along with (they didn't do many real "dates", mostly playing Star Wars CCG ), then he took a leave of absence from the school, not actually dumping her, but effectively doing so (he'd come back to dump her for actuality later). I don't know this at the time, so I just am a friend and such, but by the end of the school year (3 months later or so) I'm spending a lot of time with her and her best friend (female).

Then comes summer, chat briefly over emial, and then the next year starts, a few months go by, I finally realize that he's dumped her (a while back by now), and eventually we start dating properly (though spending 3-5 hours a day together, what's that if not dating ), and haven't stopped since

So being her "friend" can work quite well

[Gibsie]

It's never easy to tell anything with women. That doesn't mean that any particular strategy shouldn't be used though.

[Elok]

Originally posted by DanS
I think some hard-core ladder theory analysis on this subject would be good for you.

HAHAHAHA ladder theory...I rank that next to Satanists and all the other modern-day Machiavellis. There's nothing like a man who, because his life sucks, assumes life is inherently sucky, and the fact that he is a neurotic, self-absorbed loser has nothing to do with it.

WRT the OP, give her time to heal whatever you do, unless you feel like going through the beautiful romantic experience of a nervous breakdown together. I never put too much stock in the "friends zone" crap; it was in all likelihood invented by men who didn't want to admit they had no sex appeal (at least for the woman in question). There's always weirdness when you alter the nature of a relationship, but if women reacted so predictably, they wouldn't be half as interesting, and you might as well be wooing a cow.

[Rufus T. Firefly]

If it was a serious relationship, she'll now need a Transition Guy.

If you don't care much about your relationship with her, hit on her now, and be Transition Guy.

If you do care about your relationship with her, be her friend now, and lay the groundwork to become her next real relationship after she finds, then dumps, Transition Guy.

[Urban Ranger]

Exactly. Beware of the rebound.

[Dis]

Originally posted by C0ckney
good grief dis, while you were posting a thread about this, you could of been over there taking advantage of her.

that's not my intention. I'm not interested in sex, I'm interested in a serious relationship (with sex in it of course)

[Ted Striker]

Originally posted by Rufus T. Firefly
If it was a serious relationship, she'll now need a Transition Guy.

If you don't care much about your relationship with her, hit on her now, and be Transition Guy.

If you do care about your relationship with her, be her friend now, and lay the groundwork to become her next real relationship after she finds, then dumps, Transition Guy.

Originally posted by Urban Ranger
Exactly. Beware of the rebound.

QFT

[Dis]

transition guy?

this is getting complicated. I think I'll go back to playing computer games (which I haven't done in a while because of real life dealings- and spending too much time here). Computer games are much simpler to win at.

In any case. I'm thinking about becoming voluntarily abstinate. I've determined I'm too sensitive and caring. And women don't really want that. . But seriously, I did care about this person's feelings. I care too much about people (people I know at least- I admit I'm uncaring to people I don't know). And I'm way too sensitive. Men aren't supposed to be that way.

If I was religious, I'd be a catholic priest. I could help people that way. I actually care more about other people than myself.