What the bloody freaking HELL????!!

[Bkeela]

What a fascinating situation. Please remember to post and update Elok.

[Drake Tungsten]

It sounds to me what is probably the case here is that she may have decided that she doesn't like you or fiound you undesirable while dancing, she wanted to get away, and she talked bad about you to her friends. Then you come over to dance with her again, but she is one of those girls who is too "nice" to turn a guy and to say no herself, so her friend intervenes and acts tough and does the work of chasing away the unwanted guy for her.

Exactly. And the fact that it took several replies before this obvious answer was hit upon shows why you shouldn't seek advice on love here at Poly...

[Bugs ****ing Bunny]

Re: What the bloody freaking HELL????!!

Originally posted by Elok
I've come to realize perfectly well that I fall for girls too hard, too fast.

for once in my life I felt like a normal guy chatting up a pretty girl at a dance instead of awkward aspie guy on the outside.

I lost track of her after that, and spent like an hour sifting the crowds for her. I finally found her, she was dancing with her friends, I sort of awkwardly hung around for a while.

I asked her, meeting her outside the dance hall, if the next slow song could be ours for one last dance, because I know I can actually slow-dance without feeling ridiculous.

Does anybody have any guess what the deuce just happened there?

I'd say it was a killer combination of low confidence coupled with desperation, mixed with a healthy dollop of misreading the situation.

Walk away from that one.

[Elok]

I'm 21, SB. I sorta wondered if Shi's response was what happened at first, but she's usually frank, if polite...I'll ask her to just be honest, tell me if I was being too forward or if I'm just annoying or what.

[Pekka]

What is SB? sort of Bi?

[Elok]

SB=Self-Biased. He asked me my age. And in response to all the folks who said I should have fought, I seriously doubt that would have helped.

[Pekka]

Yes but are you Bi or not?

[Elok]

No, my compass only points North, Pekka, though how it's relevant to the current discussion is beyond me.

And on yet further reflection, I think I'll take Laz's advice. Whatever happened, she didn't do a thing to stop it from happening, and there's no sense in going through this much hassle and grief for a girl I'll never see again after May. Even if she is unbelievably cute.

[yaroslav]

Elok, sorry for the quesiton, what does mean aspie?

BTW, my full sympathy....

[Elok]

Asperger's Syndrome, a very mild form of autism. I'm one of two or three people on this board who has it. Thanks, I think I'll be okay.

[Shi Huangdi]

" I sorta wondered if Shi's response was what happened at first, but she's usually frank, if polite.."

Girls who can be pretty frank most of the time will often times not when it comes to guys who are interested in them.

You're doing the right thing, walking away is the correct situation.

[Barinthus]

Shrug. Sounds like the friend is over protective or they are all lesbos. Walking away was the option you had. Anything else would have made a fool out of you.

If you are really interested in that gal, approach her when her friends are not around and just get to know her. See what happens.

[pchang]

Try to start off by licking your eyebrows.

[Dr Strangelove]

Maybe the overly protective girl has had bad luck with boys, has nothing in the romance department going on, and is projecting her negative feelings about guys towards the girl you're interested in. Your girl may not have the moxie to assert herself and pull away from the other girl's influence.

[Last Conformist]

Originally posted by Elok
And in response to all the folks who said I should have fought, I seriously doubt that would have helped.

Probably not, but then that's not the purpose of fighting.