male-female friendships

[Dis]

Are they possible? What are your thoughts and experiences on these? How does a man be friends with a woman without being attracted to her? And why do women like to have male friends? This isn't a thread about me (you are all tired of hearing about my personal life), these are just general questions. If you have any stories, feel free to post them.

[Apocalypse]

Nope just give up.

There are exceptions, but if you have to ask, your situation isn't one of them.

[Dis]

I already said this wasn't about me. .

Or do you not believe me. Okay it wasn't very believable. but I'm already friends with a couple women. But the problem is I'm attracted to them.

I've heard some guys say it's pathetic to just be friends with a woman. But to me, that seems rude to just ignore them because they don't offer me sex. I don't treat women like sex objects. They are intelligent and hold decent conversations.

[Az]

I am 'friends' with some women. I am not attracted to them, though I probably would have sex with them if I hadn't known them personally. They're quite insane. It's possible, if you're careful. It really helps having a girlfriend, or be dating someone else, in the process.

[Apocalypse]

When women just want to be friends it means they don't want a relationship at all and it's a disrespect in a way.

Pretty much, the best way is to admit you have an STD that you got from some highly desireable woman. They changes the reason they don't want to have sex with you and you earn their respect since it'd be a woman they'd feel threatened by. This story can be a lie if you need it to be. I am very much against lies though.

[Az]

That sounds like something Dis would post.

[DRoseDARs]

If she invites you in for "coffee," make sure you're wearing your gimp suit and you have the double-headed dildo you got from the basement of the police station downtown...

[Datajack Franit]

absolutely. easy easy easy

[Urban Ranger]

Re: male-female friendships

Originally posted by Dis
Are they possible?

Yes.

Originally posted by Dis
What are your thoughts and experiences on these?

I have a bunch of women friends, so

Originally posted by Dis
How does a man be friends with a woman without being attracted to her?

You can be friends with a woman even if you are attacted to her. Besides, it's not that hard to not be attracted to a woman. Of course, some women are more attractive than others. It also helps if you are dating.

Originally posted by Dis
And why do women like to have male friends?

Um, why not?

[FrostyBoy]

female friends is not a problem, I have a few.

But best friends.. now that is a different story..

[Pekka]

I have tons of female friends. Maybe equal to the amount of male friends. But no, they are not my BEST friends.

[Illur]

i'm a girl. most of my friends are male. they behave nicely most of the time (it probably helps that i have a boyfriend who is part of the same circle).

i would say that my bf is also my best friend, and my two closest friends besides him is a girl and a guy

i like male friends because the aren't as silly as girls girls are complicated and scheming and ploting and evil

[Jon Miller]

if you aren't getting any, it is hard to think of a female freind entirely nonsexually (unless she is really ugly)

it could be different if you are getting some or are in a relationship, but I have never been

JM

[Barinthus]

Some of friendships I treasure very much are with females. They help me shop for clothes

I've been attracted to them all at some point in our relationship. Attraction doesn't mean I have to bone them or try to push the friendship into something more initimate.

Some of my female friends - when we first met I was very interested in them but took time to know them more as an individuals and eventually realize they're not what I'm looking for in a girlfriend so I'm glad we only remain friends because once you get physically involved with a female things easily can become messy, indeed, once you realize you want to end it.

I remember this woman, everytime I'm in the same room with her I can literally feel my blood boil. But because she's a coworker at a job I recently started and she said she has a boyfriend I restrained myself. A good thing too because after few months I start to see her other side and most of my attraction evaporated right there

[The Emperor Fabulous]

There are four levels of Male-Female non-Relationship friendships:

1.) The No Sexual Chemistry Friendship:

With this female, you two are friends but unattracted in some way. Maybe she's ugly, maybe you've grown up together so she's like a sister, maybe there just isn't any sexual chemistry. This is how I would describe 50% of my Female Friendships.

2.) The Attracted but Restrained Friendship:

Here, you may find your friend attractive, but you won't do anything about it. Or she may find you attractive, but she won't do anything about it. Why? Because friendship is a different beast than relationship, and there's no reason to switch. This describes about 30% of my Female Friendships.

3.) The Friends-with-Benefits Friendship:

Can be better than relationships, because you don't have to buy expensive things. There is sexual chemistry, and it is acted upon, but dating doesn't happen for one reason or another. This would describe 15% of my Female Friendships. Could be one or both of you is already in a relationship, or that you've tried and it didn't work, but this arrangement isn't necessarily bad...unless it becomes:

4.) The Unrequited Love Friendship:

Let's face it: the only reason this friendship exists is because you're in absolute love with the other person and she doesn't return the feeling, but you don't want to let her go. This would be 5% of my Female Friendships (although that number is probably pretty high...maybe closer to 1%). Maybe it will lead to something else, maybe not.

So yes, it is possible to be friends without the tension. It is also possible to be friends with the tension. My advice: if you become friends with someone, immediately count them out as relationship material. There are 3 billion women in the world, so there's got to be someone else you can turn lust/love to.