I'm not gay

[Flubber]

Originally posted by Jon Miller


bi is fundamentally unstable, every bi person I have known who is not a hedonist has come down on one side or another in the long term..

Did they CHOOSE one side over another or did they continue to be bi but simply fall in love with a person and maintain a monogomous relationship?

To me a person could be in this situation and still not have a settled preference as to the gender they are attracted to . .

[Dis]

that guys sounds like he has major issues. Even more than me (and I do have sexuality issues)

but not every guy who isn't masculine is gay. I'm afraid a lot of people think I'm gay. Because I don't have a strong masculine voice, and I don't have a strong masculine build. And I don't have masculine gestures and body movements. But it should be noted I don't talk in that "gay" type voice. not every guy guy does that voice, but many do.

but then again, maybe I am gay. I don't find men attractive. But I have no problem doing a threeway with another guy. It hasn't happened, but if the situation ever arised. Speaking of. I think I could give a guy a handjob, but that's probably as far as I'd ever go with a guy.

[Flubber]

Originally posted by Jon Miller
based upon your description of her, I would call her straight, but in a homosexual relationship.. or in denial

JM

Denial is tough to accept since she is "out" with her relationship with all her family and friends. She actually doesn't call herself "gay" or "bi" -- all she knows is who she loves and that she is very happy.

Straight and in a homosexual relationship doesn't sound right either. It sounds as if she doesn't enjoy sex now or something while she has said basically that "sex with someone you really love is something special"

Will she hanker for some muscular man at some point? maybe . . . but how is that much different from the hetero man hankering after the youger or bigger boobed lady? I think everyone is attracted to other people from time to time

[Thorn]

Originally posted by Flubber


Did they CHOOSE one side over another or did they continue to be bi but simply fall in love with a person and maintain a monogomous relationship?

To me a person could be in this situation and still not have a settled preference as to the gender they are attracted to . .

I'm bisexual and I tell you what it isn't easy.... though I prefer guys, its more like 60 percent towards guys and 40 percent towards girls... although I have never had an emotional connection to girl, so I don't see the point in me being attracted to them in the least.... I'd rather be one or the other but that isn't happening.

[Jon Miller]

Originally posted by Flubber


Did they CHOOSE one side over another or did they continue to be bi but simply fall in love with a person and maintain a monogomous relationship?

To me a person could be in this situation and still not have a settled preference as to the gender they are attracted to . .

no, they came out as one or the other (often gay)

and the next relationship was with the same sex again...

I have never talked to a person who convinced me that they had no gender preference... (without that convincing be destroyed by them coming out straight or gay some time later)

in your example she (if you beleive her) obviously has a straight preference... but 2 and 3 (and for 3 I gave references to people that you are in love with but don't generally have sex with..) are with this other woman

if she has a straight preference then she is straight

if I had to have sex with the person I loved most, right now, I would have sex with a guy

I am attracted to women though, and would prefer to wait and find one that is right for me

JM

[Flubber]

Originally posted by Dis
that guys sounds like he has major issues. Even more than me (and I do have sexuality issues)

but not every guy who isn't masculine is gay. I'm afraid a lot of people think I'm gay. Because I don't have a strong masculine voice, and I don't have a strong masculine build. And I don't have masculine gestures and body movements. But it should be noted I don't talk in that "gay" type voice. not every guy guy does that voice, but many do.

but then again, maybe I am gay. I don't find men attractive. But I have no problem doing a threeway with another guy. It hasn't happened, but if the situation ever arised. Speaking of. I think I could give a guy a handjob, but that's probably as far as I'd ever go with a guy.

Sounds like you are somewhat effeminate but that no way means you are gay-- Some of the more "feminine" guys I know used to get laid more than anybody . .


Simple gay test-- have you EVER felt attracted to a man? have you ever started to get aroused from seeing a naked man?

If no-- you are straight

[Provost Harrison]

Hmmm, Dis, it sounds like you need to experiment

[Jon Miller]

Originally posted by Flubber


Denial is tough to accept since she is "out" with her relationship with all her family and friends. She actually doesn't call herself "gay" or "bi" -- all she knows is who she loves and that she is very happy.

Straight and in a homosexual relationship doesn't sound right either. It sounds as if she doesn't enjoy sex now or something while she has said basically that "sex with someone you really love is something special"

Will she hanker for some muscular man at some point? maybe . . . but how is that much different from the hetero man hankering after the youger or bigger boobed lady? I think everyone is attracted to other people from time to time

um... was my post not clear?

I said that physical aspect was different then the attraction factor (Where sexuality enters in)

she obvious has 2 and 3..

that is not enough for most/all people to be satisfied..

JM

[Dis]

Originally posted by Provost Harrison
Hmmm, Dis, it sounds like you need to experiment

I'm all for experimenting with 3-ways.

[Dis]

Originally posted by Flubber


Sounds like you are somewhat effeminate but that no way means you are gay-- Some of the more "feminine" guys I know used to get laid more than anybody . .


Simple gay test-- have you EVER felt attracted to a man? have you ever started to get aroused from seeing a naked man?

If no-- you are straight

I do get aroused by a naked man getting serviced by a woman. Even if the woman is fully clothed.

I think there's a term psycholigists use. Can't remember the term. It basically refers to imagining yourself in the role of the guy. This is why I prefer circumsized penises in porn.

[Barinthus]

I dunno if someone already said this - a lot of men/boys engage in homosexual behavior yet insist they are not gay.

That's why in sex education field we have a new acyronym MSM - Men who have Sex with other Men.

[Provost Harrison]

Micro Soft Metwork?

[Kuciwalker]

Originally posted by Barinthus
I dunno if someone already said this - a lot of men/boys engage in homosexual behavior yet insist they are not gay.

That's why in sex education field we have a new acyronym MSM - Men who have Sex with other Men.

Yeah, those people are called gay.

[Wittlich]

Originally posted by Dis


I do get aroused by a naked man getting serviced by a woman. Even if the woman is fully clothed.

I think there's a term psycholigists use. Can't remember the term. It basically refers to imagining yourself in the role of the guy. This is why I prefer circumsized penises in porn.

Yes...it could be that, or it could be something more. Have you ever watched a gay porn Dis?

[Ted Striker]

Originally posted by Barinthus
I dunno if someone already said this - a lot of men/boys engage in homosexual behavior yet insist they are not gay.

That's why in sex education field we have a new acyronym MSM - Men who have Sex with other Men.

The Sex Education Field

WHAT TIME IS THE LAB???