All The Lies That Are My Life, or, JohnT vs. his Parents.

[Elok]

My head hurts. What kind of neurotic schlep does that to his own kid?

[rah]

Yep, disgusting. This crap would never fly in my family, thank god. You have my sympathy.

[Starchild]

*gives JohnT a very alcoholic drink*

You're father sounds like mine. Lying, cheating, and no concept of family. Fortunately, I managed to cut off contact before he got involved with the pricey stuff like a car or university. The thought of relying on him for uni funding was terrifying, it's one of the reasons why I moved back to the UK.

Hang in there. Remember that even if the worst happens, ordering a "hit" won't set you back too much.

[Lincoln]

Just curious rah, How are you able to moderate all of the "vice" on this forum??

[rah]

Not 100% sure of the question, but the short answer is I can't.

[Flubber]

Hang in there Johnt . Its becoming obvious they are tring to shaft you. Your two chices are to take it or to fight back. I would fight.

I would also stop meeting with your Dad. He might even want to be reasonable on some level but then evil stepmom probably twists things, gets inside his head and convinces him you are the bad guy ( my perception is that she "runs" him. ) Any future meetings should be with the person in authority. I never negotiate with a person that does not have the authority to make a decision.

Oh and 185 an hour for the lawyer is peanuts if they can get it straightened out. EVERYBODY knows that lawyers are not paid enough LOL

Flubber LLB (member of the law society of Alberta)

[devilmunchkin]

geez! hang in there. your dad and **** of a step mom deserve to have their heads mounted on pikes. whatever the case, stand up for yourself and don't let them walk all over you...it will teach sophie to be strong like her dad......and know that all of us and poly are 2000% behind you.

[Imran Siddiqui]

Damn, John! I'm sorry, man. But, on the bright side, there is no way they are going to win jack in court.

[MichaeltheGreat]

Don't let the "family" crap get in the way.

It's emotional and psychological blackmail - your "antagonistic" tone, blah blah blah. You ingrate, all those times we bought you diapers and didn't charge you for it.

You have to treat this objectively as a business and financial issue, and let them treat it emotionally. When it's done with and disposed of, then you can deal with the emotional issues, etc.

Meanwhile, stick it to them, hard, every way you can.

(BTW, non-compete agreements are also generally argued against on violating Federal anti-trust laws. Been there, done that.)

[Shi Huangdi]

Good luck JohnT! I hope you hang in there vs. your truly evil parents.

[Japher]

I think it really suks that your daughter has to suffer (or at least not be able to see her gps) because of their actions.

I am sure your laywer has looked for loop holes in the contracts... As, for the letter your lawyer wrote, I think they are stalling, just dickin' with you some more. I would begin the paper work to file suit now, and not waste any more time than is necessary.

[monolith94]

Persevere, JohnT - and know that I am personally hoping that you win out in the end, and have been since you first started posting these threads.

[CyberGnu]

Man, I've been racking my brain trying to figure out if there is anything my parents could do to come even close to this... But I can;t come u with anything.

Of course, it helps living on a different continent....

Deepest sympathies. Maybe the best thing would be to go to court after all, that would provide a clean break and hopefully an opportunity to heal...

[JohnT]

A lot of replies... I'll tackle them 1 by 1.

Originally posted by Kropotkin
As I've followed this develop for some time now as you have posted it here I have to say that I get really upset each time I read what you write. I don't know if it's because they seems to be such mean and petty individuals that has nothing else to do with their lifes than to try to turn it into "days of our lifes" or that i fear that they are that kind of people that always wins in the end.

Oh, no, they're not going to win. Don't worry about that. And they are not the type of people that always wins in the end - your mistake is assuming that evil tends to triumph over good: not true. The strong (or strong willed, in this case) triumph over the weak... and they believed that I would collapse because of this.

No joke: I was told by a current employee that their idea was that I would need the money so badly that I would rescind my resignation: in short, they screwed me out of the money to force me to continue working there.

Good plan, buttmunches.

The flaw in their plan was a fundamental miscalculation of how I would react to all this, an underestimating of my will. My sister said that she is shocked at the ferocity of my attitude about the situation, and that she would've never guessed that I would've reacted this way.

If these people do not think that I will take them on in regards to this issue, then they are woefully mistaken. To do so would not be difficult: my father is a convicted thief (a fact that NOBODY in the company or industry knows), and my stepmother's reputation is so tattered that even their clients do not trust nor like her.

[JohnT]

Originally posted by SpencerH
That is nasty. Whew! Obviously, this is an outlet for you so you wont get my 2 cents, but you will get my commiserations.

How did the evil stepmother get 51% BTW?

Evil Stepmom #2* is a harridan of the highest order, a woman so cruel and vicious she even attacks the retarded with psychological and emotional weaponry as I discuss in one of the above-linked posts.

The "reasoning" is that there are tax advantages for Acme Inc. in being a minority owned Chapter-C incorporated business. There probably are advantages, but I don't know what they are.

*Yes, there is an Evil Stepmom #1. We'll not get into that right now, OK?