I have discovered my superpower!

[Ted Striker]

At our job, we work some crazy hours, sometimes we have to do things like work the weekends, very late at night. Or, have unexpected late nights.

Most of the wives are fine with it, but there are a couple of wives that give their man a hard time. I don't think that's fair, because they should have raised the issue when they met these guys. They knew what they were getting into upfront.

That's my pet peeve, like women that marry a tough guy, like a boxer or something, and then ask him to quit it because she is worried about him getting hurt. But what a man does for a living defines alot of who he is. Asking a boxer to quit boxing for example is like asking him for his balls back. It's just a big no no. Plus, part of the attraction to him in the first place was his toughness.


I'd still hit it though.

[Mrs. Tuberski]

I can say for my self that Tubers has to take call and when hes called out at 2 3 or 4 m i hve no problem with it. He knows that i have been on the call racket. I dont work staff jobs anymore so im not doing call but he still has too. Any woman that gets involved with a guy needs to respect the hours he is scheduled to work. If they cant then they should prolly hit the road.

[Tuberski]

Originally posted by Ted Striker
That's my pet peeve, like women that marry a tough guy, like a boxer or something, and then ask him to quit it because she is worried about him getting hurt. But what a man does for a living defines alot of who he is. Asking a boxer to quit boxing for example is like asking him for his balls back. It's just a big no no. Plus, part of the attraction to him in the first place was his toughness.

I'd be more than happy to quit working if Mrs. T told me to.



ACK!

[Ted Striker]

Originally posted by Mrs. Tuberski
I can say for my self that Tubers has to take call and when hes called out at 2 3 or 4 m i hve no problem with it. He knows that i have been on the call racket. I dont work staff jobs anymore so im not doing call but he still has too. Any woman that gets involved with a guy needs to respect the hours he is scheduled to work. If they cant then they should prolly hit the road.

[Ted Striker]

Originally posted by Tuberski


I'd be more than happy to quit working if Mrs. T told me to.



ACK!

That's the kind of setup I need to get too.

I'm tired of working. Even though I've gotten some nice raises and even a promotion!

Oh well, I should be thankful, my life is pretty spoiled, I don't have any problems. To be able to sit down and do NOTHING for 6 hours straight today was the bomb.

But being tired alot is not fun.

[Sikander]

Guy, may I be so bold as to suggest that light disposable women (I hear they can do wonderful things with polyester these days) are going to have to carry you through these tough years, as you really can't expect a quality woman to put up with your schedule and work stress. Even if you found someone who could do so, when things change for you (let's pray that they do) at work you may find that you are once again incompatible. Play the field and keep your options open until you can really commit the time necessary to have the relationship you really want. Then play for keeps.

[Sikander]

Re: Re: I have discovered my superpower!

Originally posted by Lazarus and the Gimp

Slamming your nuts in a car door is simple too, and probably less painful than that marriage would have been.

I'll take your word for that.

[Zulu Elephant]

Having just got dumped by the most crazy and illogical girl I've ever met, I vow to get out of any future relationship at the first sign of insanity (beyond the 'normal' level of girl insanity).

[Dr Strangelove]

Originally posted by Mrs. Tuberski
No offense guy but since i am a nurse i know how many hours you put in as a resident and good god i know I couldnt take it. I wouldnt accuse you of cheating but i know that id be a bit pissy if you were always working. Guess this is why my hubby aint in medicine. Good luck tho hope every thing works out for ya

Do you think it ends when residency ends? People get sick at all hours of the day and night. They'll call you to the ER for the most minor of problems. Even worse, they'll become emotionally dependent upon you or even become obsessed with you. Probably every doctor has had at least one patient in his career who, had he been a celebrity, would have been classified as a stalker.

[Flubber]

I agree with those that think you dumped her for having a pretty typical girl moment. She might have been feeling a little neglected and lashed out a bit . . . I wasn't there but your description of the event didn't indicate too much craziness and heck even before the discussion was over SHE was fine.

Don't expect perfection, you will never find it.

That said, the larger issue of what she wants and what you can provide is still out there. Maybe you simply aren't a fit right now if she can't handle the 80 hour weeks .. . but maybe you are-- she might have just been trying to express "I miss you" and expressed it badly. As I say, I wasn't there . . . only you knew how it went down.

For a LTR you need someone that is ok with your workpace. Until you find that, you will have to content yourself with meaningless sex

[Flubber]

Oh and it may be trite for a doc but marry a nurse!! I did and the fact that she does 12 hour shifts, nights and weekends ( even though she only works a 40 hour week) means she has a good appreciation for work scheduling.

A nurse is used to the idea that her potential boyfriends can't get away during the weekdays so with HER schedule there are probably only a couple of nights a week to get together anyway. Even though you are working double the hours, its both your schedules that get in the way. THis might sound bad but since its a problem for both, you don't get any resentment from one side.

It worked for me. In the early dating, Mrs Flubber might have to work 12 hours Sat and Sun-- so I went to work as well-- My 60 hour week went to 80 without interfering with dates at all-- I'm sure you can jiggle your schedule a little

[Kidlicious]

Re: I have discovered my superpower!

Originally posted by Guynemer
Attracting crazy women!

For the past two months, I've been dating this girl. Smart, funny, sweet, beautiful, good cook, into science, etc. Things have been going great, really great. And the sex has been, in a word, spectacular.

Many of you know my theory on sex: the crazier the girl, the better the sex. This was the first relationship I'd ever had which bucked the trend. She was completely normal, but an absolute savage in the sack. I figured she was either the glorious exception that proved my rule, or that she had so compartmentalized herself that she was deeply, deeply insane, and it just hadn't revealed itself yet.

Chock one up for the latter.

She turns to me today and says she wants to break up, because basically she doesn't trust me. What it boils down to essentially is that between my (apparently alleged) 80hr/wk job and the resulting fatigue, she doesn't believe me when I say I can't do something with her. Like I'd have the energy or the brains to have a second woman on the side.

During the course of this discussion, she did an about face and said she wanted to work things out; I decided that this would undoubtedly continue to be a problem, and I simply couldn't deal with it.


If only my ex-fiancee hadn't broken things off over a year go. Sure, I'd be trapped in a loveless marriage (or, rather, one-way marriage), but Christ on a crutch, life would be a whole lot simpler.

That's what you call crazy?! You must not have had much really spectacular sex.

[Guynemer]

Flubber--

No way, man. I have few rules, but one of them is this: NO NURSES.

I've spent the last year building up terrific relations with the nursing staff at the hospital. I think they genuinely like and respect me, much more so than many of the other residents.

But if I were to start dating one, and it ended badly? They could make my life absolute hell for the next two years.

[Theben]

I also think that she may have been saying "I miss you" the wrong way. However considering your last experience I'm not shocked by your response either. I don't know if the subject of your ex has come up (usually a no-no, but they always seem to ask), so I don't know if she expected this from you. Anyway, if you want to keep it talk to her and be honest, including how you feel about "out of the blue" accusations.

[dannubis]

ha, self imposed restrictions...

are there any of a more useless kind ?