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    So I sit here in front of the computer getting slowly drunk on whisky and feeling sorry for myself. A few days ago one of my best friends told me she was pregnant. I was quite shocked since she wasnt the type to get children I thought. A very messy life and, like me, a bit lost in the world. Shes gonna keep it, it wasnt even on the map to get an abortion she said. Im glad that this might herald a new era of stability in her life, but at the same time Im terrified that I will be left out so to speak. The thing is I was madly in love with here when we first became friends, a feeling that I thought I had under control. But since she told me Ive been very anxious and depressed. This will change everything, we were (are!) very close and I feel that this will come between us. I mean it must, mustnt it? Its not just me and her anymore. Its me, her baby and the father (who she might move in with!!!). What the **** am I supposed to do with my life now? We cant possibly hang out as much as we used to now... Somehow I thought we were always going to be like teenagers hanging out, drinking beer and talking about how much life sucks... If shes going to play Happy family now I might as well kill myself. Or find me a girl and start a family of my own... But hows that gonna happen?

    Ive been doing a lof of solitary drinking lately, three times in the last week. Unheard of for me... Somehow drinking dulls the anxeity... Funny that, it usually used to be her that was drunk and I who was in control. Now the tables are turned... Bastards!

    I really need to get me some kind of social life, start dating and stuff...
    I love being beaten by women - Lorizael

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    go out to a bar and get smashed

    actually I'm never in the mood to drink when I'm depressed. I was depressed a couple weeks ago and went to the bar to get drunk. But I wasn't in the mood and only drank one beer.

    better that way. As drinking while depressed isn't a good thing. The best thing is just to play some computer games.

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    • #3
      Im trying to wrap my head around this scenario Im trying to create. But its tricier than it sounds. And I have very little money right now, and Im not sure I want to be in a crowded pub anyway. I have a lot of booze in the house and music that I like.

      Another thing about this whole ****ing situation is that she asked me not to tell anyone else about this. So I cant discuss this with my other friends and family. But Poly is OK I guess. Blees the the relative anonymity of teh Internet
      I love being beaten by women - Lorizael

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      • #4
        Are you still coming over to London in the next week or few?
        One day Canada will rule the world, and then we'll all be sorry.

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        • #5
          in a few months, it may be obvious that she's pregnant. . Can't be that hard to keep a secret for a few months, can it?

          And female friends are interesting indeed. I never had one (except in childhood) until recently. My romantic feelings for her have faded, but not completely. They are tough to deal with sometimes. But for the most part I have accepted her as just a friend. But it's strange, because I act around her a way I would never do with a guy friend. Hugs and all that. I never hug guys. Let alone kiss.

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          • #6
            Dauphin, I really should now, God knows I need the change of scenery. But we got a whopping 700 rent & electricity bill for the boat (another project where I have no idea what Im doing, like my life...) So I said to Provost that Ill have to skip that. But now... It might be worth living on noodles and rice in May to do something fun for a while. I start my new job May 2nd so I should get some vacation in before that....
            I love being beaten by women - Lorizael

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            • #7
              My fiance has actually lost weight since she became pregnant. I think it has to do with vomitting every single day due to morning sickness, but I could be wrong.

              While going to a pub to pick-up is not a guaranteed method of meeting someone, your chances of finding someone while drinking alone are decreased dramatically.
              I'm building a wagon! On some other part of the internets, obviously (but not that other site).

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              • #8
                Originally posted by Dis
                in a few months, it may be obvious that she's pregnant. . Can't be that hard to keep a secret for a few months, can it?

                And female friends are interesting indeed. I never had one (except in childhood) until recently. My romantic feelings for her have faded, but not completely. They are tough to deal with sometimes. But for the most part I have accepted her as just a friend. But it's strange, because I act around her a way I would never do with a guy friend. Hugs and all that. I never hug guys. Let alone kiss.
                Heh, I know that one. I dont have sexual dreams about mu male friends. And I dont really think you can have friends of the opposite sex without having sexual/romantic feelings for them.
                I love being beaten by women - Lorizael

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                • #9
                  For me the only thing working when I'm depressed... it's to make a ride of bicycle, playing raquetball with one of my friend, making any sport..., talking to a friends.

                  Being alone in a bar, with many people around us is pretty sad.

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                  @Zoid:
                  Two friends of mine get pregnant, one was my ex-gf and the other girl, an old schoolgirl friend. Whatever...

                  Dont be too depress.... she will need you, she will need your help! Since in your post you seem to say, That the man who make it pregnant seem to dont be here yo support her.

                  My friends used to call me in the very morning at 6:00am and make 30km of cars just to talk with me, she will need your support zoid(if you want to give him your support).

                  I think, if you keep in touch with your friend, you will really like this situation. At only one condition; You have to face your emotion about her. Do you love her? Do you actually love her? You have to face it,

                  see ya,
                  bleh

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Skanky Burns
                    My fiance has actually lost weight since she became pregnant. I think it has to do with vomitting every single day due to morning sickness, but I could be wrong.

                    While going to a pub to pick-up is not a guaranteed method of meeting someone, your chances of finding someone while drinking alone are decreased dramatically.
                    Ive never picked up anyone in abar. Im just not that type, I need different surroundings. But youre right, sitting home alone doesnt do anyone any good.
                    I love being beaten by women - Lorizael

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                    • #11
                      I think you are much safer if you are at home drinking. You're not behind the wheel of a car, your in your own space and know your limitations within the confines of your own home and great music and of course all of us, what more could you want
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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by cronos_qc


                        Dont be too depress.... she will need you, she will need your help! Since in your post you seem to say, That the man she make it pregnant seem to dont be here yo support her.
                        Hes vey definetly there. Hes actually THE ex-boyfriend of heres that would cope with the situation. This is whats making me scared of losing a large part of her friendship, she wont have any time left for me with a baby and her old boyfriend...

                        I think, if you keep in touch with your friend, you will really like this situation. At only one condition; You have to face your emotion about her. Do you love her? Do you actually love her? You have to face it,

                        see ya,
                        I think I love her. Shes basially everything I want in a woman, smart, sexy, similar interests, etc... I thought I was over her, but obviously Im not... ****! Its been five years since I realized it wasnt really going that way...
                        I love being beaten by women - Lorizael

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                        • #13
                          try not to be selfish about this. Yes you most likely won't have as much time with her (unless you like to hang out with her as she's changing diapers- or breast feeding ). The baby will occupy a lot of time. But you can still be friends with her. But you will indeed need to branch out with your available time, and be with other people.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by Tiamat
                            I think you are much safer if you are at home drinking. You're not behind the wheel of a car, your in your own space and know your limitations within the confines of your own home and great music and of course all of us, what more could you want
                            The tender embrace of a woman?
                            I love being beaten by women - Lorizael

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                            • #15
                              Tia will give you a hug accross the internet lines.

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