male-female friendships

[Imran Siddiqui]

Possible, definetly possible. I guess most of my friends are female friends (though mostly from work).

[Pekka]

ha-ha!

that means you have no friends. Rule 1) friends from work are not really friends but buddies at work.

So if most your friends are female, but they are from work, it means you have no friends.

I think, since you don't have friends, that you should not talk about this subject, except purely from theoretical point of view.

[Spiffor]

[Imran Siddiqui]

that means you have no friends. Rule 1) friends from work are not really friends but buddies at work.

That's the wierdest thing I've ever heard. So when you go out to dinner on the weekends with people from work that means they are not your friends?

I think you just have an inferiority complex. You'd like female friends, but none of them want to be your friend. Poor Pekka .

[Pekka]

No, in fact I said I have many female friends.

You said most of your friends are from work.

lol

Anyway, you know it's not a competition. I'm sure you have nice dinners with your work friends on weekends.

[Imran Siddiqui]

Yeah, a lot of people's friends are from work . When you spend 40 hours a week there, those things happen.

[Colon™]

It's ok Imran, we still like you, even though you have no real friends.

[Flubber]

Re: male-female friendships

Originally posted by Dis
Are they possible?

Possible yes

Originally posted by Dis
What are your thoughts and experiences on these?

A few types

1. The life-long "like a sister" friend-- This is someone you knew forever maybe from before you knew what sex was. If you get through the hormone charged teen years without wanting to jump her, she's probably a friend for good. Later in life it might be someone that you got to know while in a relationship and got to know really really well .

2. A woman you find unattractive. These can be great friends-- unless they begin to find you attractive. I had that happen once--

3. The attractive woman friend-- I have had several of these. These usually work best when one or both of you are in other relationships since I don't know if you ever lose the attraction part. For me, I know that if ever I became single, there is not one of my attractive female friends that I would not sleep with. I do know that I have navigated the shoals of friend sex a couple of times but I think this is tricky and best done with casual friends you see less frequently

[Flip McWho]

Are they possible?

Yes. all my friends in later high school were female, it wasn't till uni that I really started to hang out with males.

What are your thoughts and experiences on these?

Its all good. What you have to do is get over the whole sex thing. Females are people too, not just something you either stick your dick in or don't.

[Provost Harrison]

Why do so many men seem to have difficulties making female friends? I seem to find this particularly easy and it is a mutual thing. I am sure some of you have not learned to separate your higher brain functions from your trouser functions

[Urban Ranger]

That's because you are mostly harmless, Rich

[Sikander]

I've have and have had zillions of female friends and have been much enriched by their presence in my life. I don't see much difference between being friends with an attractive woman and having any other sort of relationship with her. I'm attracted to a lot of women who I'm not going to hit on because it is inappropriate in regard to our current relationship.

I've been attracted to probably half of my female friends and have slept with a fair number of them at one time or another due to changing circumstances (and/or inhebriation). It can be hard to deal with a female friend if you have a raging crush on her, but I've found it's pretty easy to reestablish an equalibrium in the relationship by steering my sexual energy into more profitable endeavors. It's totally do-able to have female friends, and they can be an incredible resource for your growth, particularly emotionally.

[Provost Harrison]

Inhebriation? Is that behaving like a Jew when drunk?

[Ecthy]

It is easily possible, and not being attracted to each other isn't even a condition.

Normal guys have female friends, also ones they might feel attracted to.

It's also cultural though. Americans =!= Europeans =!= Greeks+Israelis

[Drogue]

Most of my close friends are female. It's quite easy to be friends with a girla nd not be attracted to her if you're simply not attracted to her. Even if you are attracted to her, friendships can still work easily. The tension can be quite fun sometimes