What do you think of making a move on a woman who was just dumped?

[Dis]

It seems very uncool to me. I don't want to do it. But it has been suggested that I do this. And I just don't want to. But I do like this girl. I figure I'll give it a little time. I'm probably doomed to friend status anyways. When I heard about it, I went right over and consoled her, as she was alone at the time. And I hugged her and all that. So she probably thinks of me as a friend now. I'm used to that. . As I treated her too nicely, when women really want to be treated like crap.

Have any of you done this? I really didn't think I had any feelings for this girl. But I was really upset at what happened. She was treated like ****. I do seem to care for her, even though I don't know her all that well.

[Winston]

I could make quite a nasty spin-off from that thread title, but I won't.

[C0ckney]

good grief dis, while you were posting a thread about this, you could of been over there taking advantage of her.

[Apocalypse]

Well, just talk with her about why it didn't work.

Anytime she feels like she did something wrong, agree that she did whatever she did wrong. Just tell her that she can work on it. Things she doesn't like about the other guy, just agree and put him down even more.

[Ming]

Remember... always be there for her

[Ogie Oglethorpe]

Tell her its obvious she didn't perform well enough in bed to hold onto the other dickhead and that you are there to provide remedial lessons.

[DanS]

I think some hard-core ladder theory analysis on this subject would be good for you.

[Fake Boris]

You missed your first chance, but there could be a second one. Invite her for a date, and when she's thankful for you having entertained away her spirits for a night, make a move.

[Zkribbler]

Originally posted by Oncle Boris
You missed your first chance, but there could be a second one. Invite her for a date, and when she's thankful for you having entertained away her spirits for a night and for getting her drunk , make a move.

There. I edited your post for you to make it read correctly.

[Jon Miller]

Sometimes, you should go for it even if it isn't the most honest time to do so (and it always isn't the most honest to get someone on the rebound). Because there are always other guys who would pick up a girl on the rebound, and than she won't be available again.

Jon Miller

[Japher]

I'd go for it

The whole be there for her crap won't work... you'll just end up being a friend

either give her her space and a couple of weeks per year she was with the guy

or

ask her out, like you've been waiting for her to get rid of the loser and get with you a "winner"... heh... a laughed inside when I typed that

[Jon Miller]

I recommend just asking her out. I was there for a freind.. some other guy asked her out, and that was the end of that (I was going to wait a couple more weeks..).

Jon Miller
(of course, I remained her freind for a couple of years (still am, but not as good), and she wouldn't have been right for me.. but it might have been a fun mistake)

[Guynemer]

Strike while the iron is hot.

[Datajack Franit]

women are stupid. they just ask to be dumped again and again. she's probably expecting to be dumped again, so make her happy.

[Spiffor]

Re: What do you think of making a move on a woman who was just dumped?

Originally posted by Dis
It seems very uncool to me. I don't want to do it. But it has been suggested that I do this. And I just don't want to. But I do like this girl. I figure I'll give it a little time. I'm probably doomed to friend status anyways. When I heard about it, I went right over and consoled her, as she was alone at the time. And I hugged her and all that. So she probably thinks of me as a friend now. I'm used to that. . As I treated her too nicely, when women really want to be treated like crap.

Have any of you done this? I really didn't think I had any feelings for this girl. But I was really upset at what happened. She was treated like ****. I do seem to care for her, even though I don't know her all that well.

Continue to be there for her, be helpful, and don't worry about whether you do it out of romantic interest or out of friendship.

If she wants a romantic relationship with you, then you'll be a winner because it'll happen without you taking advantage. If she wants to be just friends, then you're a winner as well, because you'll be proud of having done the right thing.

Should you try to take advantage of her, you'll be a loser. You'll regret it, either immediately or afterwards, because it goes against your moral code.